Husband taking a trip after daughter had accident

[36londonmum]

My daughter fell over and really injured herself, so is unable to get around without any kind of assistance. My husband had booked a golf trip with his friends prior to this happening and he still wants to go and leave me with both kids for nearly a week. It’s going to be extremely difficult for me to juggle all school pick ups and everything else that entails! I work full time and have a side job. I really wanted to know, AIBU?!

It’s a pre planned trip and assuming paid for too? People break legs all the time life doesn’t stop. My daughter has been in full legs casts on both legs at the same time and you just get on with it. Does it make life a little harder yes but to expect someone to cancel a trip is a bit much I’d say.

How did that happen? Poor girl.
What age was she?

She was 7 at the time. She had to have surgery but we still did things that were planned before hand. It just wouldn’t cross my mind to ask her dad to change plans that were already arranged

I wouldn't leave a 7-year old for a week with two broken legs to go on a holiday.
Everyone is different though.

Neither would I. I think he is selfish to go away and don't understand why he would in those circumstances.

I’d text him on your wedding anniversary whilst he is away that you want a divorce!!

Agree with the comment that he's a bit of a dick leaving it late to tell you, going for a week when you have kids that age and you clearly work hard. I wouldn't ask him to cancel but I'd make sure to arrange things for yourself and explain to him you'll want your own break soon without him in whatever form that takes

Other than physical transitions from buildings, to toilet etc I’m not sure where all the extra work comes in.
personally I think you’re being unreasonable. You knew your work commitments before he booked it.

@CantFindMyMarbles the OP has assessed the situation, she is the one involved and living this, they are her DC. Can't you just take her word about the extra work?

Oh, sorry - didn’t realise it was an echo chamber. I thought people were actually asking they’re being unreasonable….what with that being the essence of the post. 🙄

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This and child is old enough to even go upstairs on their bum. I really genuinely aren’t understanding the shit dad, shit husband comments

Op i genuinely am saying this from experience the dread is probably much worse than what it will actually be like! Plan ahead get yourself a plan. You’ve got it and when he gets back have a few trips out with mates or doing what you like and let him sort out your daughter. I really don’t think some of the stuff people saying about your husband are very fair. It seems awful but a broken leg could have been a lot worse I’d imagine. Like i said further up about having a child with 2 full casts we did it we both still did stuff we had planned and that was dealing with catheters and other things at the same time with casts quite often on our own. You really will rock it fine once it comes to it x

I would see i could pick up child with broken leg early like someone mentioned

Exactly. I'd hand him papers he needed to sign before leaving. When he asks what they are for, tell him they are divorce papers.

@CantFindMyMarbles sorry I posted bye all

You just got on with it?! On your own, working full time, for a week with 2 DC at home!? When our son broke his leg at 4 in a full hip spica our lives did indeed grind to a complete and utter halt so you must be superwoman to do it all alone while DH was off on a golf holiday for a week.

Oh,your poor little girl in a full leg cast! Your DH is a knob. My son and partner have 2 children and if my son tried to pull this trick I’d feel like killing him.

WTF? How does anyone with kids that age get to take a week off by themselves - accident or not? If I was working full-time no way would I cover for him to do that. That's just bonkers. And certainly not after the accident. His kids, his responsibilities 50% of the time. He doesn't get to shirk that for a week.

He can book himself on a golfing holiday in 10 years time. Until then he has to suck up being a parent.

How do think that would fit into OPS full time work schedule?

Are you serious?

Showering
Toileting
Dressing
Up and down stairs indoors
Pain issues
Cast anxiety
Getting drinks

Shall I carry on?

I assume the same way she would have picked her children up for this week before the injury

Well there are separate pick ups and times and we have been splitting 60-40 me

HNRTFT..obviously lots of discussion. My husband went skiing 25 years ago when my youngest who was about 12 weeks old and had been discharged from hospital with aspiration pneumonia. Baby not well,and I had a 4 and 6 year old!!
I just got on with it and did manage,but I can now say that over the years I have become very resentful. Not just about that incident ,but how his hobbies have and do come first ! I also now realise that he is autistic which took me a long time to identify and his obsessions/ interests are a big feature of his personality .
So I personally now ,25 years wiser would just say sorry but no !!

Are you being purposely provocative?