To be really pissed off with nursery about this?

[Undertheladder]

I know I’ll probably be flamed for this but have been trying to potty train ds, obviously not very well. But FIVE piss wet through pants? He does pee on the potty when told, so AIBU to wonder wtf is going on?

I know you don't want to OP but I honestly would stop and try again in a few months. My DS was the last to potty train from my NCT group and we had two or three false starts from around 3 onwards where we'd try, he'd go on the potty if reminded but accidents, especially at the childminder. She wasn't happy to have him in pants until he was at the point of telling us he needed to go so we went back to nappies at least twice.

He suddenly started asking to use the loo, I can't remember how old he was but significantly older than the rest of his mates. Swapped to pants and there was no training involved, he just used the loo from then onward. I don't think he's had an accident at the childminder since then and only one or two at home, it was a doddle and we wished we'd waited in the first place.

Totally get why you want to get him trained but just from experience, when they're ready it's easy and done and dusted. I know a few others who've had the same experience, boys can be late to 'get it'.

He may well just one day decide that he's had enough of nappies and start using the loo. I'm trying to remember what we did now- I think^^ we had him in nappies but encouraged him to use the loo, let him see us going to the loo, gave great big effusive praise when he went and didn't make a big deal if he didn't. Then one day he made the decision- I can't remember if I suggested it might be nice to wear pants instead of nappies, maybe I did.

DS was definitely closer to 4 than 3 when he changed to pants. I read the thing about NT 3-y-olds being ready for potty training but mine really, really wasn't. I know he wasn't because it wouldn't have been so disastrous the first couple of times we tried 😆

When they are ready potty training is easy and done in a few days

When they aren't ready they have lots of accidents

I've potty trained many children in 20yrs + of nannying

When it came to my daughter o tried befire xmas so she was 2yr 9mths. Had 5 sets of wet clothes in few hours

I stopped

Started 3mths later when was just 3 and dry in a day. She has no accidents at all

As she was ready

Month or so later she was dry at night as nappy was always dry in am so took it off

Even now at almost 7 she has never set herself /had an accident and wees 630pm and won't go again till 8/830. So 14hrs. Bladder of a camel. I do say when she wakes am to go for a wee ans she says don't need one

Where I at 50 seem to wake 1/2 a night for a wee

You’ve tried everything but the 3 day, no pant method that several of us have posted about but you CBA with.

So you’ve not tried everything at all and now you’re wondering why you’ve lost patience.

It’s not about being “ready”, “ready” is a misnomer.

The thing is by 3 you’ve generally left it too late. By then they’ve gained enough will, independence and stubbornness to resist.

20-30 months is ideal because they generally just go along with it. The Oh Crap method is amazing, but age 3 is too old to do that method.