To just not send in a packed lunch?

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Ds is 3, started at a preschool in September. All fine, except it’s a packed lunch and ds doesn’t eat it. Every time he goes I send him with a sandwich, fruit and crisps and every time he comes back with the crisps eaten and nothing else.

I definitely don’t want to be That Parent and the staff are lovely and I don’t want to risk antagonising them, but I can’t see the point of wasting food. It’s also one more thing to do and I know it doesn’t take long but that’s not the point. Would it really be unreasonable to just not bother? It looks neglectful I know but equally what’s the point of sending in food for the sake of it?

I wouldn't bother trying, it's nigh on impossible trying to reason with the arrogant and ignorant 😁

Cor there are some judgy comments on this thread aren’t there. My boy is also fussy at school and lunch is the hardest to solve with him. He’s a big and varied eater at home but won’t eat school dinner either. He is autistic though so slightly different. We send in things like seeded mini pretzels, breadsticks, lots of sliced fruit and flapjack bars, banana and date bars and staff make sure he is motivated to sit and eat something each day. They also offer him the school meal each day too.

my sons have arfid- I provide food he likes and argue a lot over his need to have basic nutrition.

A child that age should not be going all day on just a bag of crisps. You and nursery need to be working together on you getting a lunch he likes and them getting him to eat it. Not feeding your child is neglect.

What prompted you to add your nugget of advice nearly 6 months after this thread was started/op's last post @stichguru ?

Remove crisps, he prob eats them slowly then lunch over