To not plate my 10 year old's pizza?

[Mastmw7g]

DH does most of the cooking and tends to cater to DD. I've become concerned that she will not eat when hungry unless he puts food in front of her. He was out and we had pizza. She told me she didn't see her plate. I said to then grab a plate and join me. She said no and went to her room without eating. DH came home and became upset that she hadn't eaten and said I should have put her pizza on a plate for her.

The poll is probably a response to the idea that a 10yo SHOULD be able to select themselves a few slices of pizza.

Not the lack of response when they didn't.

I don't believe anyone thought this was about gross motor skill capability. There is simply a clear divide in those who perceive dramatic behaviour versus those who perceive the child felt genuine upset at not being included. It's sad that so many think independence at age 10 trumps children being shown they are loved and cared for.

your kids becoming physically/mentally capable of doing a job themselves doesn't mean that you, as their parent, stop doing it for them.

You keep doing it out of love/care, because as they get older, those moments where you can do the small things get less and less as they want to take over.

so put the damn pizza on a plate.

Would it really have been an effort to plate up her food? Shes 10. Theres nothing wrong with a bit of independence but given you plated your food up it should've been standard to do hers too. I couldn't just cook and tell the kids dinners ready come serve yourselves I'd feel pretty spiteful if i did that. If she was an older teen like 15 maybe 16 I'd understand the frustration

Or some sensory processing issues. If she'll eat if the food is put in front of her but will go without otherwise I'd pick my battles. Better a bit of pandering than making possible eating issues worse at this age.

Why is everyone using plate up as a verb like they’re on masterchef

Thank god someone said this
it was annoying me too 😂

Having never watched master chef I thought that it must be a regional thing! It is strange.

1. plate up verb(adverb)to put food on a plate, ready for serving

Your daughter doesn't have a food issue, she has a plate issue. She's used to the table being set when she arrives for dinner. I think people are jumping abit by suggesting she has a bad relationship with food.

You said your other kids grabbed a plate, presumably from the cupboard, why didn't you put plates on the table with the pizza?

What's wrong with your husband making your daughter food? I don't understand what the issue is here? Yes she's old enough to grab herself a snack but I see nothing wrong with making her something either.

I was thinking along these lines.
Some form of anxiety with food.

@Mastmw7g why can't you just lay the plates (and drinks) out and then call people for a meal and sit down and eat together? They can all serve themselves, together.

This makes people feel welcome at the table. Set an example