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On a mini getaway and all 5 adults are miserable

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Louez · 04/12/2023 20:06

Hi, just looking for advice/to rant.

We’ve arrived at a friend’s cabin in the Landes Forest, France. And the atmosphere is really awkward which is depressing.

Im 30, here with my parents, brother and sister (plus dog). Sister’s bf is joining us in a few days.

It’s been a few hours since we arrived. No one is angry but everyone seems off. Which is making me think…I want to go home.

My brother flies for EasyJet so am assuming he’s tired. After we arrived he walked the dog and is now just sat in the living room on his phone. My dad who is a stroke survivor has fallen asleep on the sofa next to my mum who has a tooth ache and is miserable looking.

I can tell no one wants to be here. The cabin is a bit grubby and we just left a house that has been completely gutted and looks amazing. Everyone seems on edge.

What can I do?

Dinner is the oven and I’m on my single bed with a cocktail. I’ve suggested a game but was told to “chill out”.

I would go out but have now drunk.

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Bobtheamazinggingerdog · 04/12/2023 20:37

ssd · 04/12/2023 20:25

Are you all grown up adults going on holiday with mum and dad?

My first thought is, why??

Yep! And a couple of weeks before Christmas when everyone is busy? Lesson learnt!

AutumnComfort · 04/12/2023 20:38

ssd · 04/12/2023 20:25

Are you all grown up adults going on holiday with mum and dad?

My first thought is, why??

Why not? What's wrong with family holidays as adults? Doesn't stop you having holidays with friends or just with your partner.

Autumnleavesarefallingdownagain · 04/12/2023 20:38

Omg don’t take the advice of those saying to get pissed - you’ll only feel worse tomorrow! Cuddle up with a book/movie and have an early night with a view to everyone waking up settled and more cheerful tomorrow

SylvieLaufeydottir · 04/12/2023 20:39

Just give everyone some space and time to decompress FGS. Read a book. Watch some TV.

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Louez · 04/12/2023 20:41

It’s the snapping which is making me want to go home.

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tachycardigan · 04/12/2023 20:43

Lots of good advice. Try and relax. I would kill to be out or the country with my iPad/Kindle and internet access and to just read and eat and relax.

It’s not your responsibility to ensure everyone has a good time. Do you feel it is because it’s your friend’s place?

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Louez · 04/12/2023 20:43

My mum and dad are loving parents who gave their kids more than they could afford. We usually love going away all together now that we’re all settled. We’re here for mum’s birthday.

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Louez · 04/12/2023 20:44

I’m a FOMO type person which I know just sets everything up for a fall.

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dotdotdotdash · 04/12/2023 20:44

I would usually listen to music in this situation as it can lift your mood; and look at maps, info on the local area and make plans for the next few days.

Missingmyusername · 04/12/2023 20:46

I’d probably either have a clean, if it’s grubby there and then go to bed. Or have a bath and an early night.
Is there a hot water bottle for mum and some pain relief?
Is there a map? Looks what’s around the area.

Hope everyone is refreshed in the morning and you enjoy your break.

mantyzer · 04/12/2023 20:47

Everyone has a reason to be tired. They are just low energy and chilling, whereas you seem to want engagement and enjoyment. If you flew home you would just look petulant.
Take the dog out or go for a drive and explore and leave everyone else to decompress.

ProvisionsOnTheDock · 04/12/2023 20:48

You've given a lot of weirdly specific information. Why mention the exact location of the cabin or who your brother's employer is? The tone of your posts is very odd.

Notonthestairs · 04/12/2023 20:49

Just let people REST.

Mariposista · 04/12/2023 20:50

I’d be furious OP. Moods, treading on eggshells and atmospheres on holiday is just holiday sabotage pure and simple. I’d be mad that I could have used my AL for something more exciting (and probably saying it)

Quitelikeit · 04/12/2023 20:50

So have you organised a cake? A meal out? Researched what you can do in the locality?

I mean you guys should have discussed this and gave your parents a holiday to remember

EmmaEmerald · 04/12/2023 20:52

Louez · 04/12/2023 20:09

I could be in my flat but am having to share a room with my sis (2 singles).

Whose idea was it? Did everyone want to go?

I'm guessing you didn't want to go?

I don't share rooms.

I hope things are better tomorrow.

tachycardigan · 04/12/2023 20:52

ProvisionsOnTheDock · 04/12/2023 20:48

You've given a lot of weirdly specific information. Why mention the exact location of the cabin or who your brother's employer is? The tone of your posts is very odd.

I think it’s nice OP has given details that describe the situation better. It’s not like she’s given her home address and her brother’s name

Dillydollydingdong · 04/12/2023 20:53

The first day is always bad. You'll feel better tomorrow and maybe the weather will brighten up

Bruisername · 04/12/2023 20:54

You arrived a few hours ago - give everyone a break! Have an easy supper and have everyone in bed early - sounds like they need it. Then tomorrow things will look better.

CalmaLlamaDown · 04/12/2023 20:55

Sometimes things are just weird for no explanation.

We had a family Sunday lunch yesterday with parents and grandkids. No-one seemed to have any conversation, don’t know why, everyone seemed to be tired and a bit fed up. Maybe it’s the time of year?

Cantrushart · 04/12/2023 20:55

Your OP sounds like the start of a really good novel. Carry on, I'd love to know what happens and it would give you something to do this evening.

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Louez · 04/12/2023 20:56

@ProvisionsOnTheDock are you accusing me of being a troll?

I didn’t intentionally mention EJ but there are thousands of pilots - not going to be identifiable by that or the location of our holiday. Which I mentioned as it is a too long a trek to get here for us to be miserable.

On a mini getaway and all 5 adults are miserable
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GreenFrostedPlant · 04/12/2023 20:56

Slightly of topic but there isn’t a chance you could be pregnant is there?

Alcohol intolerance and a sore throat was one of my first signs - obviously I didn’t know I was pregnant when drinking.

Imagwine · 04/12/2023 20:57

It’ll feel different in the morning. Travelling is tiring.

WavyLines11 · 04/12/2023 20:58

Is that a dog wearing the easyJet jacket or is your brother just really hairy? 🤣

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