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Offering refreshments to guests

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ItAintGonnaGoDownEasyIfItAintCheezy · 03/12/2023 09:31

Based off of couple of other threads, who doesn't offer refreshments to guests on arrival?

I'd find it very odd to arrive somewhere and not be instantly offered tea or coffee, likewise, I would never not offer it on arrival and throughout the visit. I'd also put a few biscuits/cake/nuts/crisps or whatever on the table.

Going by other responses on here, there are people that wouldn't offer tea or coffee, and certainly not nibbles. So I wondered why? If you are one of these people, why don't you offer?

Yabu: No one needs refreshments, if you do, stop at a coffee shop before arriving at my house.

Yanbu: It's normal to offer tea and coffee, and EVEN snacks and nibbles.

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ZiriForGood · 06/12/2023 20:19

FatOaf · 06/12/2023 17:54

I avoid having guests. But even as the misanthropic hermit I am, I would always offer tea/coffee to anyone who comes into my house (e.g. tradespeople). If there were a reason for someone to visit I would also make sure I had cake, even though I don't particularly like it myself.

Why would you offer a cake when you don't really like it? Imagine your guests doesn't particularly like it either, but wants to be polite...
So you end up with two people eating a cake noone really wants but both conform to norms?

CatMadam · 06/12/2023 21:21

GodDammitCecil · 06/12/2023 17:50

There are some completely ridiculous responses to this thread, along the lines I’d never see in real life. Only on here, where people are so bizarre about other humans crossing the threshold into their home, and generally having friends and socialising.

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Eh, I don’t think it’s that deep. Some people offer refreshments and some don’t.

GodDammitCecil · 07/12/2023 08:00

CatMadam · 06/12/2023 21:21

Eh, I don’t think it’s that deep. Some people offer refreshments and some don’t.

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You obviously think it’s ’that deep’ since you keep coming at me.

Ignore me, and move on.

CatMadam · 07/12/2023 14:37

GodDammitCecil · 07/12/2023 08:00

You obviously think it’s ’that deep’ since you keep coming at me.

Ignore me, and move on.

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Replying to you when you quote me isn’t ’coming at you,’ but ok!

GodDammitCecil · 07/12/2023 14:51

CatMadam · 07/12/2023 14:37

Replying to you when you quote me isn’t ’coming at you,’ but ok!

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You quoted me first.

Finestreason · 07/12/2023 14:54

GalileoHumpkins · 03/12/2023 09:55

I always offer drinks and massive salads, do people really eat cake and biscuits faux confusion ensues

😂 😂

penjil · 07/12/2023 15:06

SwedeCaroline · 03/12/2023 09:49

well, I wouldn't have "a few biscuits/cake/nuts/crisps or whatever " lying around at home, and I wouldn't want them in anyone else's house either.

Its not a very nice thing to do to lay them out in front of anyone who is trying to eat healthily, is it, aren't we beyond all this now?

You sound fun! 🙄

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