to think that, mothers that do not even try to breastfeed, are selfish and perhaps lazy?

[mrsdannydyer]

yes i know their will be women that have been sexually abused or have hiv or something, yes there is always, the execption to the rule.
but in gerneral, why do some women not even try?
this really baffles me?

Can I just add....MDD....." you, and the horse you rode in on"
anyway, this is almost an exact rehash of the thread a while ago from some silly bint who was studying to be a BF counsellor
this is just some silly twot who's looked through old threads that have kicked off
or someone who's almost too stupid to read them in the first place

oooh...starlight, ya got in first!!!!!

Mrs DD Seriously are you a real MN-er? if so hang your head in shame!!

can understand your wondering,about not giving it a go, as i have often wondered this myself, but its out of order to imply they are selfish or lazy.

oh yeah, and in terms of being lazy and selfish, i'm still BF-ing a 17 month old because i couldn't be arsed sterilising/boiling/making up all those bottles, and, also, because my milk is free, so, i'm lazy, selfish AND tight
so there....tight...another stick to beat mothers with, seeing as you're too thick and unimaginative to think it up yourself
(ooooh...up yourself....funny how that post ended with those two words)

Too late SM - you have opened a can of worms with that one

lucyellensmum, thank you. It did make me laugh a while ago to read that that particular maternity unit was going for an award of excellence

I am hoping that the care this time will be different, well it can't be any worse, I guess!

mrsdannydyer - This thread has been done countless of times before, if you were bored you should have just read the archives rather than bore us to death.

Budge up on the comfy beanbag ladies, this should be good

nah, she's sat sipping tea reading the daily hate females

I chose not to BF with DD and I refused to even try when the MWs suggested it. I think it was partly down to a lack of knowledge on my part, bt also I read somewhere that to BF you had to be prepared to feed anywhere necessary. I think I had an issue with getting my boobs out to feed DD in front of my dad tbh so that was also a contributing factor.

I did consider BF with DS but as he is not yet here, I've got a few weeks to decide what I will do, but some of the things I read on here such as the abuse that mothers get and the attitudes of some people, I am inclined to believe that again, I will not even try and will FF from the start. That's not to say I am ruling it out. Just don't think its likely.

I don't think that this makes me lazy or selfish, especially when you consider the faff that goes into FF babies. It was just my personal choice.

lazylou....don't you worry about people giving you grief....for every one post about hassle, there's 99 unwritten posts about no hassle (IYSWIM)

what is this, Wind Up Thursday?

oh FFS can't we have an original troll question. This one has been done to death.

some people just don't get the 'urge' to bf mrsdanny...i know i didn't want to whilst pregnant with my first 3 children.....the thought just gave me a shiver..i don't know why. My maternal instinccts came flooding through a few days after giving birth and i really felt the urge to then, but by then it was too late.

With my 4th baby i MADE myself try.....and i did it for 1 year.

Then went on to formula feed my 2 sets of twins.

All my children are happy and healthy apart from my breast-fed child who has aspergers, migraines and bowel problems. Not that i am blaming bf for that of course..but there you go...it dosen't always go smoothly no matter how hard you try!

Why are we all getting sucked in replying to this?

OP is clearly ignorant

...and despite what she/he claims, is not going to listen to any voices of reason ...

OP - wtf has it got to do with you anyway?

if you feel passionate enough about it to criticise other womens' decisions ,go to Downing Street and mither the government about providing more funding for breastfeeding support.

rather than flapping your gums about women being selfish and lazy

if it bothers you that much, do something about it, trains as a peer supporter , campaign for more support for women

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just thought i'd add my twopenceworth - despite the fact that this is almost certainly a wind up i do feel that ignorance like this has to be fought.

my friend was sexually abused by her grandfather who used to fondle her breasts. she got pg by accident (she was on the pill) and her partner has left her. she's 18 weeks pg and decided to keep the baby, despite her reservations. at the moment she's not going to breastfeed because she can't bear her breasts being touched.

she's checking out MN at the moment and the fact that she might come across this thread and see this is unbearable. to have decided not to breastfeed for those reasons and then be called "lazy" and "selfish" is just absurd.

OP - you are a complete and utter fool. but i guess you realised that from the overwhelming viewpoints on here.

Can't see how any new mother gets the chance to be lazy and selfish, regardless of feeding!
Am I lazy and selfish for never sucking my DH's toes??? I've never even tried it!!

Is she back from the teashop yet then?

Bloody selfish cow, drinking tea and eating lunch when her baby probably needs feeding. How very dare she?

I did not want to breast feed DS. I also had two friends pregnant who would not shut up about breast feeding, and was I going to do it, and were generally so evangelical about the whole BF thing, that they really put me off. Good job really, as DS was in SCBU for a while, and was fed through a nasal gastric tube for the first 10 days of his life. I was glad to be FF, so I could see what he was taking, and DH did the night feeds at weekends when he was home from sea.

It's a personal choice, and yes, I knew all the facts and propaganda for and against, but I would make the same choice again. No-one presumably says they aren't going to feed their babies, just not breast feed them.