Who should have got up?

[Autieangel]

Dh and I went to bed around 945 last night. I couldn't sleep and at about 1030 I heard a loud bang in the house. Like a crashing noise. We have 4 year old ds in his bedroom and a dog downstairs.

I woke dh who said it was probably nothing. I thought one of us should check in case it was to do with our son.

Dh refused so I checked the house alone and concluded our son had put toys on his bed and must have kicked some off.

I was annoyed that dh left it to me and essentially went back to sleep while I walked round the house alone.

Who's unreasonable here?

Ugh, so many trolls on this thread.

Yanbu OP. If you suspect there’s an intruder in the house then of course he shouldn’t have left you to deal with it alone, what a twat.

If I thought there was an intruder in the house I’d ask DH to come with me and we’d go first to our son then check the rest of the house.

Haha, I'm a straight woman. Duh

So you see your life as more valuable than your husband's?

If I thought there was an intruder in the house I’d ask DH to come with me and we’d go first to our son then check the rest of the house.

TBF that's what many people would do if they thought there was an intruder and had a partner @Ofa. The fact that OP dithered (and pretty obviously didn't say exactly that to her DP) makes me suspect she knew full well that they were in no danger.

Odd noise? I would have just gone and investigated.

Sounds of a break in? I would have quickly woken DH/rushed to DC/rung police - very speedily in that order. Though I would definitely not have encouraged DH to confront a potential intruder.

Or perhaps that OP is less likely to be able to fend off an intruder.

Hmm 🤔
Well if you are a straight woman then you're a straight woman who isn't capable of critical thinking 😂

You cannot be a feminist and think you need a man to protect you.
Why? Explain!!

A feminist is someone who supports equal rights for women. We don't need to do x, y and z in order to have those rights. We are still allowed to have personal preferences and make choices. We don't HAVE to do everything that men might have traditionally done. We just have the right to. They are rights, not obligations.

Men can do whatever they want and still have the same rights as the other men. Yet women are expected to do and behave in certain ways or else we're not deserving of equal rights or can't say that we support equal rights for women 🤔Make that make sense!

You keep banging on about how women who feel this way think that men should risk their life because womens lives are more valuable and blah blah. Well women risk their lives having babies. Many men choose to be the ones to 'risk their lives' if there are intruders etc. Women have the babies because of biology, and a huge factor in men taking the protector role is also biology.

I certainly don't believe in the old women first on lifeboats shit, but you think that to be a feminist that women within their personal relationships are not allowed to have certain relationship dynamics or else they're not entitled to have equal rights in the world or to say that they support equal rights for women 🤔🤔 Bizarre.

Yanbu OP. If you suspect there’s an intruder in the house then of course he shouldn’t have left you to deal with it alone, what a twat

He's a twat, even though the OP never told him she thought there was an intruder, and in fact, actually told him she thought it was something else?

I never stated I was a feminists, because feminist want men to be subservient to women. Equality is not expecting a man to be your protector.

With that pregnancy bs, the only decision a man has is to have unprotected sex, every other decision on being pregnant is ours alone, you cannot blame a man because you agreed to unprotected sex, you didn't take the morning after pill and you didn't have an abortion.

@Jordy223451
I didn't say you were or weren't a feminist. You're the one telling people they can't be feminists if they expect their partner to be a protector which isn't true.

You still didn't explain your statement about how you cannot be a feminist and expect a man (your partner) to protect you. You just repeated the sentence 😂

And I wasn't blaming a man for pregnancy or saying that if the woman dies it's his fault, I'm saying that women bear the risk of pregnancy because of biology, and many men chose to bear the risk of protecting their partner because of biology also.