To think this is CF and inappropriate and say no?

[KindaProm]

Well actually, I've already said no, and I'm getting a lot of attitude from various folk about my response sadly. So I'm here on AIBU to check myself.

A close family member, Zara has a son, Xander 17 who is at a specialist sixth form.

Every Christmas the school has a Very Fancy Christmas Event for Year 13 that all the children make massive efforts for. Think red carpet, photos, lovely food and entertainment.

They like to arrive in style.

I have a nice car. Zara would like to drive Xander in it to the event.

She's not willing to pay for insurance to drive it, and I'm not willing to fund her, so I've refused. She's not a great maneouverer anyway and I'd be concerned that she'd damage it.

She's having a hissy fit because I've RUINED his evening, they've been plotting this arrival since he joined this College. News to me, I was asked at the weekend for the event at the end of term.

Another close family member, Wilma, has called me several times to cajole, persuade and finally berate me for not allowing Zara to have this pleasure. Yes it's all about Zara, not Xander.

Wilma's DH, Vince, has also started trying to persuade me to let Zara drive it just in the grounds of the event, as its private property and insurance is almost irrelevant at that point.

I'm still saying no. Even if I'd consider it, what would I do whole she drove it on the grounds? Stand at the roadside like a plum while she pootles up the driveway?
How's she going to get to the venue?

I've offered to drive him myself but nope, not good enough; Zara needs to be there.

I'm not being unreasonable am I?

And Wilma and Vince need to stick out of it, don't they?

if you lend it on this then there will be more requests in the future.

It's only a bloody sixth-form party fgs. What happens for his 18th, leaving bash, first ball at uni etc etc

stay firm say no

and the other CFs can butt out

I used to know a guy called Yoyo, a nickname for Johann.

I also think that these kids, whilst 18 are fairly innocent, are the type to grow up and be the next generation of entitled pricks

Yvette (formerly Yves but now identifies as female. Zara is taking it quite badly, which is why she has gone off the deep end about Xander's party).

She doesn't want to pay insurance? And you're reluctant anyway due to her driving 'ability'?

Then it's a hard no.

She can take you up on your offer to drive him yourself or hire a car elsewhere.

Not your problem.

Taking him yourself should be the perfect solution. Zara could then arrive in advance and take photos/ film the auspicious moment. Too bad that she doesn't think that's enough. No way should you let her or anyone else drive your car without insurance! Saying you've ruined the event is pure emotional blackmail.

Sports cars are so last millennium. Xander should be arriving by helicopter. Surely the College has a helipad?

Yousef?

oh please tell us what car it is op. YANBU

But if you drive it no one will think its Zara's car... her moment will be ruined!

Nope, if she won't pay for insurance she won't pay for damage. Repeat to family members you're happy to drive him so she can take photos, that's the deal take it or leave it.

God no, what an entitled twat.

Your car, your choice. You've been more than accommodating by offering the compromise of driving him yourself.

Tves

Yorick

Yancy

Yakov*

Yehudi

Many Jewish names beginning with "J" can also be spelled with "Y"

Should have read on - I've said similar.

Great minds, eh?

Gosh what a lot of responses while I was at work. 😲

Ive no idea about the short insurance costs, her reaction of no way not bothering unnecessary made it not even worthwhile enquiring, and probably getting a thousand emails regarding it 🙄.

Yes she is the golden sister 😂.

Xander is rather lovely, he's a responsible lad who's very grounded, there's no way he'd risk driving it, he's rather fond of it.

The cat is a jaguar.

Put it in for a service* so no one can try anything stupid. She may not want to be your friend after this but that's not a great loss.

• A mate's garage would do perfectly well. Zara and co are being a tad entitled. The service should include tea and biscuits. Cake for the deluxe service.

Vince can take both of them in his Plebsmobile, park outside the school gates and wait for OP to arrive sporting her best Angela-Basset-Strange-Days bodyguard outfit/ chauffeur’s cap (delete as appropriate).
OP takes Zara up to the school (interior lights on!) so SHE can have her moment of glory and take pictures, then circles back to pick up shivering Xinderello and do the same thing.
But don’t hang around to bring them home. Vince can do that.
And of course Zara will have some compromising and grovelling to do before you accept.

<gasp>

I missed him, too!

The cat is a jaguar.

Your cat flap must be massive!

Do you have big mice where you are?

Is Zara a she-cat tamed by the purr of a jaguar?

Whoaa here she comes....

Excellent typo.
Unless you have an actual jaguar & you just threw that in there, apropos of nowt, & your 2 seater motor is a lovely wee Porche or summat.

The cat is a jaguar

Best typo ever 😆😆🐆

No, yanbu! No insurance makes it even more so.

Presumably if she's not prepared to cover extra insurance cover, she's not going to cough up if she damages it either? 🙄

My DF owned a soft-top MGF for a number of years and he once transported a double mattress on its boot-rack.

"The cat is a jaguar"

Massive drip feed OP 😅

But yeah yanbu, Zara is batshit as is everyone else trying to guilt trip you into this madness. You've offered to chauffeur for gods sake surely she can just turn up in advance and be waiting at the entrance to snap a few pics of her lad getting out of the car, why does she have to drive?

Unless she's told everyone she's the owner of the Jag.... 😳🤭

YOTAM

Ottolenghi.

Could cater for the event too.