Why are you awful?

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Aibu to ask why you are awful?

I have friends and a good family who I get on with 99% of the time (I think) and like to think of myself as a very normal person but I defiantly have my flaws that I am trying to recognise and own.

I've rubbed some people up the wrong way this week by my inability to apologise when I make a mistake. It is absolutely the worst possible thing when someone points out a mistake I have made or criticise me. I know I hold some childhood trauma of criticism and I get a physical reaction when it happens in adulthood and I quickly try to deflect and manipulate situations to try and wriggle my way out of holding my hands up and saying 'yep, sorry'

I also think I have a tight grip of control over others peoples ideas. I really back myself and believe my ideas to be correct unless someone gives me a watertight alternative that I can't find fault with. If someone's idea has cracks in it, I will usually dismiss it and just bound ahead with my own. I know this pisses people off but I'm so scared of going with perceived cracked ideas as I'm convinced they will fail.

Would just love to know what other failings you recognise in yourself to make me feel like I'm not a horrid person?

I cannot stand moaning, I have zero sympathy for anyone who moans about something but does nothing to improve the issue. I switch off totally and think it's all their own fault

Oh wow. I love this thread.

I struggle to “click” with any of the school mums. They just don’t seem to like me. I think it’s because I’m younger and thinner than all of them which I know is very arrogant and insufferable.

I buy far too many clothes.

I am not present enough as a parent.

I am terrible at enjoying a moment and feeling appreciative. I’m always convinced something is about to go wrong.

I don't click with the school mums because parts of the school were built in the 1980s and still hasn't been surveyed for crumbling RAAC concrete and they seem to believe that the government "wouldn't be allowed" to let our children go to school every day in buildings at risk of collapse.

Even though the government has been doing precisely that for years hoping to pass the problem on to the next lot.

More than half the schools at most risk of collapse haven't even been surveyed yet.

The 8 surveyors the government put on the task expect to finish in about 15 months if no more schools are discovered to have been built during the 70s, 80s, and 90s,

It drives me crackers.

Maybe it's the arrogance not the youngness and thinness? Just a thought.

I'm smug about the fact that I've been young and old, fat and thin, but I've always had a cracking rack.

I’m not really interested in other people and I often can’t be bothered to pretend I am.
I am impatient and don’t suffer fools gladly.

I’m a big hit at party’s me 😂

Haha yes maybe 😂 Just being honest since that’s what the thread is all about it, after all. It’s not like I’m not acknowledging it 😁

You're too awful for a why are you awful thread.
That's so funny.

I think I've become a raging snob. Or at least I am more aware of it. And there is no reason for me to think myself better than anyone else, and yet clearly I do. And I get super judgemental about parents / people who seem to just spend so much money on trends, or keeping up with the joneses or their kids having designer clothes and shoes, or having the latest SUV and going for a couple of weeks AI in Turkey every year, or spending a shed load of money on 'experiences and making memories', especially around Christmas time, when I assume (maybe wrongly) that it's highly unlikely that they can really afford it. Perhaps that's more a criticism of British society though, and how everyone (no matter their income or situation) feels entitled to do and have everything that anyone else has.

It feels good to get that off my chest!

Because I am refusing to move for the gobby woman who is currently beeping and swearing at me in the car park cos she sees I'm leaving and she wants my space.

At first, I jumped out and said to her that I would be a minute cos I'm waiting for my windscreen to clear. When she started beeping, I thought "oh, dear, this might take a bit longer to clear than I originally thought."

She is still there waiting. I'm not in a rush.

I've had people surround my table in bars because they fancied the look of our seats. This has happened on a couple of occasions, with these larger groups surrounding me and DH when just the two of us were there.

DH and I resolutely sat there refusing to take their broad hints, chatting and laughing and then coming to the consensus 'oooh, we're having a good time in here. Shall we stay and have another drink?' Their facial expressions at that point were priceless; wish in retrospect that I'd sat there and drawn them!

In a similar situation a bunch of rowdy loudmouths, evidently just recently disgorged from York racecourse onto the Leeds train one Friday night, tried the same trick when they wanted my table seat. I merely sat there, earphones blaring Rammstein to drown out their racket, tapping interestedly into my laptop. I did have to ask one of them to be so good as to stop treading on my feet. But move, I did not.

People like this are not very bright if they haven't realised that this is not the way to get other people's cooperation. Hope your impatient driver didn't burst too many blood vessels in the end!

I'm highly egotistical and the poster girl for 'Main Character Syndrome'.

oh this too. I don’t know that I’m egotistical as such but I’m very much the main character in my head. It’s a side effect of being anti social I suppose. There are very few other people to think about, only my parents really.

I’m also completely useless in a crisis <hangs head>

Ive just thought of another thing😂. I get really annoyed at people who constantly want to talk about break ups, difficult stuff in their lives. Fine talk about it when it happens but stop banging on about it.

Why do some people need so much emotional support just grow a pair and get on with it.

There are exceptions to this and fully aware I am being a bit unreasonable.