To think this is my queue to move out now

[Givealittlerespecttome]

After several years of renting and no plan for the future, I tell my boyfriend we need a plan and he says 'I don't know what to say.'
I'm usually the one doing all the work so he sees I'm upset then reluctantly looks at flats for all of 5 minutesethen gets bored.
I ask him hypothetically if he could see himself living with me in another 5-10 years and he sighs and says.. I don't know.. it's hard to say.
The saving grace is that our lettings agency phoned yesterday and said that we never actually signed our tenancy back in September, so technically they're only owed a month's notice.

Yeah shame on you @Notcookie not only berating the OP's spelling and grammar, but contributing fuck-all else to the thread. No advice, no sympathy, no help, nothing.

Flat sounds lovely. I spent a few years ten cycling minutes from the sea but paid considerably more, sadly. You sound ready to cut your losses which is great.

I wouldn't go to see his family tomorrow - what's the point? He can go alone and you can go see the nice flat.

You've been with him for 7 years, living together for 3 of those, and he not only doesn't know if he wants to be with you in another 5 years, he also can't be bothered to even think about it. Time to cut your losses.

honestly just buy it if you want it you can move on yourself if he wants to he can come with you.

rude

Apply for the flat, move in and move on. It is sad when it is clear you want different things and it involves breaking up with someone. But don't put your life on hold. Apply for the flat right now.

Sorry I knew him as a friend only prior to 2020 and got with him just as lockdown was starting. (Didn't break rules!) I'm supposed to be meeting his extended relatives over the weekend and they're all looking forward to meeting me apparently, I feel so heartless if I don't go.

Sorry I should've known it was cue I was just a bit emotional when I typed this.

one of my Dc were in the same boat drifting with a bf dd just thought sod it and bought her own flat they didn't last long once she decided just to go for it.

If he doesn't know if he sees his future with you, I'd make his mind up for him and take the seaside flat.

it doesn't matter, Queue and Cue are a total pain especially if you are not really thinking about it.

Blimey don't say sorry !!! You've done nothing wrong!

I might just say I'm too unwell to come this weekend. seems easier.

Sadly I don't think there is any future in this relationship for you, and you know it.

Go live by the sea. I would love that. Best wishes.

I'm so hurt right now. Then he saw I was upset and went and started playing his pissing guitar.

He also sounds like a 'buyer beware' - he is happy to coast / play games on the sofa while you are making the important decisions - that suit you for the rest of your life? Exactly. Sorry you have to go through a breakup BUT - things could be much rosier for you soon - especially in that little flat - have you called to snap it up yet??

How old are you both OP? And presuming you want children, but it looks as if he probably doesn't (or is just bumbling along clueless)?
It may be time for you to decide the direction of things for yourself. He'll either sharpen up or he won't.

Beat me to it :)

Urgh, being together 3 years and he can't even say that he sees yourself together in the future... nice.

OP, do yourself a favour and move on to bigger and better things without this absolute waster.

I'm hoping you're still young @Givealittlerespecttome - like 25 - and you haven't wasted 4 years on this loser, and are now 30+!

Not saying 30+ is old!!! Just the younger you are, the easier it is to move on IYSWIM.

Honestly I wouldn't bother going to see his family, it will just be embarrassing.

Use the weekend to pull your stuff together and view the seaside flat.

If he wanted to, he would. And you know that OP. And yes it's hurtful but honestly this is best for you in the long run. Put yourself first, snap up that flat if you can and move on without him. Onwards & upwards for you

I'm 30+ 😂 just told my Mum and she said he's probably too immature but she thinks I'm in the right.

They've booked a table for me at a restaurant and I feel so bad. I'll just say I am ill.

Ooooh, well, end it now before it's too late! When you say 30+, is that 32-25, or like 40s? Older?