when asked how did you sleep, the correct answer is Fine thank you

[Crumpetdisappointment]

my dm stayed with me as were went away for the night to see dd

up early the day of departure, how did you sleep i asked, i had made her a hot water bottle
her answer was she kept being woken by someone going to the bathroom and the light making a noise

i thought that was the wrong answer and sets us off on a bad foot, just lie surely?
obviously that someone may well have been dh who does use the loo at night but he doesnt put the light on, nor does he flush
i came downstairs at 4.00 am myself due to early waking , possibly caused by DH but I never complain

would you have lied in this situation or is it fair enough to complain?

We had a flood and had to spend a month in our guest room I now feel mortified we made friends and family put up with such a shitty mattress, I feel kind of embarrassed

If you don't want to know. Don't ask

There’s no point in asking if you’re already expecting the ‘fine thankyou’ answer, unless you’re just being polite and not willing to engage with an honest opinion

In your mind perhaps.
You asked your mum a question and she answered it honestly.
If you don’t like the answer, don’t ask the question lol simples
And why be put on a bad foot?
She’s your mum

Don’t ask if you just want your own mother to lie to you. Totally disingenuous cannot even imagine expecting my mum to do this.