To think this is my queue to move out now

[Givealittlerespecttome]

After several years of renting and no plan for the future, I tell my boyfriend we need a plan and he says 'I don't know what to say.'
I'm usually the one doing all the work so he sees I'm upset then reluctantly looks at flats for all of 5 minutesethen gets bored.
I ask him hypothetically if he could see himself living with me in another 5-10 years and he sighs and says.. I don't know.. it's hard to say.
The saving grace is that our lettings agency phoned yesterday and said that we never actually signed our tenancy back in September, so technically they're only owed a month's notice.

This OP don't waste a minute more. Maybe he will come to his senses but I think it will be better for you if he doesn't. There's a better life out there

Thank you everyone, I did manage to sort the ticket. You are good people.

it just makes me feel atm like something's wrong with me there is something wrong with you OP, you don't value yourself, and if you don't then how can anybody else be expected to? Tell yourself you deserve better, and believe it.

You are a catch! You're kind, caring, funny, smart - you teach languages! Know your worth, and you'll attract friends and partners who recognise it too. Change is never easy, but you'll look back in a year and realise leaving him (to his YouTube videos) was the best thing you ever did.

Leave him OP! ! !

One thing sounds amazing in your post and it isn’t your boyfriend! How exciting to perhaps move to a new place beside the sea. I understand your worries about meeting someone else but that will come with a happier life. You won’t meet your Mr Right when you’re trapped with Mr Wrong and his sodding guitar.

Sounds like you got your money back from your train ticket? Great news. Best of luck to you - here’s to a new start 🥂

I think you love yourself plenty. I think you just don't completely trust yourself. And there is nothing to say that you are 'off-putting'! You sound like a lovely young woman (to me, old enough to be your mum) with plenty to give.

But maybe your judgement on men is 'flawed'. Maybe you don't see them through clear glass. Perhaps you ignore things you shouldn't ignore. Maybe you build castles in the air. Maybe you wear your heart on your sleeve. I'm not criticizing you at all, because I did all of those things over and over. And. Over.

I finally went to a counselor and said "Why do I pick such shit men and how the hell do I STOP??!!". It took about 18 months, some brutal honesty, and a lot of hard work but it was well worth it. I found a good man, we've been married over 35 years and raised two wonderful sons. We're retired now and life has been, and still is, GOOD.

FFS just let it go. It’s not helping the OP to resurrect the spelling mistake on every page !! This is where some posters on the thread are absolutely right. People don’t read the comments and keep jumping in with irrelevancies - no wonder so many OPs abandon their threads. This has been done to death and the OP has already said she doesn’t care. Stick to the point and stop derailing.

All I was/am saying is:

despite all the pulls to this way and that
staying put or getting the bedsit cum flat
either/or is fine by me
and there's always the pull of livin-by-the-sea.

All rhymes aside, I'd still go for the already-arranged weekend, even if you plan to jump ship; if not least to get your 'oar in' before the break-up, but having a good time with people you like can become a rare experience on your own in a bedit by the sea.

A 'titanic arse!' 😆 Love it.

Also @ThelmaBorden I am so embarrassed for you. 😬

@ThelmaBorden · Today 17:21

because … I for one cannot take any bleat seriously when the OP twists the heading with
such a blistering mistake, quality of responses commensurate - I find it tiresome

😂 Oh the irony!

100% agree. Leave the OP alone FGS @Maelil01 She has already explained that she accidentally used the wrong version of the word cue/queue.

Now I want to live by the sea!

Of course I knew what she meant, and if you look back through the thread you’ll see I posted in support of another poster, not to directly criticise. OP is upset and of course it’s understandable, but it’s also understandable -as some have pointed out - that this could have been mistaken and passed over as a light hearted supermarket thread. That’s the point. Way to go with the insults too - it’s becoming boring and predictable to insult the intelligence of those with whom you don’t agree.

No.

@Notcookie ·
Notcookie Today 03:25
Cue
Notcookie Today 03:27
... Is his disinterest typical....

You mean "lack of interest". "Disinterest" means impartiality. "Disinterested" means impartial, without ulterior motives.

I would actually want to know if I was spelling a word wrong. It's like if you have your flies undone - always kinder to point it out.

Anyway, he does sound very passive. If you break up with him, you need to explain why, so he knows that he needs to grow up and that decent women won't tolerate this kind of attitude.

At his age being disinterested in anything bar YouTube is not a good predictor for your future.

Ye are not a good match.

A new cost affective start is a gift worth grabbing.

@Maelil01

If I was mis-using a word I’d be grateful to have it pointed out so I didn’t keep repeating the error and looking like an idiot. It’s weird to object.

@IncompleteSenten

You'd be grateful yeah?

Fair enough. Next time you're really upset about something, I mean really upset, please come on here and ask for some advice and a bit of sympathy and we'll take the opportunity to criticise your grammar and you can thank us for our help, ok? 👍

100% this! ^ Well said @IncompleteSenten

😆 My hat goes off to you for this simple 'NO.' It really IS a complete sentence isn't it? I would have said a lot more/a lot worse!

Who does @pam290358 think she is, issuing commands at other posters, telling them what to do, and to STOP saying this and stop saying that. Good grief Pam. You don't come here often do ya?

Now you know to just rule out men with these traits.

@Notcookie Thank goodness you corrected her spelling.

Whenever anyone reaches out for help, it’s always best to correct their spelling. I’m sure she’ll use your excellent spelling skills to help her make an informed decision with regards to her dilemma.

Bravo 👏🏻

🙄

No, thankfully I don’t come here often. This is one of the most insulting and derailing threads I’ve seen for a while on MN. If you bothered to read and comprehend my posts I was attempting to point out that continuing to drone on and on about the spelling mistake was distracting from OP’s point and not helping her. It’s fine to disagree with someone’s opinion, but MN always has to go a a step further and issue insults/cast doubt about the intelligence of those with whom they disagree. As your own post so beautifully illustrates.

Are you kidding? You were literally attacking a poster who was DEFENDING the OP. And I have been defending the OP throughout the thread. I think you are the one with comprehension issues, not me. Read the full thread, and read peoples posts properly before you post in future.

You knew what she meant?

*Rosscameasdoody · Today 17:29

Not necessarily being a twat - I was puzzled because the title doesn’t make any sense with that spelling mistake.*

So you were puzzled but you totally knew what she meant?

OP is upset and of course it’s understandable, but it’s also understandable -as some have pointed out - that this could have been mistaken and passed over as a light hearted supermarket thread.

🤣 You're seriously trying to pretend that's what you've spent the last five hours being defensive and butthurt over? That you're just so worried because OP might have missed out on some support because someone assumed it was a shopping thread and didn't click on it?

And you think a single person would believe that, even if you hadn't also sniffily told us how important standards are when you're telling MN about your failing relationship?

And you think your intelligence is being insulted?

Also @pam290358 , random posters on here do not get to yell orders at people like you did to @IncompleteSenten ... Who do you think you are? Why do you think you have the right to tell that poster how to post, and what to post.

And yes I am fully aware I said you need to read posts before responding, but that is a helpful suggestion. It is NOT an order, and I am NOT telling you to not post certain things.