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Would you say yes if at front of line and was asked to let a disabled child first ?

230 replies

Nearlyfinished2023 · 19/12/2023 16:06

Today my DD with her aunt went to some Xmas pop up thing, which had a character meet n Greet with one of her fav characters.
her rang me on the way home whilst I was talking with a friend and said how when they got there the line was massive and she took DD to the front to speak to the lady ( DD has visible tubes ) to ask how long the wait was in which they replied 2 hours. Aunt told DD there was no way she would stand in that cold for 2 hours and that maybe they could do something else. The worker then asked the front people if they didn’t mind if they Let her quickly run in to do the meet and greet, they were fine with this and DD got to go in.
my friend was mortified 😂 she was like I would be fuming and what about the people behind the first family what if they cared ?
she thinks it was very unfair as it was such a long line that everyone had to wait.
would you have minded ?

OP posts:
Catza · 19/12/2023 16:08

Of course nobody would mind (apart from your "friend" it seems). It probably took 5 minutes tops.

RatherBeRiding · 19/12/2023 16:09

Of course I wouldn't have minded! Can't imagine anyone would mind allowing a child with an obvious illness/disability go first rather than making them queue for 2 hours in cold weather.

Sauvblanctime · 19/12/2023 16:09

Na I’d be fine with that

PhulNana · 19/12/2023 16:10

Peace and goodwill - good example of kindness in action for the waiting kids - what's not to like?

DramaAlpaca · 19/12/2023 16:10

I wouldn't have minded at all.

Stresa22 · 19/12/2023 16:10

No way would I mind. Even if it wasn’t Christmas it’s such a small act of kindness for a disabled child.

Sunshinebuttercupsrainbows · 19/12/2023 16:11

Usually if you get in touch beforehand they’ll arrange for disabled children to go first anyway so no your aunt was fine to do what she did. This is what accessibility is all about.

Letsgetouttahere2023 · 19/12/2023 16:11

That's unfair. If your dd isn't well enough to wait you should have arranged with the organisers to come back at another scheduled time rather than let her push in front of little kids who've been waiting 2hrs in the cold, that's out of order

marmaladeandpeanutbutter · 19/12/2023 16:12

I'd be fine with it. Why can't she be spontaneous like everyone else can choose to be.

PonyPatter44 · 19/12/2023 16:12

It would be a very petty, small-minded person who objected to this I expect they will appear on this thread shortly. I hope your DD had a lovely time.

Gnomegnomegnome · 19/12/2023 16:12

Not at all!

Your friend is an idiot

CurlewKate · 19/12/2023 16:12

I hope I would have thought to suggest it...

Thegoodbadandugly · 19/12/2023 16:12

Absolutely would not have minded your friend sounds like a very twatty person!

Fannyfiggs · 19/12/2023 16:12

I would not mind and would actively encourage any less abled person to go to the front of the queue.

ColleenDonaghy · 19/12/2023 16:12

Nah that's absolutely fine. Glad she got in, hope they had fun!

Sexlivesofthepotatomen · 19/12/2023 16:13

PonyPatter44 · 19/12/2023 16:12

It would be a very petty, small-minded person who objected to this I expect they will appear on this thread shortly. I hope your DD had a lovely time.

Too late

Sauvblanctime · 19/12/2023 16:13

PonyPatter44 · 19/12/2023 16:12

It would be a very petty, small-minded person who objected to this I expect they will appear on this thread shortly. I hope your DD had a lovely time.

Check two above you 🤣

Sauvblanctime · 19/12/2023 16:13

Letsgetouttahere2023 · 19/12/2023 16:11

That's unfair. If your dd isn't well enough to wait you should have arranged with the organisers to come back at another scheduled time rather than let her push in front of little kids who've been waiting 2hrs in the cold, that's out of order

You seem friendly 🫣

Fannyfiggs · 19/12/2023 16:14

Letsgetouttahere2023 · 19/12/2023 16:11

That's unfair. If your dd isn't well enough to wait you should have arranged with the organisers to come back at another scheduled time rather than let her push in front of little kids who've been waiting 2hrs in the cold, that's out of order

They're here already 🙄

Ohnonoohoh · 19/12/2023 16:14

Letsgetouttahere2023 · 19/12/2023 16:11

That's unfair. If your dd isn't well enough to wait you should have arranged with the organisers to come back at another scheduled time rather than let her push in front of little kids who've been waiting 2hrs in the cold, that's out of order

But even if she came back at an arranged time shed still end up pushing infront of people surely?

I wouldnt mind at all, I have 2 DC who are classed as disabled and I do whatever I can to make their lives easier ( we dont go to the front of queues before anyone asks )

I feel like disabled children/people have already been given the short straw of life so why wouldnt we want to help them, even if it's just 5 minutes of our time

Oldandcobwebby · 19/12/2023 16:14

So your "friend" wouldn't cut a bit of slack to a disabled child, even though she knows (by knowing you) the problems such a child can have? Bloody hell, what a piece of work she is! I'm really having trouble processing just how horrible her attitude is.

Fannyfiggs · 19/12/2023 16:15

Is Letsgetouttahere2023 your friend OP?

AgnesX · 19/12/2023 16:15

In that sort of example I wouldn't have any objections. It's obvious that the child has a serious disability.

Kind of feel that perhaps managed, timed entrance in that sort of situation would help. Especially with the "eh wot" types.

MarkWithaC · 19/12/2023 16:17

Of course YANBU. I hope if I were near the front of that queue with a non-disabled child I would suggest your DD and aunt went before me.

Spatchcocked · 19/12/2023 16:18

No I wouldn’t have minded, would have happily offered. I know a disabled kid isn’t always going to be able to wait for the same length of time, and I would like to do what I can to ensure they also got to have the experience.

The event could have been better managed by the sound of things though!