Waking boyfriend up on holiday ,aibu?

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We have saved all year for this holiday and got here yesterday.
Just to the Canary Islands but spent £3,000 for a nice suite.
The night before we came away we stayed in a nice hotel and he went to sleep at 7pm
Got up the next morning at 7am
We got here yesterday afternoon
We went to bed last night at 8pm and probably asleep for 10pm
I woke up this morning at 6am but couldn't get back to sleep as 8 hours was more than enough.
7am I got a drink from the beside cabinet and woke him up.
Apologised and after 5 mins I got up and went into living room to make a cup of tea.
He comes in moaning waking me up at 7am on holiday making tea
Anyway turned into a argument
Because I don't want to spend all holiday In bed.
He's so lazy
Honestly 8 -10 hours should be enough
Maybe I'm a little excited but I've planned this for ages now
I'm sat on balcony making no noise while he is still in bed.
He's told me I can't unpack my case till he gets up
Aibu to not want to spend all holiday in bed?
He says it's his holiday too -which it is
But surely me getting up and going in next room isn't really bad ?
I crept out

I like getting up early on holiday too. I sneak out really quietly though, whether we are with the DC too or even if it is just me and DH. As in, I pad around with bare feet so I don’t make noise, thrown something on and then put my flip flops on when I am outside the door, I wouldn’t open and close a balcony door or start making drinks.

Then, once I’m out I am free to do what I want. I love breakfast on my own and then getting a couple of loungers for the family/for DH, and just reading a book in the peace. The others can join me when they wake up, it’s their holiday too so they can make their own decisions about that.

If it’s just me with DH then I will go with him and have another coffee while he gets breakfast, as he prefers not to go alone.

Just enjoy yourself and have the holiday you want.

OP, why does his preference for being back in the room by an early hour take precedence over your wish to stay out slightly later? I'm not saying you should be forcing him out to midnight if that's his idea of a nightmare but it's a bit of give and take surely. One evening your way, one evening his way until you get home and please for the love of god split up!

If he won't do that, let him go back to the room. Go for a drink, take your phone/headphones or a book and occupy yourself with a drink (or a tea/coffee, whatever floats your boat) and just chill and relax outside the room and watch the world go by, maybe chat to others.

He sounds an utter bore, who would suck the joy out of everything!

Good job he's just a boyfriend. Sounds like this is your last holiday together

its really early to go to bed perse
If I remember rightly I had that bedtime at aged 12

Sorry... Anyone who is staying in their hotel room and coming back for 20:30 sounds terribly dull to me. I think you are having a rude awakening about your relationship. I think you'd find him very dull and boring along the line. If he's not making an effort now, it's only going to get worse.

Go out and enjoy yourself. You might meet a like-minded friend or it might be enough to get your boyfriend off his arse.

Good grief - most people would just be going out for dinner at that time! I'm sorry you're having such a wasted holiday.

I wake up early on holiday because I want to enjoy myself, not sleep in! I can sleep in at home!

Go out and enjoy yourself op! Don't wait for him. And why do you have to tiptoe around?

Just get on with it. He will miss out, why should you?

The thing I love best about holidays where it is warm enough to be out in the evenings, is to sit with a drink and people watch.

If you feel confident enough to be out on your own, I would be leaving the BF in your room and go out. I certainly wouldn't want to be eating my meal around 6pm, I'm not a toddler! And when you are out look at what other couples are doing and think about what you really want from a relationship and what you are worth

@Guesswho88 I would normally take a book if dining alone, but then end up people watching. Very different than sitting in your bedroom watching programmes you could be watching at home and not spending £3k for the privilege.

Just because your boyfriend doesn't want to make the most of this holiday in the same way that you and most other normal people would, doesn't mean that you shouldn't still get a decent enjoyment from it.

Please take the advice on board and go out without him.

Think very very carefully about what your future life, holidays, family and household would look like if you stay with this man. Don't let him suck the life out of you.

Obviously you guys aren’t compatible on holiday.
I would definitely make this your last holiday together and just go with other people in future.

Whats the relationship like when you’re at home?
Are you more compatible then?

Both me and my partner are not morning people. It doesn't matter if we went to sleep at 8pm or midnight, 7am is just too early for us. We're up before 7am with work but when we're not working we'll sleep till 9/10.
LBut reading your other posts he's going to bed early and getting up late, then staying in the room because it's too hot which is really annoying. What is the point of going on holiday if you spend most of the time in the room? I'd be annoyed and just do my own thing.

Unfortunately DH is a "back in the room by 8.30" type, but this is due to health issues. It does make evenings on holiday rather dull for me, but he had a close brush with cancer so I would rather have an early night than no DH.

I'd honestly just leave to it and go and do my own thing. Amd so would my OH if I was like that.

Why can't you leave him in the room and go down to the pool or whatever?

That's not a holiday, that's being at home in a different country! I'd be going stir crazy, the weather there is beautiful at the moment, tell him to stay up longer and enjoy what's on offer

You can go out by yourself? I've had cancer with many complications, but I don't limit myself with what I do. You don't have to have an early night you choose to have one.

Yes. Reading is a much more active process.

If you read ops posts you would see it's his normal behaviour

I think you should go out on your own and do a Shirley Valentine ditch the arse and change your life.

If you want to while away your day in bed, you might as well stay at home and do it.

I don't feel comfortable sitting in a bar on my own, especially if it is some way from our accommodation and it means walking back on my own (we usually go self catering). We haven't had a holiday abroad since 2019, so I'm a little out of practice when it comes to holidays.

When DD was younger she made some friends on one holiday and I got friendly with her friends' parents. DH retired to the room after eating and I would sit with the other adults and have a drink with them.

Not staying in bed all day watching TV is not a boot camp though, is it?

WTAF!!????

He doesn’t get up all weekend? Does he have a disability or underlying condition? This is very odd behaviour every single weekend.

What do you see in him? You couldn’t have children with him that’s for sure!!

DH is not an early riser, I usually get up and leave the room. If I wake him up temporarily, he can go back to sleep, but he wouldn't get angry at me.