Page 8 | Night out. Husband mad

Slowlygoingmadcontinuously · 2023-12-20T01:23:35+00:00

So tonight I went out to the pub with some school mums. Wasn’t a secret, told husband I was going. Had a lovely time and was quite happy coming home. Got home to be confronted with husband standing waiting and shouting at me that youngest child wasn’t in bed as I was still out. Told him he is also the parent so surely it was his responsibility to put youngest to bed when he knew the situation. Totally ruined my night out and I’m angry at myself for getting upset as I feel like he should have taken responsibility and put our youngest (5th child so would hope he got a grip of it by now) to bed?!

Ahwhatthehell · 21/12/2023 14:32

Geppili · 20/12/2023 01:53

Weaponised incompetence in not getting kid to bed.
Trying to punish you for daring to have a life. Nasty.

Completely this.

SerafinasGoose · 21/12/2023 17:47

0MammaBear0 · 20/12/2023 11:19

Well marriages and relationships were much healthier and functional in the 1950s than in the 2020s; where there are more divorces than marriages, plummeting birth rates and a record number of women reaching 40 single and childless. Going to a nightclub or a pub late at night and consuming alcohol is not proper and I understand why her husband would be upset about it

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Findinganewme · 21/12/2023 21:25

This is so sad to read, because you’re questioning whether you’re wrong for taking a short break fully taking the parental load.

yes, your husband may have felt stressed out because it can be overwhelming for someone who doesn’t have to do it every day. This should be all the more reason for him to see why you need and deserve the break.

He is also a parent. You are also human. You are NOT being unreasonable.

TheBerry · 22/12/2023 08:25

Is there more to this story? Because yes he sounds clearly unreasonable. So unreasonable I wonder if there’s something else going on you B haven’t told us!!

If not, then… why are you with this man.

Yalta · 22/12/2023 08:39

*0MammaBear0 · 20/12/2023 11:19

Well marriages and relationships were much healthier and functional in the 1950s than in the 2020s; where there are more divorces than marriages, plummeting birth rates and a record number of women reaching 40 single and childless. Going to a nightclub or a pub late at night and consuming alcohol is not proper and I understand why her husband would be upset about it*

As women were very much 2nd class citizens even in the workplace the salaries for a job were advertised with men’s wages and the lower women’s wages
We weren’t allowed credit cards. Mortgages and loans we had to have male guarantors and weren’t subject to the same ratings as men.

Divorce was difficult because we lacked any sort of parity with men. Just because there were fewer divorces didn’t mean that there were more healthy marriages

As for going to a nightclub or a pub late at night and consuming alcohol is not proper. It is absolutely proper. Why on earth wouldn’t it proper.
Are you expecting women who go to work and earn their money to only go out during daylight hours and don’t drink anything stronger than tea.

BowlOfNoodles · 22/12/2023 08:51

It was how date you enjoy yourself

DottyLottieLou · 22/12/2023 09:01

He is punishing you for going out. You are the one who should be annoyed, with him. Dont let him get away with it. Manipulation and gaslighting.

Devon23 · 22/12/2023 09:11

Trying to clip your wings and enforce control - I would put him in his place and ensure you go out more often.

Notwiththebullshizz · 22/12/2023 09:15

Absolute Ahole. He is being like this because you've gone out. Full stop. I'm super petty so that would be my green light to arrange a couple more nights out, just to piss him off. I couldn't deal with that. My partner and I and both full time workers, both do the house work (I think he actually does more than me 🙈) and both have responsibilities for the kids.. he made them too, so he has to he proactive in their lives... if he was not and was acting like how you're saying your husband does, I'd just leave... you're a single parent anyways so what's the difference?

Tell him to sort himself out or else you're off. How DARE he make you feel like that!!!

Hollybobs1 · 22/12/2023 09:19

Sounds like he's punishing you for "daring" to have a social life. My partner works full time while I'm off on maternity leave and he does the bed times as he doesn't see the kids all day so he enjoys that quality time with them. He's a lazy so and so. You need to tell him to get off his arse and start parenting his children.

1983Louise · 22/12/2023 09:31

I think.plain and simply he was jealous of you going out, which is a shame as you would hope he'd be happy you were having a good time with friends.

ScattyGinger · 22/12/2023 10:16

My kids could be a nightmare and not settle if I was out. My husband used to just get them in their pyjamas and pop them in bed with him to watch a film. I'd often get home and sleep in the kids room as they were all fast asleep in our bed. Even if they won't sleep you can still keep them calm, and take the time to sit with them. Your husband sounds like he was purposely being a bit of an arse. Get your next night out arranged. Maybe he will then get the hang of it.

EmmyA87 · 22/12/2023 15:13

Agree! It took my husband 3 kids to get the bedtime regime down. I left him to it as I was slowly losing my mind trying to do the dinner dishes, bath time and then bedtime routine. He doesn’t mind it now as he works lates most nights so is out to work just as the kids come home from school so it’s his chance to have a little catch up with them. I love it as it means I can sneak a biccy or two in whilst I scroll TikTok 👍🏼

Rollergirl999 · 23/12/2023 13:54

Why on earth would you have 5 children with someone who doesn’t do much parenting?

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Slowlygoingmadcontinuously · 24/12/2023 01:06

I’ve just logged in again and see all the supportive comments. I’m very grateful.

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Crikeyisthatthetime · 24/12/2023 16:26

How are you doing OP?

purplehair1 · 26/12/2023 23:10

Well marriages and relationships were much healthier and functional in the 1950s than in the 2020s; where there are more divorces than marriages, plummeting birth rates and a record number of women reaching 40 single and childless. Going to a nightclub or a pub late at night and consuming alcohol is not proper and I understand why her husband would be upset about it -

but it’s fine for a husband to do? Troll?