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Self centered daughter

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Mandy63 · 20/11/2023 21:35

My daughter is 34 years old and transgender ( born male) the reason I mention this is I'm not sure if it has anything to do with her attitude.
I'm also not sure if she is on the autism spectrum or if I'm just looking for something to prove she's not just self absorbed
2 years ago she moved in with her new partner and everything seemed fine.
About a month ago her partner came to me and said that my daughter was driving her mad. Not helping around the house, leaving cups and plates in the bedroom and even leaving her partner to look after my granddaughter when she went to stay.
They have since split and her partner has moved out. My daughter cannot afford the rent on her own and has an eviction notice. I found out today that the rent is due again in 2 days and she doesn't have it.
She has known for a few weeks that she needs to look for somewhere to live, go to the council, start packing etc. None of which she has done. Finally today she went to the council but has to wait for an appointment
Knowing how urgent things are and obviously being worried about her I took the afternoon off work and asked her to come round. Oh no she couldn't do that as she couldn't face doing anything else today and had plans with a friend.
I was so angry with her I'm afraid she received a very curt txt and also one from her older brother who saw how upset it made me.
At the moment I'm leaving her to it, she's 34 with a 10 yr old daughter and needs to start to grow up
Should I stay out of it and let her either sink or swim?

OP posts:
Helleofabore · 23/11/2023 10:04

Cailin66 · 23/11/2023 09:37

I'm not a bit surprised you got confused. The OP has clearly stated the son has transitioned into being a woman, and you don't seem to understand that process. But the OP knows that he's her daughter now. And therefore he's the mother of the her grandchild as well.

Have I missed it cailin and you have been joking around the whole time?

Emotionalsupportviper · 23/11/2023 18:10

Cailin66 · 23/11/2023 09:37

I'm not a bit surprised you got confused. The OP has clearly stated the son has transitioned into being a woman, and you don't seem to understand that process. But the OP knows that he's her daughter now. And therefore he's the mother of the her grandchild as well.

So - "he's" OP's daughter, is he? Now that "he's" a woman?

And "he's" the mother of the *OP's grandchild?

You can't even keep your delusions consistent.

Emotionalsupportviper · 23/11/2023 18:12

Helleofabore · 23/11/2023 10:04

Have I missed it cailin and you have been joking around the whole time?

Oh - that's a thought.

Is is irony @Cailin66 ?

Cailin66 · 24/11/2023 09:17

Emotionalsupportviper · 23/11/2023 18:10

So - "he's" OP's daughter, is he? Now that "he's" a woman?

And "he's" the mother of the *OP's grandchild?

You can't even keep your delusions consistent.

Edited

Unfortunately I have a problem with pronouns. I don't know how to avoid them. So apologies if I am miss-prononning. You constantly criticising me isn't helping. I'm doing my best.

scorpiogirly · 24/11/2023 09:59

I'm sorry OP but I am not buying it. Just sounds like male entitlement to me.

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