Boyfriend hurt me on purpose during sex

[Feelingsad192]

I just need some advice because he won't speak to me, he's upset with me and is acting like I've done something wrong.

Boyfriend and I were having sex (after an argument about me feeling like he doesn't care about my pleasure during sex as he never makes an effort to finish me off)

While having sex he asked me to turn over, I have endometriosis and this position is very painful for me. We do that position occasionally (it's not always painful depending on time of the month) this time I said no as I knew it would hurt he asked again I said no again so he grabbed my leg and put it on his shoulder- a position I have never liked and he knows hurts me and at this time in my cycle it is exceptionally painful so I screamed. I started crying from the pain and he's stormed off mad.
I've asked him to speak to me, he doesn't want to, he's upset with me, I have no idea what I did.
I'm in so much pain, it's really uncomfortable and painful.
I've told him I'm in pain, he doesn't seem to give a shit.

Stop caring about you might have done and focus on what he actually did. It’s gross. And a massive red flag.

Stop engaging with him. Stop allowing him to distract from his own horrific behaviour. Focus on yourself.

This !!!

Is it worth being in relationships. Most of the times they bring up more problems than they solve 😢. I wish I had help with the kids and I like cuddling. But then I would have to deal with a lot of shite😢

He raped you. You didn't consent to be penetrated in that position. He is a rapist. You were raped.

OP
did you get away?

*THIS THREAD IS FROM NOVEMBER

OP HAS NOT POSTED SINCE NOVEMBER*

That said, if you do come back to it at some point OP, I hope you are doing OK, happy, taking care of yourself and having / planning 2024 free of the prick.

OP, did you get away?

Run. Do not look back.

This is rape.

Leave him now. Things will get worse, not better.

He has crossed a line, told you what he is really like, and you will never be able to go backdrop this - and nor will he. He's done it once - forced you to have sex you don't want to have - and he will do it again.

He is scared. He thought he could punish you for saying no and get away with it. Since you're not letting this go he's panicking. He's trying to convince you this is not a big deal and when that doesn't work he will start apologising. But he isn't sorry, he's just sorry things are not back to normal already.

That being said. If a man needs more than one discussion about him needing to satisfy you sexually then he is a selfish prick. Then you add his abusiveness (like what is intentionally hurting someone (that he admits) if bit abuse) time to get the fuck the out asap.

Edit: didn't realise it's an old thread. Hope op got out and is safe!

Hope you're okay, OP x

Oh Lord - I hadn't noticed.

Has this poor woman not had any response until now - how did that slip through the net? She must feel so alone.

@Feelingsad192 - I do hope that you have got away from this horrible man. Please come back to the thread if you see these notifications. There are people here who can suggest practical support, and many who can offer moral support to help.

@Feelingsad192 I hope you managed to get out of this awful relationship

She did get lots of responses and posted a couple of replies when the thread was new, she mentioned valuing the support.

The thread got bumped back into active but people often just read the OP and then reply so miss that it's an old thread where things have probably moved on quite a lot.

Thank you @Verity - that's a relief!

Zombie thread alert!