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Frisate · 10/12/2023 12:50

Are you ignorant about all the maternity scandals going on in this country? You must be, because the state of infant and maternal health in the UK at the moment is absolutely appalling and every pregnant women with a head on her shoulders has reasons to be concerned. Your post is honestly outrageous and what concerns me the most is that the way you word things make it sound like you might work with pregnant women in a professional setting - maybe you’re a midwife - and therefore you’re very much one of the reasons why the women you’re criticising, have very valid reasons to be anxious. Honestly, even if that’s not the case, shame on you. Deeply ridiculous, shameful and ignorant claims, do better.

Devonshiregal · 10/12/2023 12:51

Omg. Because to them it IS the most unusual pregnancy ever - it’s not like one does it every day!

they’re preparing to push a ruddy great human out of their hooha and you’re irritated by them thinking they’re special?

lord it’s the only time the world treats you as special so they’re just indulging that.

women die in childbirth due to people not listening to them you know

LakeTiticaca · 10/12/2023 12:55

Pregnancy can be an anxious time, especially for first time mums.
It's probably a bit draining listening to it day in day out but no real need to be nasty about it.
It's OK for pregnant women to worry about possible complications, dontcha know!!

ThereSnowLimit · 10/12/2023 13:00

Pregnancy, especially first time around, is a huge and all encompassing event for lots of women.

I don’t understand why you’re so angry?!

willWillSmithsmith · 10/12/2023 13:06

Maybe you should just get your head down and work rather than taking part in or involving yourself in this work chatter?

erikbloodaxe · 10/12/2023 13:17

I agree OP. It's not an illness.

lemmein · 10/12/2023 13:24

I had my children really young and was largely anxiety free. I suppose the naivety of youth protected me in a way because it didn't even occur to me that something could go wrong. This was pre-internet too so access to other peoples experiences was limited to your own social circle.

Fast forward 25 years, my DD was due to have a baby and I was a nervous wreck that something would go wrong. I've been on the planet long enough to know that a healthy pregnancy doesn't always lead to a straightforward, healthy birth/baby. A friend of mine (unexpectedly) lost her baby girl a few hours after birth when my DD was due - it happens and you have zero control over it, that shit is scary!

If you don't wanna hear it don't engage but ffs try to have a little bit of empathy.

Emeraldsanddiamonds · 10/12/2023 13:28

I had an elective Caesarean. I think the specialist had a very bad feeling. I had a prolapsed cord so it saved my son. Even normal healthy pregnancies can go wrong very quickly.

Floooooof · 10/12/2023 13:28

I can't stand people who pretend pregnancy and childbirth is easy

Malarandras · 10/12/2023 13:32

Pregnancy isn’t an illness correct. I felt horrifically ill throughout both pregnancies. It was horrendous. What matters is how it impacts on women not the fact that it’s not technically an illness. If you don’t get that then maybe keep your opinions to yourself, if you don’t it just shows you up for the nasty person you are.

FreshWinterMorning · 10/12/2023 13:33

OMG @jellystitch try to have some empathy and kindness. YABVVU!

Owlsoutsidethewindow · 10/12/2023 13:35

I agree OP. It's not an illness.

Potential pregnancy issues:
Gestational diabetes
Pre-eclampsia
Heavy bleeding resulting in iron deficiency
SPD/PGP meaning movement issues and pain
Round ligament pain
Hyperemesis
Waters breaking early resulting in increased infection risk
These are just a few. Not specifying which I had as it is too outing.
But your post basically says "tell me you had an easy pregnancy without telling me you had an easy pregnancy". So ignorant.

SammyScrounge · 10/12/2023 13:37

jellystitch · 10/12/2023 11:42

They're dying of a disease or
They're the first woman in the world to have a baby it they think that their labour, delivery and expectant child is going to be hugely complicated despite having absolutely nothing medical reason to think as such? Perfectly healthy expectant young mums.
Maybe I'm just unlucky to be working with many of these...
It's not anxiety related. It's like an attention seeking thing.

It's the expectant mothers you work with who are unlucky if your attitude shows.

FreshWinterMorning · 10/12/2023 13:39

Owlsoutsidethewindow · 10/12/2023 13:35

I agree OP. It's not an illness.

Potential pregnancy issues:
Gestational diabetes
Pre-eclampsia
Heavy bleeding resulting in iron deficiency
SPD/PGP meaning movement issues and pain
Round ligament pain
Hyperemesis
Waters breaking early resulting in increased infection risk
These are just a few. Not specifying which I had as it is too outing.
But your post basically says "tell me you had an easy pregnancy without telling me you had an easy pregnancy". So ignorant.

This. ^ The whole thread is a disgrace quite frankly.

TheaBrandt · 10/12/2023 13:41

What a horrible post. I felt like absolute death for the first 4 months of both my pregnancies then ended up on crutches with spd in the last month of one. Lucky you to sail through.

LemonLight · 10/12/2023 13:44

YABVU people like you are the worst and make pregnant women feel like they're not being heard while they're struggling through pregnancy which is hard even on healthy people. You have no idea what each individual is going through.

Spinner12345 · 10/12/2023 13:44

I thought pregnancy would be a breeze other than a bit of sickness early on. I was shocked at how difficult I found it and have an entirely new respect for pregnant women. As others have said maternity services are dire at the moment and lots of women are finding it very worrying during pregnancy

Tryingtohelp12 · 10/12/2023 13:45

I didn’t read it as unsympathetic. I feel the opposite. I’m at the end of my third healthy pregnancy and am up of being treated as though I shouldn’t move or carry a bag. It’s meant with kindness but I feel offended as if people believe I would do things to risk my child’s health!! I must say at least 3 times a week I’m pregnant not sick!!!
that being said I have friends who’ve had incredibly challenging pregnancies and I have so much sympathy for them and know I’m very lucky.

TheKeatingFive · 10/12/2023 13:46

God, what a horrible OP. Societies attitude to pregnant women is disgusting.

LadyGrinningSoul85 · 10/12/2023 13:47

This REEKS of green eyed monster.
Yabu and need to grow up and butt out too.

babysharkdoodoodedoodedoo · 10/12/2023 13:48

You are being SO unreasonable. Even a very healthy pregnancy is incredibly difficult and puts huge mental and physical stress on a body. Have some compassion.

Minimum85percentCocoa · 10/12/2023 13:52

I had a ‘perfectly healthy’ pregnancy, was still vomiting 7+ times a day and so tired due to lack of iron I fell asleep at 6pm every night. Still had a boss who, although verbally sympathised with me, was v quick to tell me she’d had an awful pregnancy and never had a day off because it’s just normal. So I knew never to entertain the idea of asking for a sick day. Was a bit shit to be honest and you’re reminding me of her. Yes women get pregnant every day but also it’s a very special, unique feeling and you don’t need people judging you for wanting to share uncomfortableness or anxieties around this weird time.

Maireas · 10/12/2023 13:53

YABVU

Elphamouche · 10/12/2023 13:54

You’d look at me and think the same about me.

What you wouldn’t know is I had a missed miscarriage earlier this year and I am terrified every day that I’m going to lose this baby.

You’d have no idea, like most of my colleagues don’t.

sergeantsalt · 10/12/2023 13:56

YABU
Pregnancy is a big deal and a huge physical/psychological undertaking even without further complications. Don't be a dick.