To be so irritated by women who have perfectly healthy pregnancies behaving like ...

[jellystitch]

They're dying of a disease or
They're the first woman in the world to have a baby it they think that their labour, delivery and expectant child is going to be hugely complicated despite having absolutely nothing medical reason to think as such? Perfectly healthy expectant young mums.
Maybe I'm just unlucky to be working with many of these...
It's not anxiety related. It's like an attention seeking thing.

YABVU.

I was a healthy young woman of 27 in her second 'uncomplicated' pregnancy. I very nearly died shortly after the birth.

Why do you feel the need to be nasty towards these women?

I am speaking about women who are currently pregnant and have no reason to be concerned considering their pregnancies are going very well and the women are very healthy.
Not my intention to be nasty. It is the continuous talking about these imagined complications and how they are high risk despite not being at all, whatsoever.

How could you possibly know it’s an attention seeking thing and not an anxiety thing? These women could be absolutely terrified of giving birth. You can’t read their minds.

I know them very well and when we chat , they are quite factual in their opinions and are adamant that they are not anxious, just different to every other pregnant woman.

Even healthy pregnancies are tough going on the body. It's also normal to be anxious about the next stages and the impending birth.

Are you their doctor? If not, maybe there’s a chance you know less about their medical circumstances than they do.

If you're working with 'many' women like this then the problem is your lack of empathy not thier pregnancy.

Eh? For most women, even if healthy, pregnancy is pretty uncomfortable for various reasons.

What is the bee in your bonnet - do you feel they are stealing your thunder because your pregnancy was "objectively" worse (how could you know?), or have you not been pregnant?

You should have put a poll up.

YABU

maybe you should educate yourself about the statistics of women who still die during childbirth in many other countries, ‘perfectly healthy’ pregnancies or not.

Really hope you aren't a midwife. Have you seen the news regarding some terrible cases and generally the state of maternity provision in this country? The standards a lot of areas are poor.

Have you ever been pregnant OP?

If you don't intend to be nasty I'd hate to be around when you do intend to. Such spite for these women who have done nothing to hurt you?

What a lovely, warm empathetic post yours is OP. 🙄

Sorry but I agree you are being unreasonable. Giving birth is a massive deal, really hard to imagine beforehand so hard to prepare for but you know you will have to go through it, and daunting even if you've gone through it before.
Have you given birth op?

Intentional or not. You’re being fucking nasty

I hate people who do the whole I had a worse pregnancy/ birth than you. But I leave them to it. There is so much I haven't shared about my experiences, so how do I know exactly what they experienced?

I'm ready to listen to people who talk about their own experiences, whether they found it hard or simple.

As long as nobody tries to compare and dismisse my experience, I'm happy sharing.

It's perfectly normal for women to be scared and anxious about child birth.

Well I bloody well was!! And I don't think I'm particularly dramatic or attention seeking.

I think part of the issue is the availability of information, online.

Then the fact that organisations try to highlight the risk of things, even if they're not common, to make people aware and make sure they report their symptoms quickly.

Those things make some women hyper aware of/concerned about things they would not even have been aware of pre information age.

I put it in the same bracket as vaccination "awareness"/worrying.

@jellystitch

you used the word irritated. That’s nasty. I’

I understand what you're saying. They act as though being pregnant is a disability and they need all sorts of pampering that realistically they don't need. I think some women just like being a damsel in distress and pregnancy brings it it big time🤣

Lots of people have health anxiety, for some there is a performative element but childbirth actually is really dangerous no matter who you are. It used to be a huge killer before specialist hospital care was developed. It’s also, I imagine (I personally am not healthy enough to have a child safely and have been rendered infertile by health issues anyway) really scary to undergo the bodily transformation of pregnancy for some if not most women. I agree it’s annoying when eg people parade around talking about IBS or coeliac or mental health issues when they transparently haven’t got them, for example, but it doesn’t actually cause me a problem so it’s not worth getting annoyed over really.

I had gestational diabetes - I didn't tell many people about it. What makes you think you know everything about what is going on for these women, even if they do discuss some things with you?
I also developed severe pre eclampsia with little to no warning and both me and baby almost died - pregnancy is extremely hard on a woman's body, even without potential complications.

I have four children and have had four pregnancies.
I'm not a martyr but I certainly did not spend my day having nothing thing to say only how complicated and unusual my pregnancies were , when they were not , as none of these women's are either.

YABU, are in the wrong job, and frankly you just don’t sound like a nice person. And any pregnancy go wrong at any time, nobody should assume that because they’re young and healthy that they’re immune to pregnancy problems.

Well good for you, best pregnant woman ever 👏