Women with twat husbands

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Just don’t get it! So many mates complain they’re husbands are lazy, they not happy; I mean one had a husband who was doing coke behind their backs and she then took him back! Wtf do they have no respect for themselves?
I just couldn’t live or trust somone like that. Am I being unreasonable?

Mine is a twat. Sadly.

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You know what, I know just a many men with twat wives, they don't work, spend all his money, so I really think it works both ways, I think sometime people are just twats.

The day my ex husband told me I should be grateful because he doesn’t hit me was the day my marriage ended. I understand why people work on their marriage I mean I was married for 27 years but being out of it now I know how unhappy I was. I think it’s an individual choice but it is scary starting out again on your own. The ex is already living with another woman who I quote “has his tea on the table”. Yet I confess to being rather scared about getting into another relationship, I don’t want to lose myself again plus it’s hard to trust anyone again. My ex blamed his behaviour on the fact that I was grieving too much. I lost my 7 year old son to Covid in April 2022 my marriage ended Feb 2023.

I just come home to my nice peaceful home with my dogs and enjoy the fact that I don’t have to please or put up with any shit, it’s heaven, if I need anything doing I just pay a tradesman, I don’t have patience with men, I like them but don’t want any in my space, their not worth the aggro of disturbing my peace

I feel sorry for you. Almost all the husbands (and couples) I know are great. No divorces in our friend group, with most married for over 20 years. I think you need a new friend group.

My dad was fucking awful when I was growing up, I’m single and staying that way. The damage it can do and I wasn’t beaten or abused, just grew up with a true misogynist.

Can you divulge anymore? I think I had the same!

A Pp said it’s society’s conditioning which is strange to me, it’s not law, why follow some sort of conditioning if it doesn’t serve you? Have always been non-conformist and knew from very early on that I’d be independent and I am, with a daughter, mortgage and full time but not well paid job and it’s really hard, especially at this time of year, but having been in crap relationships I know what I’m doing is right for me and I wouldn’t last a day with a twat partner now, I have peace of mind that I’m not compromising my integrity and feel so sad and angry about women in what are very obviously abusive relationships, as shown by so many on this site

@TheSuggestedAmendment

Literally all the husbands I know are awful. Awful

There are some absolutely wonderful husbands out there, don’t tar everyone with the same brush

Most men are twats. I thought mine was the best man I’ve ever known and 7 years later I’m thinking he might just be another twat! But rose tinted spectacles helped me in the beginning when he went to a strip club, let his mum treat me like shit and was planning on going to a gig with another woman! Honestly this guy on the surface though is so loved by everyone because of how ‘nice’ he is! So it makes you put up with the shit because they can be nice. My last relationship was abusive though so again in comparison it’s ‘not that bad’. I think every man is on the twatometer there are just variations!

@restingbitchface30

A lot of women out there aren’t exactly perfect wives either.

Same.

Wtf do they have no respect for themselves?

what a nasty post. Relationships are complex. Many women are in abusive relationships, financially abused etc. No means to move on alone. shameful victim blaming.

I'm with you there, going through the same thing... Can I ask, does it make you feel stuck and tied down? Our marriage has never been 100% (I married an older man, I had no confidence at all due to maternal grandmother putting me down all my life, long story!) I lost my dad recently... He was pretty well off and I will receive half of a decent inheritance, hopefully enough to set myself up... And I'll be off... I've recently found a couple of things out, by pure accident, that's made me question the last 33 years with him... I'm not prepared to have another year like the last 13 at least. I'm staying with my friend and her hubby right now, it was one of our regular planned weekends anyway. I've had a massive heart to heart and I told her things about our marriage that I've never said out loud before... She's absolutely shocked... And says I need to get out and have a decent life... But I'll have to play the game and bide my time until my dads estate is sorted, because I don't have my own income... We've no kids and had the money not been an issue, I'd have long gone... Hubby seems oblivious to how he is... I'm sure my announcement when the time comes will shock him... I've gone from being in love with him, to loving him, to caring about him, to nothing... I've basically put up and shut up, it's a very very long story, but he's systematically chipped away at anything I felt for him... And now I can't wait to get stuff organised and go... With my half of the house... 🤗🤗🤗❤❤❤

Bloody love it!!! Girl power!!! 🤗🤗🤗❤❤❤

Congratulations!!!

Should you not get a separation agreement or financial order in place before your dads estate is sorted so he can't touch it?

I am with a great man but I am totally flabbergasted by some of the things female friends tell me about their husbands. Pretty much always to do with checking out of family life, putting themselves first (always), staying out late with friends, getting hammered too often, "working" too much, dedicating all their time to hobbies, being lazy, etc etc from what I can tell, women stay with them because of money, mostly.

The more lesbians the better, IMO.

I never said they were, some women are right up there too

Reading threads on MN would make you believe a disproportionate number of men are twats. And many women have extremely low standards in terms of what they tolerate.

In RL, we know only 1 or 2 men we judge as terrible husbands in our huge circle of friends. Most men we know are good guys.

Why do you stay?

I had a twat husband once. It took a couple of years for the twattiness to become apparent, he was a lying twat. So I left him and found a much better non-twat husband. It can be done 😊

😂At the title.

My now ex best friend of several decades has a twatty husband. It’s quite astonishing what was blaringly obvious once you’re removed from the situation.

He has single handedly removed several people from her life myself included and she is totally oblivious.

I have since been told by his best mate that the twat husband sent a nude of his wife to him. She has no idea.

I hope she realises one day what a monumental twat he is.

Sometimes it’s hard to get out of a relationship, I’m not happy in my relationship but I stay because I have nowhere else to go, it’s his house, I have no family or friends around, I just do everything in the house, get home from work don’t even take my coat off & I’m cooking even though he has been off work, my days off consist of housework he doesn’t do. I need to find somewhere else in the new year, but I’m scared of him, he has been violent to me in the past. It’s a vicious circle.