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AIBU - neighbour fallout

227 replies

mrsclaus1984 · 20/12/2023 00:52

I really don’t think I’ve done anything wrong here, but it’s weighing on my mind a lot so here I am…!

Recently, a small business in our village held a charity raffle to win a fairly high-end beauty product (worth approx £300). I didn’t actually know about this raffle until my next door neighbour mentioned it to me - (I personally have never used this business before so did not see that they had been advertising the raffle on their social media as I don’t follow them.)

The prize was something that I would love to have anyway, and so I entered the raffle.

I was very surprised to receive a phone call a couple of days ago to be told that I had won it! I went in to collect it. They asked if I would mind having my photo taken with the prize, and for the photo to be posted on their social media, which I was fine about. I was really pleased, I never win anything and it truly made my day!

They were completely lovely to me when I went into collect it, that I may well start using this business regularly now.

Anyway - this is where it all went a bit wrong ..
the following day, I bumped into my neighbour whilst having just left the house to walk the dog. Before I could say anything to her, she said to me, ‘I see you are the winner of the raffle then’ in quite a cool tone.. I replied, and told her that yes, I was really pleased and very thankful ..

The conversation was very quick as it was raining and I didn’t want to hang around, and to be honest, I didn’t give it much more thought after this.

But… I was absolutely gobsmacked to get a knock on the door this evening, from my neighbour. As it happens, I was going to deliver her Christmas card tonight anyway, and so I had it on the table by our front door so when she opened the door I said hi and said something along the lines of ‘oh while you’re here, let me give you this’.. and proceeded to try to give her the card, but she replied with, “ yeah, you can keep it… You realise that, if it hadn’t been for me, you would never have even known about the raffle, right?”…. I was a bit taken back by this, and I told her that I was grateful she had let me know about it. To which she said to me that I should be giving HER the prize because she had told me about it in the first place….! I laughed because I actually thought she was joking… but no, she was being completely serious..!

She said that because she is a single mum, it would have been very useful to her because she would’ve just sold it, and made herself a couple of hundred pounds towards Christmas. She then proceeded to tell me that I’m being completely selfish by not giving her the prize. Before I could say anything, she turned around and walked off..

Literally can somebody help me out here .. I haven’t done anything wrong, have I?!

I do have a tendency to overthink things, but I actually don’t think I am BU here??

Idly wondering if I should gift her the item for Christmas, as honestly cannot stand the thought of having any issues with neighbours..

OP posts:
Fundays12 · 22/12/2023 12:03

Your neighbour is nuts. She didn't win the prize end of. Enjoy your prize

Pinkypup · 22/12/2023 12:10

She’s batshit crazy, you’ve done nothing wrong!

what if you’d never heard of the lottery before and she told you about it and you won the jackpot…would she be entitled to it?? NO!!!

move on with your life, you don’t need that crazy in it!

vickylou78 · 22/12/2023 12:14

You entered a raffle. You won the raffle. Someone had to win. Neighbour didn't win. She's throwing toys out of pram like a toddler! Op I think your neighbour is having a tough time and isn't thinking clearly. Hopefully they'll come to their senses after Christmas once the stress has subsided.

AliceDownTheRabbitHole · 22/12/2023 12:20

Would the reverse also work? So, if you hadn't won, you could go around to hers and demand the money you spent on the raffle ticket as it was her fault you entered!?

mottytotty · 22/12/2023 12:28

This is why why I don't give scratchcards as Secret Santa gifts, I would get the right hump if the recipient won more than £50 😂

Katbum · 22/12/2023 12:35

Your neighbour is insane. I’d avoid her in future and be quick to call the authorities if she steps into your home again.

Pusheen467 · 22/12/2023 12:38

She's being a twat. Her numbers didn't win and even if you hadn't entered she still wouldn't have won.

MrsMarvelous · 22/12/2023 12:39

You have done nothing wrong. You do not owe her anything. The prize was won fairly and was meant for someone to use and enjoy it, not sell it. It is just jealousy pure and simple. You saw this lady's true colours.

WickedSerious · 22/12/2023 12:42

I'd gift her the grand total of fuck all.

Viviennemary · 22/12/2023 12:55

She is cheeky for asking. However, shame you can't share the treatments. But her attitude is all wrong.

RichardAdad · 22/12/2023 13:03

You’re not an arse, she’s mental!! Ignore the insults and try and offer the hand of friendship!

rainbowstardrops · 22/12/2023 13:14

I wouldn't give her any of it because she's already said she would have sold it!
If she can manage to go on holiday several times in one year then she should have budgeted for Christmas better! She's batshit.

ALJT · 22/12/2023 13:47

I don’t know if I’m too short tempered for this but it would have been 2 words… started with F and ended with F and door slammed in her face. The cheek of her

threatmatrix · 22/12/2023 14:19

The words ‘fuvk off’ come to mind.

Bernieee · 22/12/2023 17:04

Someone’s been drinking the coolaid. Shes crazy! Don’t give her the prize.

Missingpop · 22/12/2023 19:05

Do not give it to the vile old cow just because she wants it talk about being entitled what a vile person; I’d just forget it; what would she have done if Doris from the sheltered accommodation won it? Gone round with a crow bar to wrench it out of her walking frame; god I cannot stand such vile people; she really believes she would have won it if you had not entered; stupid bitch is off her fecking rocker 😂😂😂

Ginandjuice57884 · 22/12/2023 19:47

Sell it on marketplace 😂

Ghostwritersinc · 22/12/2023 21:00

Well if this is how the world works;
there is a lottery draw this week, don’t forget to buy a ticket, and when you win, you should be giving the price to me because without me, you wouldn’t know about it would you… Also I dont actually want the prize, I want to sell it to make more money.
It’s a tight Christmas here you know. 😂😂😂

mrsclaus1984 · 23/12/2023 01:41

Thought I’d come back and update.. saw her earlier… she waved and smiled like nothing was wrong… what the….

OP posts:
SpecialCharacters · 23/12/2023 02:42

Well this is a bit awkward…

OP, I’m the one who told your neighbour about the raffle, so really the prize is mine.

Will PM your my address for shipping.

Ilovecleaning · 23/12/2023 05:07

This is not as batty as OPs neighbour but a relative-through-marriage (entitled and thick as pig 💩) was talking to someone who mentioned she needed a Builder. Relative gave her number of friend who is a Builder. Builder did the work and was paid. Relative was angry because BuilderFriend did not offer a cut for passing on his number.
Relative asked me “Don’t you think he should have given me some cash when he got paid?” I said “Well, no actually…I don’t…” She was annoyed with me. I couldn’t care less. Bloody idiot. 🤣

Ilovecleaning · 23/12/2023 05:19

mrsclaus1984 · 23/12/2023 01:41

Thought I’d come back and update.. saw her earlier… she waved and smiled like nothing was wrong… what the….

Crackpot! Steer clear.

Nearlythere80 · 23/12/2023 06:53

SpecialCharacters · 23/12/2023 02:42

Well this is a bit awkward…

OP, I’m the one who told your neighbour about the raffle, so really the prize is mine.

Will PM your my address for shipping.

Ha!

Mumofferralkid3 · 23/12/2023 08:56

I would cut ties. If you did gift it to her, you would be setting a presidence. She will do it to you time and time again.

laraitopbanana · 23/12/2023 11:25

Pfffiou!! She realized 🤣🤣 just move on.

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