To think it’s a bit cheeky for friends to suggest we go to a party after we host?

Changingplace · 03/12/2023 13:35

It’s just a suggestion, I don’t really think it’s cheeky as such - it would be if they’d not invited you to the party but they have

Happydays321 · 03/12/2023 13:37

I think that's a bit cheeky too. It'd be a bit miffed.

ANightingale · 03/12/2023 13:37

Yes, it is a bit cheeky - suggests they see the party as a better offer.

MummyDummyNow · 03/12/2023 13:39

You've started buying ingredients for a dinner party almost a month ahead?

Back to the point in hand, yes I think it's a bit cheeky and I'd be a bit annoyed too to be honest.

Santaiswashinghissleigh · 03/12/2023 13:41

So hide your wine... Eat the food and drink the party hosts drinks!!At least you know your guests won't be overstaying their welcome.

OrigamiOwl · 03/12/2023 13:42

I would find that cheeky.

BaronessBomburst · 03/12/2023 13:43

I don't see it like that. I see it as 'the more the merrier', and after you've eaten you can let your hair down and party without having to host for the rest of the evening, if you want to. It's a suggestion.

Luxell934 · 03/12/2023 13:45

What ingredients have you bought a month in advance?

Seems like they’ve gotten a better offer unfortunately, and are probably only inviting you because they have already agreed to come to yours. They most likely aren’t fussed about coming for diner they are just being polite still attending. Do you even know their friends?

WelshDaffodil · 03/12/2023 13:46

Well, you're all invited, so why not if it's nearby? I'd find it cheeky they were going to eat and run but you're all invited, so...?

RunningGearOn · 03/12/2023 13:47

Think it depends how the message was conveyed. Could just be your friend was invited to a party, she said oh sorry we're already out and other friend said why don't all of you swing by after you've eaten to see in NY. I'd not assume she was being cheeky on the detail you've given but it's possible she is if actually she just would rather go to the party.

SweetLorelei · 03/12/2023 13:47

It's really rude. It's the sort of thing I would have done and / or my friends would have done in our 20s and early 30s. (The worst thing I did was agree to attend two weddings in one day and cut short attending one in the morning after the dinner to go to another friends' one later in the day. I feel really ashamed about that years later as the second set of friends I bailed on my friends for are no longer my friends.)

Anyway, now in my 40s and would not be impressed with that. You stick with one invitation.

Bolloxforsure · 03/12/2023 13:48

I don’t think it’s cheeky. It’s New Year’s Eve and they want to do both, why not? What were your plans for after dinner?

PossumintheHouse · 03/12/2023 13:48

Yes it is a bit cheeky. I’d reply and say you’re looking to have a more relaxed New Year’s Eve at home with good food and good wine. Tell them they’re welcome to go to the party instead. Sit back and see what happens.

Wendysfriend · 03/12/2023 13:48

What has you planned after dinner

Sparkletastic · 03/12/2023 13:48

That is rude.

Aprilx · 03/12/2023 13:49

It’s rude. You don’t accept a dinner party invitation and make other plans for afterwards. Inviting you to the party as well is probably just to appear less rude but they are clearly telling you they have a better offer.

Ragwort · 03/12/2023 13:49

Very cheeky & rude

LaurieStrode · 03/12/2023 13:50

shrinkiewinkie · 03/12/2023 13:33

We are hosting a dinner party with friends for New Years. Will cook some nice food and have good wine. This has been planned and confirmed for a while. Have started buying ingredients.

I got a message from the friends coming over saying that they’ve been invited to a party at their friends house. They’d like to go and the invite has been extended to us too. So we could have dinner at mine and then go to the party.

DH thinks this is cheeky. Essentially saying they’d like our nice grub but then think there are better ways to welcome in the new year. What do you think?

Actually this sounds really nice to me.

It's not uncommon for people to attend more than one NYE gathering. Bopping from party to party is fun.

Your DH sounds stingy and easily offended.

LaurieStrode · 03/12/2023 13:50

BaronessBomburst · 03/12/2023 13:43

I don't see it like that. I see it as 'the more the merrier', and after you've eaten you can let your hair down and party without having to host for the rest of the evening, if you want to. It's a suggestion.

Exactly!

Whataretheodds · 03/12/2023 13:51

How far away is the party? I'd like to think more the merrier but would be miffed if I then had more than a 20 minute walk home.

Rjahdhdvd · 03/12/2023 13:52

Do you know the people whose party it is?

LaurieStrode · 03/12/2023 13:53

SweetLorelei · 03/12/2023 13:47

It's really rude. It's the sort of thing I would have done and / or my friends would have done in our 20s and early 30s. (The worst thing I did was agree to attend two weddings in one day and cut short attending one in the morning after the dinner to go to another friends' one later in the day. I feel really ashamed about that years later as the second set of friends I bailed on my friends for are no longer my friends.)

Anyway, now in my 40s and would not be impressed with that. You stick with one invitation.

I have dozens of entertaining and etiquette books from the last hundred years, in my collection.

Party hopping is etiquettely correct and a festive tradition. There's nothing at all rude or cheeky about the suggestion. It's generous and fun.

If the friends canceled due to a better offer, they'd be rude. But they aren't; they are offering a fun addition to the evening.

FreshWinterMorning · 03/12/2023 13:54

Can't see anything wrong with it. Sounds great. Yours first for a bit, some food and pre drinks, then a NYW party for you to all see in the new year! 💖

LaurieStrode · 03/12/2023 13:54

PossumintheHouse · 03/12/2023 13:48

Yes it is a bit cheeky. I’d reply and say you’re looking to have a more relaxed New Year’s Eve at home with good food and good wine. Tell them they’re welcome to go to the party instead. Sit back and see what happens.

How pouty, petulant and manipulative. So much for the festive spirit.

FreshWinterMorning · 03/12/2023 13:56

LaurieStrode · 03/12/2023 13:54

How pouty, petulant and manipulative. So much for the festive spirit.

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Yeah this. Sounds so childish. 2 parties sounds great to me!