to think that, mothers that do not even try to breastfeed, are selfish and perhaps lazy?

[mrsdannydyer]

yes i know their will be women that have been sexually abused or have hiv or something, yes there is always, the execption to the rule.
but in gerneral, why do some women not even try?
this really baffles me?

I tried, it didn't work out.

I think if you don't even consider it, then thats entirely up to you.
I was bottle fed and I am sure I am ok, apart from having an overwhelming desire to loiter in the formula sections of the supermarket

I had a conversation with someone at preschool once - I was very pregnant and said I was planning to bf again.

She looked at me with some disgust and said 'Ugh, I could never do that'.

I don't know why. Some people just don't like the idea of it. I guess it doesn't kill their children to have formula but it is a mindset I'm glad to have, that I am positive about Bfing.

Fortunate to be brought up in a cultural environment that valued it I suppose. Some people are not.

of course wilted rose, but i do think they should at least try it
Seems strabge when the milk is there, not using it

If people don't want to try it, that's nobody's business but theirs. Or is this a Nazi state now?

Am I unreasonable for thinking that people that see fit to voice their opinions on other peoples' feeding habbits are interfeering busybodies who should mind their own feckin business and get a life?

mmm thought not.

Step away and don't feed the troll (unless it is breast milk, of course).

I have a very ambivalent relationship with breastfeeding, I bf all mine, 3 years breastfeeding in total, but I didn't enjoy it. I have every sympathy with any woman who doens't do it including those who don't want to even try. I often found it invasive, painful, tedious, inconvenient. as well as sometimes being convenient, it was inconvenient as often as not.

Well I wanted to keep up my cocktail of vodaka and cocaine so felt it was safer if my baby was bottle fed.

Does that make me selfish?

You are not unreasonable to ask the question 'why do some women not try to breastfeed?'

You are unreasonable to assume that it is because they are lazy and selfish without even trying to think of other reasons yourself.

I was bottle fed too and did not bond with my mother in a basic way - that wasn't the sole reason, there were lots of reasons...

MrsDD - if you are "willing" to have your mind changed, why post in "AIBU" and why use such inflammatory language?

yawn

I didn't try and breastfeed, I gave each of my babies to a dedicated team of wet nurses the moment each child was born, and checked on them at least once a week for the first 2 years of their life. I don't consider myself selfish or lazy at all - it would have been much more selfish to take them with me on my constant round of partying, which was EXHAUSTING.

Move on people, nothing to see here

I'll have the toffee popcorn.

Ta

Perhaps, mrsdannydyer, you could give us a rundown of all your lifestyle choices, household income, family setup, childcare choices, green credentials, basic moral code, how much educational play your dc get on a daily basis etc......

I usually find these are also FABULOUS ways to rate how shite a parent is. That way we could all join in the fun.

I tried but only because i was pressured into it by interfearing midwives at the age of 16 if i had stood up for myself i wouldnt have even tried it.

9 month is a long time to decide what your going to do and how you feel about it.

I like being lazy and selfish anyway...

must be
ch..ch..ch..challenge

ywan

MrsDD, I sense a certain impetuosity in your posting style.

Perhaps you should think a bit before you post?

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Blimey, do we have to have this one EVERY week.
Yes, you are being unreasonable for branding women you do not personally know selfish and lazy without attempting to understand anything about their personal circumstances.
Need you even ask?

Breastfeeding is but one of a run of things we can do to help our babies develop (I am a BF'er and a BFI tarined person btw). Just because someone 'opts out' on one part of the deal for whatever reason, doesn't mean that they may not for example be a damn sight better at the rest of the package than a BF Mum.

Routines and sleeping for instance- I'm awful at getting those going, and the boys still show that now, as schoolkids.

There's also lots of reasons you couldn't know- the example you gave (abuse), well Mum isn't going to wear a t-shirt explaining thats her reason is she? there's also medications, post birth trauma, disabilities..... who knows why people decide what they do, but respect means we give them credit for the ability to jusge whats right for them.

LOL at Nazi state. It is quite qn interesting qustion actually- why wouldn't anyone even try it?
Bit rude to define them as lazy tho'

It would be great if everyone breastfed. But in the world we live in there is this thing called choice.

Now if you really want to learn I sugeest you have a read through some of the archives, about women who have had terrible times trying, about HCP's/family/friends who are less than no use at all, about the sexualisation of breasts in our society and then think about how all those things together make some people decide not to feed.

If there was more support, more knowledge and less pressure and horror stories maybe more people would, but they don't have to eitehr way.