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To be upset over this woman all evening and most of Sunday

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Wheresmemum · 27/11/2023 00:30

So I've recently joined a women's social group and went out with them for the second time last night. Everything seemed fine and we were all still getting to know each other. But I noticed one woman being really "off" with me. I genuinely didn't say anything wrong to her and be offensive in any way. So as I was telling the others that I'm really excited because my 20 year old daughter and I are planning on going away for a few days to Spain, she piped up and told me and everyone that I'll really hate it. She said she'd been and it was awful so I'll find it awful too! She also added that she couldn't believe I'm going on holiday with my daughter and wasn't I worried about safety? Us being two women travelling alone! I was really upset and annoyed, mainly because I was really looking forward to getting away (arsehole husband issues) and she went on and on about how she'd never go anywhere without her husband blah blah blah 😬She isn't aware of my issues with AH (Arsehole Husband). Anyway, I let her get to me to the point where I came home and just cried and started worrying that maybe going away with my daughter might not be such a good idea after all. And I really can't understand what this woman's issue was! The sad thing is this isn't the first time this has happened with women, I seem to set them off in some way! Someone told me that I'm too nice and that gets to them, why I don't know! (I'm a woman too btw, in case my post makes it sounds like I'm not ☺️) I have a few lovely close friends so I'm capable of making friends with other women. Has anyone else had this experience of other women behaving "off" with them without reason?

OP posts:
ImCamembertTheBigCheese · 04/01/2024 07:37

Brilliant update OP!

Thistlewoman · 04/01/2024 13:33

Thats such good news-so glad to hear that you and your daughter had a great time and will be holidaying together again! That nasty woman who tried to spoil your time away together has had to eat her words!!

cerisepanther73 · 04/01/2024 15:56

@Wheresmemum

Yes i have experienced this a few or several times in life,

I 🤔 think she is either bit envious that you can afford to go off on adventure like this and she can't, or you are going to have a break or whatever,
and she feels run down exhausted,

or
there is just something about her in her background that she is 🙁 unhappy disillusionment about,

Don't let her stop you from enjoying yourself with your daughter on your adventure abroad in Spain,
obviously take usaul precautions such as being aware of pick pocketor's in certain busy areas such as at markets
being aware of dodgy areas ect,

In life you will not like or get on with everyone you come across for all sorts of reasons, is neigh on impossible

Why care about her opinions or and her feelings?
she doesn't care a shit about your feelings,

Her opinions are not coming from a genuine place of concern for you safety or welfare,

Obviously there are some places in the world that are riskier than other places...

Have a good time and when you come back be sure you take photos of the good time you had with your daughter on Facebook or and mobile,

Make sure you show her how 🤔 much fun good times you had,
and watch the expression on her face L.o.l 🤣 or her scurry away to get away from you as she is a bit envious.

Sparagmos · 10/01/2024 04:12

I get on better with men because they are less 'off' with me less often. It's ironic as I prefer the company of women - but I guess I have to qualify that: robust women who are comfortable around lesbians!

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