BF bought me a Xmas present instead of paying this month’s rent

[Jen133]

Hi all, thanks for listening

i have recently bought a flat with the intention of renting out my spare room to cover the costs. My boyfriend suggested instead, he moved in and paid £400 towards bills and food each month (the rental income would have been around £1100 had I got a lodger).

He gave me £300 last month, £100 short, but I let it slide.

He just presented me with a £400 watch for Christmas, which would be very generous, but it turns out that this gift is instead of his monthly payment.

Because he bought me such an expensive present, I rushed out and got him some clothes and took him out for a meal before realising this.

I’d like him to return the watch so that I can have the cash instead but he says I’m being ungrateful and ruining his nice gesture.

Ugh!

TLDR - boyfriend gave me a Xmas present instead of paying towards our bills and food this month. I want to take the present back and have the cash as I already sunk money into buying him something in return.

i would add if he is still with you, do your self a favour bin him, or we could do for you!

Too right.
Just noticed that immediately under this notification, the word
'UNWATCH' appears. A relevant portent perhaps?

It's better to find out what he's like now, than months or years down the line. He's a user. You'll have had a lucky escape. I'm not sure how old the relationship is, or what you ever saw in him, but he saw an easy ride, someone he could take advantage of. I'm glad you've come to your senses. He may put up a fight and not want to leave this easy arrangement. You have to stand firm. You can't build a relationship with a pathetic man. If he's like this now, can you imagine what he will be like when he gets really comfortable. Nightmare!