@TheChosenTwo in fairness, I am 26 and I’ve been woken up quite a lot from lots of different sounds - I’ve lived in Germany and all over the UK in varying types of areas from “rough” to the countryside. Only once has that noise been an attempting Intruder and to confirm - this noise was the quietest and least likely of them all to have been one you would expect of an intruder.
Thankfully my family dog got up and growled at the window. I was 19 at the time and home alone in my parents house ( I had already moved out), and yes, maybe I was being a wimp. But at the time, where I lived people were getting raped and seriously assaulted in a so called “public park” just behind our house. So no, I was not going to go investigate and/or defend our house. Now, had my now husband been there, I know he’d have gone to investigate and I’d have felt a lot calmer knowing he had. Instead I sat up bolt right in bed for 2 hours until my parents came home and I could relax. It was only midnight at the time of the intruders attempt.
So forgive me for being a wimp and being wary of what loud noises in your house are - some have just been unexplained and downright weird, fyi! (Bookshelf and picture frames slightly moved downstairs… no sign of burglar but a MASSIVE bookshelf moved? Sleepwalker? Who knows)
But I stand by my point, whether it’s likely to be a burglar or not, I actually think human instinct is either fight or flight - from what you have said, yours is to fight, mine is to flight. My partners instinct is to fight and he’s a lot bigger and I’ll let him (I’d rather he didn’t fyi, but I also know I can’t stop his instinct to go and protect our home).
For reference, I actually weigh more than my partner (I am 5 ft 3 and 60kg, 3 months PP for reference, so no, I’m not obese or anything like that) but he is easily 5x stronger than me. He does also box and do other such sports, however.
My point being, I’m glad you don’t find the noises anything to be concerned about and would rather go look yourself. Good for you. But that doesn’t mean you should put other women down for not feeling the same or having the same instinct as you. I think it’s more reasonable to assume most people (largely women) would rather avoid confrontation with a potential intruder in their home and that’s fine. I also think it’s fine for them to ask their partner/husband. They can only go and say no! And that’s not wrong either.
fyi we’ve two Staffies, one whom never barks unless there is something to bark at, and his bark when he is letting you know there is a “danger” is very different to his bark when he’s playing. Now, at night, he has barked on average of once every two weeks in a very aggressive “danger” bark and growled. Each time, it’s been a “false alarm” but every time, there have been people outside/in the distance. Sometimes it’s a bloody pheasant. But every time, my husband has gone down to not only check he is okay, but to just check the house and outside for what it could be setting our dog off.
I don’t think it’s unreasonable to do so and check for your own peace of mind. Stop putting other women down (you’re not the only one doing so on this thread) and accept that you’re not all heroes