Waking boyfriend up on holiday ,aibu?

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We have saved all year for this holiday and got here yesterday.
Just to the Canary Islands but spent £3,000 for a nice suite.
The night before we came away we stayed in a nice hotel and he went to sleep at 7pm
Got up the next morning at 7am
We got here yesterday afternoon
We went to bed last night at 8pm and probably asleep for 10pm
I woke up this morning at 6am but couldn't get back to sleep as 8 hours was more than enough.
7am I got a drink from the beside cabinet and woke him up.
Apologised and after 5 mins I got up and went into living room to make a cup of tea.
He comes in moaning waking me up at 7am on holiday making tea
Anyway turned into a argument
Because I don't want to spend all holiday In bed.
He's so lazy
Honestly 8 -10 hours should be enough
Maybe I'm a little excited but I've planned this for ages now
I'm sat on balcony making no noise while he is still in bed.
He's told me I can't unpack my case till he gets up
Aibu to not want to spend all holiday in bed?
He says it's his holiday too -which it is
But surely me getting up and going in next room isn't really bad ?
I crept out

Well my ex and I would be the ones going down to breakfast just before it closes. Or missing breakfast and getting it late in a different place. We wouldn’t have gone to bed that early to be honest. And if we did I’d have not got to sleep til late. Holidays should involve some rest. And I need about 10 hours sleep myself. Longer if possible. During the week though I’m luck to get 6-8 and am permanently shattered.

Do you like to have a more active life in general or do you struggle at home too with his passivity and drinking? If you're generally ok with him not doing anything on weekends, why expect him to do anything on holidays? He's shown you who he is for 200 weekends now, take the hint love.
Go explore on your own, you don't need him for company on Canary Islands, it's safe. And perhaps at home reconsider what are you really getting from this relationship. He is either quite depressed and exhausted or lazy, but either way doesn't sound like a life partner, a half-dead partner rather. Sorry to be blunt.

Does he just laze around in bed all weekend?

I couldn't be with someone like that. It sounds really depressing.

YANBU

You're not compatible. I think you'd be happier without him. Your weekends sound draining.

I'm a nightowl, so do get up late mornings usually BUT on holiday, it's a different story. We don't waste time sleeping, my husband likes to wake early so we set alarms and we both get up early and make a full day of each and every day of our holidays.

Your boyfriend is being unreasonable by expecting you to stay in bed until he gets up many hours after you've woken. He's a dick. You carry on with your day and go have a swim or a sunbathe while he languishes in bed, wasting an expensive holiday.

I think you need to rethink your relationship with this man.

Yabu unless you have plans why does he need to get up at 7am? People need different amounts of sleep, he’s not lazy (just for this anyway) but you are rude to call him so and to wake him up

I think he’s had plenty of sleep. I don’t think you in the wrong here & if I were you, after 8 hours sleep I’d probably be awake too.

It sounds pretty lazy but for the first few days of holiday I’d let it slide, give him 48 hours…then I’d be expecting him to be awake longer than he is asleep.

hope your ok

@ifitfeelslikeparadise

why on earth op are you in the hotel watching telly?! Why aren’t you in lovely little bars eating tapas and drinking cocktails? Why??!

The getting up and going in to another room to make tea at 7am is fine, clonking around with the bedside cabinet for a drink sounds more disruptive. I'm often up before my husband on holiday and have easy to access clothes to quietly put on so I can go elsewhere to have a drink and read

I wouldn't get up that early on holiday but god he sounds lazy and boring. If you're planning on kids one day I don't know how he will manage

My partner sleeps in on weekends and holidays. I absolutely hate it. But iv learned to get up and kee myself busy. I put my work out stuff by the front door and go for a walk or a run and try my best not to wake him. It’s just who he is. Like in the beginning he would try and make me stay up late with him but I just can’t I hate being tired.

it was a problem till I realised it’s unfair to try and change your partner for stuff like this. We’re different people. It’s annoying but only if I allow myself to be annoyed by it.

It’s not just the holiday that must be an issue op. How do you spend weekends if he is in bed and literally does not go out of the front door? Do you ever socialise/go to the cinema/out for a meal? Is he watching tv in bed all the time?

Same way he does now leave it to mummy and keep the bloody kid quiet.

No he's lazy.

Well last night back in room for half 8
This morning he came down to breakfast for me at 9 and now he's lying back on the bed watching bbc news because it's "too hot "
I can't be arsed honestly

What a waste of money OP! Can't you make your own plans for the rest of the holiday? I would rather take a book with me, have a nice dinner and sit somewhere afterwards watching the world go by and not sit in a hotel room watching TV!!

Hey OP I didnt used to have a great time on holiday with my EX H either, because of his drinking, which seems to be at the core of your problem too. I think you can find someone better, that you can't wait to go away with, like I have. Good luck for the future without this waster.

He is lazy. He pretty much stays in bed all weekend, and wants to lie in bed for over 12 hours a day on holiday. When he is awake he wants to watch the news or have an early dinner. Not exactly fun for OP while on holiday.

Maybe they had a very early flight that day, say 6a.m - they would have been up from the early hours of the morning to get to the airport etc, so that may be why they went to bed early on their first night?

@ifitfeelslikeparadise
If I was you I'd get on with the holidays on my own, make plans to leave when your home, this is no life for you. What ages are you both?

@ifitfeelslikeparadise
It is very clear that the 2 of you have very different ideas on how to enjoy your holiday. Is it not fair that you each c should be free to do what gives you pleasure and enjoy ment ?

If you need a companion in order to enjoy your travel, you should travel with a like minded. If you are capable of solo travel, you should go on your own.

There is no wrong way to enjoy your vacation, other than being put down by your travel partner for not enjoying your travel on their terms.

Enjoy what remains of your vacation by doing what you want to do, and let him relax in his own way.

Is there much difference between watching TV/reading a book?

Like you I prefer to be up early on holiday and get out and enjoy it, you’ve paid a lot of money to be there. If he wanted to stay in bed and watch tv he should have stayed at home and saved himself the expense. You’ve basically paid £3,000 for a few afternoon hours in the sun. I would do as you please and leave him to the tv and I would certainly never go abroad with him again.

Ditch the sloth go enjoy your experience

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I can't believe people are thinking you should scurry about on your own holiday like a mouse. This is your holiday too. As long as you aren't obnoxiously slamming doors then you both should get to enjoy the holiday however you want.
You're not a child. You can do what you want. Get your case and get ready and go do what you want. Does he usually tell you what to do?

If he wants to sleep then fine, but surely you both are already aware of your mismatched needs for sleep.

Having a lie in doesn't come naturally to everyone. But demanding you sit quietly til he's ready to do somethibg with you would rub me up the wrong way. He'd fine himself with plenty of time to sleep because I'd be off doing on my own.