To not plate my 10 year old's pizza?

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DH does most of the cooking and tends to cater to DD. I've become concerned that she will not eat when hungry unless he puts food in front of her. He was out and we had pizza. She told me she didn't see her plate. I said to then grab a plate and join me. She said no and went to her room without eating. DH came home and became upset that she hadn't eaten and said I should have put her pizza on a plate for her.

I’m not sure watching tv whilst eating dinner is the hill to die on in protecting the UK’s culture

That's really besides the point. The kind of person that would describe a minor habit that's different from theirs but that hurts nobody as "just wrong" and stand by it is a person to be heavily avoided.

Think of the implications.

It’s just hyperbole. Not everything has implications.

It’s just hyperbole. Not everything has implications.

How do you know? The poster didn't say it was, and many people do have similarly strong views about dining conventions that they have been deadly serious about even just on this thread.

@aSofaNearYou Making value judgements is important sometimes.

I usually eat while watching something, but am aware it's not the best way to eat. I did the Noom app and really, I should get round to eating sitting somewhere designated for it and focussing on my food. But I live alone lol.

Some people also think a family meal without telly is important for various reasons.

does no one use a CHOPPING BOARD to cut the pizza up

My Mum's process is - take pizzas out of the oven
CUT ON CHOPPING BOARD
LEAVE ON CHOPPING BOARD for people to help themselves onto the plates (which one can get from the cupboard next to where pizza is)

Still, "just wrong" is excessive and shows a lack of tolerance.

No need to be tolerant of sub-par things. In fact, that's a vice rather than a virtue.

Has no one ever had a pizza delivery and just opened the boxes with plates, sides, dips, cutlery etc on the side in the living room and everyone helps themselves? Why would I plate up to my kids when I am not sure what toppings they want or how hungry they are. Everyone helps themselves until full or the pizzas are gone.

You got into an unnecessary power struggle. And she's a kid so she didn't give in, but you're a grown up so you should have done. Because ultimately you wanted her to eat. I do get that it's frustrating, I have a DC like this similar age who is totally uninterested in food, and I go out of my way to make sure that they eat.

Sub par to who?

Some people like to sit together at a designated time, watch tv and chat over a pizza and a few drinks.

In our family, there are a few things that we all sit down together and watch. Because of the kids bedtimes, we are often watching them while we eat. We have a separate dining room with no TV where we eat all our other meals, but maybe one night a week we will have a pizza or other portable dinner on the sofa. We will probably pull a board game out after too.

The family time we have in the dining room eating with proper plates and cutlery and no TV is no better nor worse than the nights we spend snuggled on the sofa in our jammies.

I’m even more scummy than that. Sometimes, on pizza night, we use napkins instead of plates and cutlery. We even fling a packet of baby wipes on the coffee table for sticky fingers. We drink straight from the can too.

We are otherwise civilised members of society with jobs, manners and such.

Says it all.

If it's not hurting you or anyone else, it's just different, then yes you should be more tolerant than genuinely thinking it's "just wrong".

@aSofaNearYou It's not as good for any person, even me. When we eat, we should be focussed solely on the food and somewhat on the company we're with maybe.

This isn't how I actually live yet tho lol

Says who? It is traditional that dinner is a key time for focused communication, but in no way inherent, the two things are not automatically linked and people can talk to each other in that way at any time they choose.

Nothing wrong with that

@SisterHyster napkins are quite fancy...

Not these ones 😂

We have various leftovers from kids parties. Unicorns, dinosaurs, rainbows, confetti. Christmas trees. Santa. Baby shower ones. Plain white ones. All sorts!

You’re a complete loon @LittleBearPad. Are you the one who was ostensibly horrified by a cool plate and lack of salad?

Have you never watched The Simpsons?

No I wasn’t. You can check.

If you don’t think that eating dinner in a bathroom is grim then you’re the loon.

However you’re the poster who’d have a fight in an empty room.

What happens at school?

Have you never watched The Simpsons?

Is that aspirational viewing?

If I Oder takeaway pizza, it gets delivered, I’ll shout ‘pizzas here’ grab a slice and walk off. I can’t see what the problem is on here with everyone moaning about a plate. The pizza comes in boxes, we all help ourselves. Why is everything on mumsnet analysed and picked apart. Sometimes it is as it is.

@threatmatrix, I couldn't agree more. If my family expected me to plate up their pizza for them, I'd be pointing out that I'm not running a restaurant, and if they want a waitress they'll have to hire one.

Maybe it was the more relaxed setting for the meal. Perhaps that’s a step too far for dd. Here even if she didn’t want to eat something dad would have been asked to remain with the family until everyone had finished eating. Obviously this is loads easier to enforce sitting at a table.

I would practice mealtimes sat round the table, serving dishes in the middle, everyone helps themself, table set with a plate and glass in each place. It may require a slower approach to start, asking her what she would like and then the person next to her serving, asking her after each spoonful, would you like some more or is that enough? I would then present her with very simple food to serve ie a basket of rolls and expect her to help herself and gradually build up.

The setting of the table can be a chore shared by all on a rota.