to think that, mothers that do not even try to breastfeed, are selfish and perhaps lazy?

[mrsdannydyer]

yes i know their will be women that have been sexually abused or have hiv or something, yes there is always, the execption to the rule.
but in gerneral, why do some women not even try?
this really baffles me?

JV you forgot to ask what car she drives
that could be the clincher

oh dear
i am the youngest of 4, my mother bottle-fed me because, she says, she didn't have time to breast-feed me
breast-feeding a tiny newborn can be very time-consuming and this is a consideration if you have other children to look after
I don't think she was lazy or selfish
so there you go

PPH, I just assumed she wouldn't be able to drive....dont know why........

I didn't try it all with dd2. I couldn't be arsed with it all frankly...

lol at PPH

Jv, perhaps Danny drives her everywhere

Interesting puppy- couldn't be arsed?
I hear that a lot
Surely it is more bother to bottle feed than breastfeed?

yes JV you are right. and there probably isn't anypoint in asking what buggy she uses either, as I expect she swaps it on a weekly basis, hun

Mrs R - for me, no.

ahem JV just because people don't drive doesn't mean they are more likely to be a pathetic trolling/narrow minded divvy.

mrsruffalo, I did both and trust me, breast feeding was MUCH harder! Painful, lengthy and isolating, sadly. Hoping it works better with no.2 if we get one!

LMAO at FF being lazy option
I breastfeed precisely as I cannot be arsed to clean, sterilise, fill with certain temperature water, reheat, get up go into kitchen
I much prefer, roll over, boob in, roll off.
I'm lazy and selfish

But I AM lazy.

this is WHY I bf

I've done both (BF and FF) my DS's - and while I exclusively BF DS1 for 14 months I did find it a bother - more of a bother than I found to FF DS2

fair enough, if they find it too difficult. but to not even try seems madness to me.

catissleepy is your post ment to be said in a jokey way, didn't have time to bf.
or is that the real reason?

hmm...well I see that this is an inflammatory thread adn i do think that we all have different circumstances and certainly I do agree that bf does not make you a good mother any more than formula makes you a bad one...or viceversa. But.. a small naughty judgy part of myself agrees with the op. this is perhaps because i fed my 2 for years between them and it took up a huge part of my life. so it became something i felt strongly about and perhaps a little smug. and in true counsellory fashion, i am owning that smugness

Believe me, ff was MUCH easier for me!!

Snap piffle thats why I BF too and its why I co slept as well

mrsdd, you're completely out of order to call millions of women 'selfish and lazy'.

In answer to your question, 'why do some women not even try?' - other than the exceptions listed in your OP, I'd point to the generally hostile public environment where bf-ing is concerned. How many times on here have we heard stories of womem being verbally abused, publically humiliated or bullied for bf-ing their babies in public, or having to face down hostility from their own partners and families?

Only read OP.

YABU to call these women selfish and lazy.

You have no idea what makes a woman make the choice not to breast feed.

Why judge them at all? Why not just support all new mums and let them make decisions theselves about how they will deal with their baby?

i honestly cannot understand. if the mother knows its the best thing for the baby. why any mum wouldn't want to do the best thing for them???.

You must be a wind up, surely?

MrsDD - have you read any of the responses?????

thats why im asking, so someone and can give me an idea of why they do this.
i honestly am willing to listen.

Because whats the point in having a breastfed baby when the mother is knackered/depressed/sore/angry/disturbed by doing it!?

How does that benefit the baby?