To think this is CF and inappropriate and say no?

[KindaProm]

Well actually, I've already said no, and I'm getting a lot of attitude from various folk about my response sadly. So I'm here on AIBU to check myself.

A close family member, Zara has a son, Xander 17 who is at a specialist sixth form.

Every Christmas the school has a Very Fancy Christmas Event for Year 13 that all the children make massive efforts for. Think red carpet, photos, lovely food and entertainment.

They like to arrive in style.

I have a nice car. Zara would like to drive Xander in it to the event.

She's not willing to pay for insurance to drive it, and I'm not willing to fund her, so I've refused. She's not a great maneouverer anyway and I'd be concerned that she'd damage it.

She's having a hissy fit because I've RUINED his evening, they've been plotting this arrival since he joined this College. News to me, I was asked at the weekend for the event at the end of term.

Another close family member, Wilma, has called me several times to cajole, persuade and finally berate me for not allowing Zara to have this pleasure. Yes it's all about Zara, not Xander.

Wilma's DH, Vince, has also started trying to persuade me to let Zara drive it just in the grounds of the event, as its private property and insurance is almost irrelevant at that point.

I'm still saying no. Even if I'd consider it, what would I do whole she drove it on the grounds? Stand at the roadside like a plum while she pootles up the driveway?
How's she going to get to the venue?

I've offered to drive him myself but nope, not good enough; Zara needs to be there.

I'm not being unreasonable am I?

And Wilma and Vince need to stick out of it, don't they?

I think it was Yul... not that Yule wouldn't have been a fine name for that actor...
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Yanis.

YANBU

MEGA CF

No way have you ruined EVERYTHING. such drama queens. Tell Yorrick and Wilma to get fucked too

Literally no way Xander wants his mum at the event.

OP has already offered to drive him and that has been turned down because Zara is adamant she has to be there.

This woman is a self centered fool. You are not unreasonable

She sort of did you a favour when she refused to pay for the insurance. If she was willing to pay for it, there would then be pressure on you to let her use your car…… which you are under absolutely no obligation to, at all, whatsoever, end of.

Poor Zara….. is her Range Rover (cos she sounds like the sort of person who would drive one) not good enough for her precious Xandi to be seen in?

That would be 3rd party cover. Effectively leaving op's car uninsured.

Usually, but not always. Agreed that it’s most likely in this case.

Weren’t you planning on a road trip then anyway @KindaProm!!!

Chauffeurs uniform 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Yorick - as in Hamlet(?) “Alas poor Yorick. I knew him.

yanbu. You offered to drive. Why is that not okay. Is mum planning to wear a chauffeur’s outfit?

At DD's prom she went with friends in a friend's DF's vintage car. We went seperately in our plebmobile and took photos as they arrived. A lot of people did this. Can't Zara do that. And Yakub.

Yoshi

Yvon French male version of Yvonne

or Yusef

I don’t lend my car to anyone unless I know they are VERY competent drivers.

Tell Zara to fuck off! Easy. That or buy her own car.

Yoko!

Why won't she just pay for the sodding insurance?

'Plebmobile' has given me a laugh, thank you!

Youssou (and in Youssou N'Dour)

Alas, poor Yorick, Zara is a massive CF.

So she's so keen for her son to have a sports car entrance to the event she is willing to break the law and drive without insurance?

I wouldn't do that in my own car never mind a powerful sports car belonging to someone else.

And at this point even if she offered to get the insurance it would still be a hard no from me as you can bet if there was any damage she would not cough up the insurance excess.

Alas poor Yorick, he was unable to find a way into the story.

But seriously, the whole 'well its private property so you don't need insurance' line is hilarous. So what happens if it gets a bump on the private property? Are they going to pay for the damage if they don't want to pay for insurance??! Hmm no. Why put yourself at risk of being exposed to the cost of a problem?

Xander can be a Bus Wanker instead, if Mum doesn't want to pay to look after your car.

If Zara wants to pose in a posh vehicle (which is, after all, what this is all about), she'll have to buy one or hire one. End of.

Does she want to pretend the car is hers, then?

So she's so keen for her son to have a sports car entrance to the event she is willing to break the law and drive without insurance?

you're not breaking the law if you have fully comp on your own car and it allows you to drive any other car - but its only 3rd party so if you damage the car youre left with the bill - or the owner is