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DH at woman's house after Xmas night out

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YouBelongWithMe · 10/12/2023 02:24

My DH was on his Xmas night out tonight. Started quite early and he said he'd be home about 11pm - did and does not matter to met at all that he decided to extend it to a big night.

I text at 1.50am to check all was okay, and he asked me to call him asap.

As I understand it, one of the women got so incredibly drunk that she was very ill and unsafe. Spewing and falling over as she made her way into a taxi. My DH has gone home with her to check she was okay

She's now passed out on her floor, having been sick everywhere. He says he's covered in her sick. He doesn't want to leave her because she lives alone and he's not sure that she's safe.

He thinks he should stay until morning,or until she wakes up at least.

What would your DH do in that situation?

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dbond · 12/12/2023 14:24

Yet you came here to say that..

Madamum18 · 12/12/2023 18:41

YouBelongWithMe · 10/12/2023 02:41

Wood it not be awful to leave her passed out on the hall floor, in her own sick though?

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Yes she could choke on her vomit

burnoutbabe · 12/12/2023 18:56

But shy of us coming home drunk can do that?

I don't watch over my partner all night when he rolls in at 3am very drunk. I just say hello and go back to sleep.

Doesn't everyone? I am not sure we are all putting dribk people in the recovery position in our own lives or watching them until daybreak.

Natsku · 12/12/2023 19:16

If he came in puking everywhere and passed out and you can't rouse him, surely you'd put him in the recovery position at the very least? It's not the same as just coming in drunk, it's a lot more serious.

Behindyouiam · 12/12/2023 20:29

burnoutbabe · 12/12/2023 18:56

But shy of us coming home drunk can do that?

I don't watch over my partner all night when he rolls in at 3am very drunk. I just say hello and go back to sleep.

Doesn't everyone? I am not sure we are all putting dribk people in the recovery position in our own lives or watching them until daybreak.

Do you do the same if he is vomiting?

Lavender14 · 12/12/2023 20:45

Op that's tricky and as others have said I think it's leaving him open to being vulnerable and god knows how the woman will feel about this in the morning. I agree with others if you can call out or if a female colleague who's known to her can come and help him with her it's a good idea. Even to help him put her in the recovery position on the floor as that's the safest way to leave someone if there's a chance they might vomit. I don't think he should be staying in that situation alone.

Alternatively could he bring her to yours in a taxi if you have a spare room though she sounds like a mess and you'll end up cleaning after her.

CustardySergeant · 12/12/2023 21:03

Lavender14, this thread was started in the early hours of Sunday morning. The woman is no longer drunk and throwing up.

Tilllly · 12/12/2023 21:26

How has it been in the office...?!

Madamum18 · 13/12/2023 14:23

burnoutbabe · 12/12/2023 18:56

But shy of us coming home drunk can do that?

I don't watch over my partner all night when he rolls in at 3am very drunk. I just say hello and go back to sleep.

Doesn't everyone? I am not sure we are all putting dribk people in the recovery position in our own lives or watching them until daybreak.

But this woman was on her own. You are in the house with partner and likely would be woken if he was choking.

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