I said something awful to my DH

[Pixiedustandtwinkletoes6]

My DH has spent the majority of the day winding me up and annoying me on purpose.

I told him to stop as he was peeing me off and we started bickering. He thinks this is funny to do even when I tell him to stop.

I lost my temper and told him that I hope someone spits on him in work.

I'm mortified I said something so vile. I don't know where it came from.

I have a lot of anger in me at the moment for various things and ongoing mental health issues.

Waiting for treatment (not that this is an excuse.)

I apologised and he's gone out to watch the football all OK.

I'm ashamed and disgusted.

I was so happy when my DD finally ended her relationship that made her unhappy. My worries before that were around her staying and wasting her life in a relationship that wasn't healthy and made her sad so often.

The very best Christmas present you could give your mum is if you told her to pick you up now and take you to her house.

Bloody hell - are you making plans to leave too? He thinks it's funny to burn you with a hot spoon?!

@Pixiedustandtwinkletoes6
please speak to women's aid about how to plan leaving. He is abusing you and you deserve so much better

So, do you think that is the same as op’s situation then? You and your dh know you are joking but op’s husband is a bully.

I hope 'sorting it' means calling Mum and telling her you're coming home. I know the worries will fall from her shoulders.

As far as your sister, OK, I get she's in her own mess and you don't want to add to it. But right now you need to make yourself your first priority. So you may need to back away a bit from supporting her and supporting yourself.

My mum would have me back in one second if I ever had to leave, don't ever discount your parents. Mind have a now 2 bed house after knocking two floors down but they would have me and my 4 dc in a second. Something I've been pondering myself.

I've done all cooking, cleaning, laundry, childcare whilst studying and working for years and now I'm sick my husband's playing the poor me role. I'm pondering what to do...

OP, when are you going to start putting yourself first?

@Pixiedustandtwinkletoes6. To help you with your plan and take the worry of who will look after your cat Cats Protection have a programme called Lifeline. There are steps you can take that will get you closer to a safe way of leaving. You have the added complexity of your husband being in the police force so please get your plans in place and tell people about him.

https://refuge.org.uk/what-about-pets/#:~:text=Pets%20fostered%3A%20Cats%20Protection%20Lifeline,over%206%20months%20of%20age.

Sound like you were in the right to be honest. What a horrid man.

No but given I posted that comment early on in the thread before I knew the fuller context I’m sure I can be forgiven

I agreed with your post, not sure why you got so much flak.