Husband ill, but messing up house

[Mumof118]

Husband is poorly. A bad cold. Temperature. Sinuses all stuffed up. Headache etc. I leave him on the sofa and clean the house without him today, letting him rest.

I finish cleaning and he decided to get showered and dressed. Decides to shave in the freshly cleaned bathroom getting hairs everywhere. Doesn’t since the soap suds off the bath screen so the bubbles are drying to the glass.

Comes upstairs, sits on the bed to put his socks on. Doesn’t straighten up the bed and then walks across the carpet leaving tiny black bits of old sock.

Goes into en-suite and brushes his teeth, getting toothpaste spit droplets all over the mirror and shower door. Leave wet towel hanging over my display white towels.

Now I feel really angry. Took me ages on my day off to do all of the cleaning by myself. I work full time so value the weekends and am pissed off that I’m now cleaning up after him.

DH says - the house is to be lives in. Then tries to hug me.

Who’s being unreasonable?

Aww, OP, your display towels have made my day, especially the way you casually dropped them into the post, as though it’s a thing every bathroom would obviously have, like bog roll 😂

Takes me back to the good old days of the Stunt Pineapple thread …

YABVU.

Yes, he should have made sure he swilled the sink after shaving, but the rest is completely bonkers.
He is right. A house is for living in.

As for "display towels" - I mean - you are making that bit up, surely ?

Funny. I momentarily wished I could save this idea up and use it at a later date against my teen, who is the ultimate slob - but then I remembered that she is blind and so will never own a car.

ah the mirror in the bathroom!!! i refuse to hang mirror in the bathrooms for that very reason!!! cannot stand dirty mirrors!! even guests complain but i dont care! my house, my rules! hubby has learned to shave without a mirror! get him a pair of slippers and demand that he used them in the house, no need for socks then! next time he is ill, he should be forced to stay in bed!

Get a cleaner if you can afford it. Housework is a constant battle against entropy . As a fellow nearly OCD, living with some else making a mess of newly cleaned or even fairly clean house built resentment , or arguments. My ex was good at doing his hare but his share was always the easy bits and not disgusting bits - like he’d clean floors but not clean the loo first 🙄🤢.
housework is the most soul destroyed by occupation in life, there is never ever any end, and you literally have an hour before entropy starts to destroy your work agian
The only other alternative I’m afraid, is divorce 🙄🤷🏼‍♀️. I’m on my own now after divorce and kids flown the nest. I do a major clean once per month, and then just clear up after myself as I go …it makes me so happy to have a tidy clean house and only clean up after me 😉🤣

Sticking my head above the parapet to admit that I also have ‘display’ towels. 😬 In my defence, they’re the only towels in the bathroom that aren’t wrecked by make-up, pink hair dye, hair bleach, whitening toothpaste, etc (teen) or slime ingredients (seven-year-old).

Do you always use exclamation marks as punctuation? You sound like an over excited terrier.

Those are just minor normal everyday things that he has done as a result of simply living. Even if he wasn't poorly, it wouldn't be unreasonable for him to make that amount of mess. However, if you are the only one who does the cleaning and household chores when he is well, that would be annoying. For now though just cut the poor guy some slack.

Couldn't live in a house where I can't use the bathroom for a few hours because it has been cleaned, and towels that you can never use!

There’s three of us now 😂 safety in numbers!

Me too 🙄
Wtf they are for beats me! Who on earth do you expect to come and admire them?
Don’t you have useable towels in your bathroom?

Is it not his home too ?

Does he not have the right to be comfortable in his own home ?

Panicking now that I might have inadvertently used display towels when visiting friends and I have used their toilet (or maybe guests are banned from homes that have display towels)

😂

If I ever encountered stunt towels I'd make a point of using them, and leave them draped untidily over the bath...
That sort of anal nonsense is unhealthy.

Display towels????? Wow!

I lodged with a woman who wouldn’t allow me to sit on the sofa the day the cleaner had been and plumped the cushions. I assumed she was joking, but no - we sat on the floor, in front of the sofa. until the following day!
I didn’t stay there long……..

As long as you didn’t use their loo/s for number twos, you’re good.

I want lemon coloured towels now.

Oh, the lemon coloured towels are superior. White was DH’s idea as he likes a more minimal look. But I am super jealous of my mum’s big fluffy lemon ones.

This is the type of presentation I like in the bathroom. If those white towels were used, the bathroom would look empty, cold and messy. But with the towels always in place, it’s like walking into a hotel room each time. Lovely. DS and I use towels one time only really, so straight from airing cupboard to wash basket. DH likes to save his, so has a hook on the bathroom door. For hand drying, there is a small towel available of course.

YABU, HOWEVER, you've mentioned that you have OCD, so the reason you're so pissed off about it is probably because there's been a change in routine/feeling overwhelmed about having to do all of the cleaning which has then been undone almost instantly.

Display towels is a hilarious concept.

I would be irritated. I actually find this disrespectful and unattractive. He's not respecting your time and effort to clean. He's also behaving like a child unable to pick up and clean after himself. It gives me the ick.

Honestly, my husband leaves his hair in the sink. He puts his dish in the sink next to the dishwasher. He leaves his clothes on the floor. He leaves dirty cups around. He uses the toilet roll and will leave the finished roll on top of the toilet rather than put it in the bathroom bin. It really passes me off. I'm his wife (for now) not his maid or mum.

Good grief 😵‍💫
I presume that the rest of the house is immaculately presented and you live elsewhere?
Honestly to me it smacks of pretentious bunkum. It must be so uncomfortable to live like this, I can only assure that you never have guests?
It reminds me of someone I knew years ago whose kitchen had absolutely nothing on the work surface (I never went beyond the kitchen so no idea what the rest of the house was like)

@JenniferJupiterVenusandMars
DH is also very tidy having been brought up in a chaotic environment full of pets and the house was never clean to point he was embarrassed by it.
DS’s bedroom is hit or miss. He can be very neat or a complete pig. It depends. Sometimes I have no option but to just close the door on his room.

Towels aside, which we live around and wash every few weeks or so to keep them bright. (They aren’t in the way). I don’t mind a bit of mess. The carpets can get a little bitty. The cushions can be un-puffed and a bit of dust can and does gather. Crumbs form around the toaster and the taps lose their shine. I do have OCD but it’s generally under control. BUT, just after I have cleaned? 😫 I just want an hour or two to look around the house and think that this feels lovely. I worked my socks off to get it nice at the start of the weekend and just a bit of time to enjoy it is all I ask. And I’d know my DH and DS appreciated my efforts if they too looked after it for a short time.

Then I’ll back off until next week.