Husband ill, but messing up house

[Mumof118]

Husband is poorly. A bad cold. Temperature. Sinuses all stuffed up. Headache etc. I leave him on the sofa and clean the house without him today, letting him rest.

I finish cleaning and he decided to get showered and dressed. Decides to shave in the freshly cleaned bathroom getting hairs everywhere. Doesn’t since the soap suds off the bath screen so the bubbles are drying to the glass.

Comes upstairs, sits on the bed to put his socks on. Doesn’t straighten up the bed and then walks across the carpet leaving tiny black bits of old sock.

Goes into en-suite and brushes his teeth, getting toothpaste spit droplets all over the mirror and shower door. Leave wet towel hanging over my display white towels.

Now I feel really angry. Took me ages on my day off to do all of the cleaning by myself. I work full time so value the weekends and am pissed off that I’m now cleaning up after him.

DH says - the house is to be lives in. Then tries to hug me.

Who’s being unreasonable?

Wow you’re a fun sponge 😂

Actually, @TheSpikySpinosaurus is spot on, IMO

Are you quite well, @Fireal ? Your posts are honestly bizarre.

Display towels in an en-suite? How many people wander through your en-suite to view them? 😂

Actually, I think it’s pretty disrespectful of him to spit and leave hair all around the bathroom- like you’re the skivvy who has to clean up the mess he’s made, as it would be beneath him to wipe a mirror or basin. And to do it immediately after you’ve cleaned feels deliberate.

Homes are for living in, but they don’t need to made dirty on purpose.

It sounds like everyone needs slippers.

We don’t have fisplay towels, but every towel has a specific job or room , and I’d get annoyed if anyone messed up my system.

I'm half with you here OP. But only because in my house there is something about the smell of my flash bathroom cleaner that triggers my husbands bowels to move and that bothers me. I clean the bathroom and he is suddenly about to shit his pants and needs to immediately get on the toilet.

I also have one display towel but it is for decorative purposes only and is displayed on a shelf folded neatly under a ceramic duck. All other towers can be used.

I also have one display towel but it is for decorative purposes only and is displayed on a shelf folded neatly under a ceramic duck

I understand about display towels. In the utter chaos that is our home it's one of the few things I can control.

And mine walks very very slowly around upstairs shaving and I can SEE the beard dust floating in a miasma behind him as he drifts.

I hope you left several chips and a light sprinkling of salt on the dashboard plus an artistic splash of milk on the driving seat.

Display towels & then flouncing when people laughed about them. Ok. You do you.

Good lord get a life. If stuff like that winds you up or stresses you out then good luck to your DP. Reminds me of my incessantly OCD mother who would freak and lose her mind over a crumb or spec of dust. There’s more to life!!!

I understand your frustration. My DH does not do half the housework but is very good at cleaning the hob 😂 I don’t mind doing the lions share it works in our house. However yesterday I washed the kitchen (hall/dining/study/utility/cloakroom) floor to within an inch of its life ….. looked beautiful. My grandson came round, across the floor and a dining chair (I shit you not), the bin leaked bin juice all through the kitchen and hall and then the dog threw up. I wish I hadn’t bothered.

I don't have OCD and I'm probably one of the laziest messiest people going - but yes I'd be annoyed if I'd just finished cleaning and tidying only for everything to be messed up within minutes.

Hair and spit are gross.

Washing towels after one use is a disgrace. People need to get a grip.

Hyacinth Bucket would definitely have display towels.

You have a bedroom carpet that can be messed up by being walked on in SOCKS?

You lost me at display towels. Ridiculous.

This reminds me of somebody I know who has an ancient bottle of molton brown hand wash and she just tops it up with supermarket hand wash regularly. It is so ridiculous.

Why do people do this stuff?!

Honestly: you both are!

Leaving shaving scum is just revolting and fully deserving if your wrath; the rest is a bit OTT.

Having said that, it's nice to enjoy a freshly cleaned and tidied house for more then five minutes.

Is violence or joking about violence 'fun'?

I do empathise with you OP. It takes them five minutes to destroy a morning's work. My husband clips his beard, ear hairs and nose hairs over an open drawer. He keeps the magnifying mirror and scissors in a filing cabinet drawer. Puts the mirror on top of the cabinet and doesn't close the drawer while he snips away. Cabinet in his office and his paperwork.

Display towels

oh christ! You sound like Hyacinth Bucket

use the towel rail
for your actual towels. Get some nice
ones that look nice in display but functional too

Ha. I knew a woman who used to get annoyed at her husband for walking on the carpet as he messed up the straight lines she hoovered into it. He said ‘well unless you get some ropes hanging from the ceiling so I can swing across the room I’m going to have to walk on the carpet’

This is my life. I so get where your coming from. I even know about the black sock bits that come off. If I'm knackered, still do all the cleaning and tidying myself, then he comes in (after being busy relaxing doing something he wants) and messes it right back up....I feel u sista😠 feels so selfish and uncaring.

Now I've decided to look after myself, do stuff that I want to do and be less of a martyr. So I'm making sure I do things that I want to do. Take time to see my friends, not work all the time so I'm not tired and run down. Then things become less irritating.

I personally think people clean and tidy too much, if the threads on here are accurate and true.. and then feel resentful and knackered when inevitably the other people in the house dont see the need to clean and tidy as much or in the same way and the house gets messed up because people live in it

Imagine applying that to any other thing thats just been cleaned, your clothing or your body.

Im not moving or eating or urinating or having a bowel movement for 24 hours as Ive just had a nice bath.

Pretty much sounds like my daily life to be honest 😂

The main thing I see on threads like this is the imbalance at home. The woman doing the cleaning and the man being a lazy shit and not appreciating the work. Unless these dynamics get addressed, petty resentments about display towels and sock fluff rise to the surface.