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to expect dd to tolerate her brothers playing while she's trying to sleep?

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Mastmw7g · 13/11/2023 05:39

My 10 year old likes to sleep late, but her brothers wake up early and play in the mornings. They make noise when they play. I think it's a good thing because they're spending time together and not on screens. But dd keeps getting upset that they wake her up. Then she comes out of her room and it starts a fight and dh gets upset because that wakes him up and he also likes to sleep late.

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CatsTheWayToDoIt · 15/11/2023 20:11

My 8 year old can sleep until 10, easily. She’s always slept in this late whenever she gets the chance, and she doesn’t stay up late! She slept through the night from 5 weeks - some kids just sleep a lot. My 4 and 12 year old sons are up at 7 and play loudly, but luckily she’s always slept through it (especially as she has the big room and they play in there). No solutions from me, but I don’t think 10am is weird in any way.

Night409 · 15/11/2023 20:47

Put the toys downstairs.

My friend has an Xbox that her kids are allowed to play on in the mornings on the weekend - but only until the adults are awake.

So the quieter they are, the longer they can play on it.

I think it’s genius.

Mintesso · 15/11/2023 21:52

Lateliein · 13/11/2023 05:58

They should learn respect for others. Just watch morning TV ffs.

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Why should OP stop her boys’ healthy socialising play to shove her boys on screens because her DD wants the house to be silent until ten?

If they were up at 5am they should be quiet. But after 8am noisy play is fine. Get your DD some earplugs, I sleep with them every day because birdsong wakes me up.

ZiriForGood · 16/11/2023 02:08

Mintesso · 15/11/2023 21:52

Why should OP stop her boys’ healthy socialising play to shove her boys on screens because her DD wants the house to be silent until ten?

If they were up at 5am they should be quiet. But after 8am noisy play is fine. Get your DD some earplugs, I sleep with them every day because birdsong wakes me up.

DD doesn't ask for the whole house to be silent. They are noisy at the other side of her bedroom door.
It would be even healthier socialising if they were considerate enough to do it downstairs.

Mastmw7g · 16/11/2023 04:35

katepilar · 15/11/2023 20:01

From your posts I get an impression that you are actually putting your own "want" before your dds need to sleep. I dont get why you didnt send your boys to play downstairs when you have the space and let them play in front of your dds room when she is asleep to start with, let alone after she complains about it.
Yes, it would be great if all of you woke up at about the same time but people are just different. I am sure your dd feels like she doesnt matter if she cant get her sleep needs met. You can try to get her go to sleep earlier and wake earlier and see if that helps. Simply telling her to put up with it isnt very understanding parenting in my eyes.

I've moved the toys since making this post, as I've already replied in the thread. We only moved into this house at the end of October, so we're still getting acquainted with the best way to use the space. Obviously it wasn't working the way we first had it set up.

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katepilar · 17/11/2023 14:56

Mastmw7g · 16/11/2023 04:35

I've moved the toys since making this post, as I've already replied in the thread. We only moved into this house at the end of October, so we're still getting acquainted with the best way to use the space. Obviously it wasn't working the way we first had it set up.

Its not about using the space in the house. Its just basic common sense.

SALWARP2023 · 17/11/2023 18:19

Why not get up with the boys and supervise them or take them out if possible. I did this when my son was young.

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