Not wanting to spend this much on sons GF

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DS2 is 21, he has been with his girlfriend a little over a year. We like to keep Christmas budget pretty strict, we could spend more I just hate how consumerist it has become.
My budgets are set in stone really varying between £25 and £200 depending who it is.
Usually for the partners of our kids (we have 5) who aren't with us on Christmas Day we spend between £50 and £100.
I asked DS what I should get for his GF and he sent a link for a perfume costing more than £200.
I'm gobsmacked, we aren't struggling and I do have the money to buy the perfume comfortably but we don't ever spend that much at Christmas.
I called him and said WTF basically and he told me that he'd transfer the difference but she probably wouldn't want anything else!?!

He also told me that for her and her 5 closest friends they are spending around £200 on each person?!!

She's from a very wealthy family (dad is managing partner of a Swiss private bank type wealthy), but this is insane right?!!
AIBU saying I won't spend this much even if my son transfers the difference?!

What a very strange post, @Diaria
Says a lot about you.

They have met. More than once. And it’s the only way to phrase being given an inferior imitation of something when only the real thing will do - I’m a fragrance snob and a dupe would go straight in the bin or be passed on immediately. Anyway as I said a companion product would probably be warmly welcomed.

I agree...no dupe or anything from the Sanctuary,Lush etc... as it will probably not be used (so a waste of money in the end).
Yes to a gift voucher for a premium department store , cashmere socks , companion products (as I previously suggested) . No need to go over the budget but also no need to give something that shows no thought at all.

Sorry but you have become as materiastic as everyone else. You buy what they wany if you've asked in the first place.

@StarlightLime please no personal attacks.

It speaks of realism; the majority of people who earn big, like to have a partner who earns equally big, is qualified to do so, or has a mountain of inheritance coming to them.

There is of course the odd Pretty woman/man type story where somebody obscenely rich goes for a barmaid… but that isn’t what happens most of the time.

To believe otherwise is to be incredibly naive.

I fully agree with the above and it is 100% realistic. I was thinking about it the other evening when I first replied to the post. I hope this young man has a career path in mind that pays really well as the future expectations are going to be quite high (also from her parents).

@windmill26

future expectations are going to be quite high (also from her parents)

Yep! A friend of our family was told by family of prospective spouse “You had better earn your medical degree, or you can forget it”

Similarly, have seen other people swerved after a time because parents weren’t happy and pulled the financial strings back until person was dropped.

She could always have nothing. Entitled much?!