Friend getting engaged right after other friend's wedding.

[toddlermam]

I’m curious to who you think is wrong here. For reference I’m neither person in the scenario but I am friends with both and feeling quite in the middle of the drama!

Friend A - had a wedding abroad, beautiful destination. Invited friends and family but understood if others couldn’t make it due to the cost etc. most people ended up coming and all stayed a week or so.

Friend B - came to friend A’s wedding with her boyfriend of 3 years. enjoyed the wedding together and then continued the remaining 3 days on the holiday with the boyfriend. boyfriend proposes on the last night of the holiday, friend says yes, very happy etc

Friend A is angry that it’s taken away the ‘spotlight’, so to speak, and that they’ve got engaged just a few days after the wedding.

Friend B thinks friend A is being unreasonable as this was also their once a year holiday, they spent a lot of money to come to the wedding and the boyfriend was planning to propose on whatever holiday they went on this year anyway.

So what do you think? Is Friend A being unreasonable for being upset?

YABU - Friend A shouldn’t be upset, Friend B is right

YANBU - Friend A is right to be upset about the situation

Yes, this!

Friend A is a drama queen of the first water! IF Friend B's gentleman had proposed during the wedding reception, I'd be saying something quite different, but he did not. He did so on the LAST NIGHT. Friend A needs to get a grip.

Friend A is a dickhead

Friend A is being unreasonable and needs to get over herself.

It's not like he proposed during her actual wedding ceremony!

If I was friend A I would be delighted that someone got engaged when they attended a weeks holiday for my wedding. It’s not as if they announced it at the wedding, but waited till all the festivities had died down. It would make me happy.

Friend A needs to give her head a wobble, she is being a dick.

There isn't enough information.

• What is their relationship like?
• How was engagement announced or celebrated?

Absolutely fine! We're all really good friends and friend A has never shown any kind of indication of being this type of person, the reaction was extremely out of character!

After the wedding - some went home the following day or two, some stayed on for a few extra days (everyone booked their flights/hotels separately due to work, home commitments etc) so after the wedding was done everyone just did their own thing in their own couples/families. Friend B was engaged on the last night and uploaded a picture to our group chat and social media.

I see some people saying she should have waited until they were home, but why? Most of the wedding party were already back in the U.K.

A is being anal and a bridezilla

B bf popped the question on what was their holiday after the wedding

The wedding had finished - guests had gone home

Unless all the guests are part of the honeymoon ....... then A def being an arse

Shame A couldn't be happy for her friend B

Alone on this thread I think A has a point, Why did B feel the need to tell everyone the location and timing of when they got engaged ? I think B is trying to steal A thunder

what thunder? the wedding was over 3 days earlier.

@Northernparent68 three dats later? Most people are back to work and moved on by then.

Friend A is angry that it’s taken away the ‘spotlight’, so to speak, and that they’ve got engaged just a few days after the wedding.

What does this actually mean, what does her being ‘angry’ look like? What has A actually done to show her displeasure at B?

One thing that is missing from the OP's posts is how friend B's boyfriend proposed. In my eyes it probably makes all the difference:

Just the two of them out for a meal or on the beech -totally fine (but I would have waited till getting home to announce)

Or was it a big meal with everyone from the wedding on their last night away to celebrate with friend A's family and friends? (takes it to almost an official part of the wedding, and I would agree with friend A here)

The proposal wasn’t ’right after the wedding’ - it was several days after.

If the wedding was in the UK, would friend A have been aggrieved if there was a proposal a few days later?

Friend A should be happy that people benefitted from the holiday in other ways than watching the Friend A Show.

@toddlermam have you spoken to A since?

What was A's reaction. You say angry and out of character.

Did Friend A and B argue?

How was the engagement announced?

What a shame. Without A's attitude this would have been a beautiful, romantic story: a couple shares in the wedding joy of a friend, I'm guessing in a delightful place, and decide it's the right moment for them. A fairy-tale that should bring happiness all round
Thank you for telling us about this, but you really don't need our advice.

Absolutely pathetic attitude from A

Her "big day" had already been over for days by that point! There's no such thing as a "wedding holiday"! The wedding day belonged to the bride and groom. The rest of the holiday belonged to everyone.

I feel sorry for the groom, frankly. It doesn't sound as though the bride is particularly happy to be married to him!

Friend A needs to grow up and stop being a Prima Donna!

New bride is being unreasonable. Engaged friends fiancee waited till last day of holiday to propose which was respectful. Destination weddings are a pain and they're lucky they attended at all.
Why is it all about the women. Friend B didn't propose, her fiance did. I also doubt husband A gives a shite. Neither should you. Are you being asked to chose sides by A. If so even more reason why she's BU.