To have told DH to get the fuck off me?

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It’s not like me but Saturday mornings are a massive stress as swimming is early and we’re always late which pisses me off as it’s really expensive and I feel it makes us look bad.

So this morning is the usual chaos despite me being up since 6 and it looked like we might make it on time - I asked DH to pass me something and he kicked it towards me (an item of clothing) and then started giggling at my face. He then came over and started cuddling me and trying to kiss me and I hissed to get the fuck off me.

I know it was an overreaction but he does wind me up so much when we’re rushing.

Oh good grief! 😂

DH would pour himself some cereal
DD2 would eventually nap but might be a couple of tricky Saturdays before then

and park can come after lunch

Now? Mumsnetting?

You've just literally created a post demonstrating exactly how it isn't working.

You've got advice from experienced parents so that you don't need to reinvent the wheel.

Sounds like the definition of insanity - keeping doing the same things but expecting a different outcome.

Because the swimming is making you so stressed out you're telling your DH to fuck off for kissing you.

I mean you have a baby so your eldest can't be very old. Pre school? They don't actually need expensive swimming lessons at that age.

I don't understand why anyone would do something that causes so much stress. Would you not all be happier with a leisurely breakfast, swim together followed by trip to the park together

Yes this is very chill, looking for support from a group of women who clutch petals at the word ‘fuck’…

Saturday mornings are a massive stress as swimming

does it sound like it’s working regularly?

Ffs she doesn't want to cancel the swimming lessons!

It sounds like a nice/fun activity/use of time...but they just need to get there unharried.

Bloomin heck, no one is forcing her. Hide the thread, make yourself a cup of tea and kick back op

Does OP need or want your opinions? Is there something wrong with you that you don't comprehend that someone doesn't want to do what you're telling them?

@Crunchymum - I will admit to being puzzled by the insistence DD2 stays at home. She’s quite fussy for me as well but she does settle well in the car. So since we’re making a car journey anyway, it seems sensible to let her nap then. But sense and this thread don’t really seem synonymous.

@Afteropening i think after this it’s best we stop replying to one another. But I have had a long night preceded by a long week. Being told I’m some sort of brainless idiot for going swimming - and before you say so I know no one used those words but I think it’s fair to say that I’ve been given a very hard time over it - is hurtful and upsetting and I’m pointing that out.

It only works because OP is rushing around like a blue-arsed fly trying to facilitate it all.

But she doesn't have to do it. She wants to. Arranging swimming lessons for a pre schooler every Saturday stupid early is hellish and maybe DH faffs around as he doesn't want to fucking do it.

I wouldn't.

And she doesn't want to change that, which is fine. It's HER life. The routine was not the question.

It clearly doesn't work though, does it? Because you're rushing around like a blue-arsed fly getting everyone out of the door on time and getting so stressed you tell your husband to fuck off.

If you need to take the baby with you to feed then that's a pretty important detail to leave out of your OP, IMO.

Good grief. Relax. You said it’s working. I’m pointing out that what the op says would indicate otherwise. You then have a tizz!

Then she can carry on being resentful and telling her husband to fuck off then, I guess.

I agree that if she wants to do it, it's her choice, but why choose to do something that makes you so miserable? It makes no sense.

You don't need to understand. Her decisions have no impact on you.

I never said they did

It's a discussion forum - people are allowed to, y'know, discuss things.

Did he apologise for not helping?

Change the time of the swimming

getting up at 6am on a Saturday?! Nah, fuck that

🤣🤣🤣

People on this thread are being absolute dicks.

Sounds like OP actually quite enjoys the Saturday mornings but what she finds stressful is her DH acting like a knob and stopping her from leaving the house on time.

OP wants to enjoy a bit of one to one time with her DD1 by taking her to a swimming lesson. (No three year olds can swim but I remember doing swimming lessons with my two when they were the same age and I have lovely memories of it.)

In order for her to do this, she needs her DH to parent his own baby for the time it takes for her to do the swimming lesson (assuming she can even get there on time without him sabotaging it).

All he needs to do is muck in and help get the kids ready so they can all leave on time.

Instead he tits about while watching her do it all; kicks stuff around the bedroom while giggling and trying to grab her and kiss her.

He sounds like another toddler. It's fucking annoying behaviour and I would have snapped at him too.

@Pizzalover46 you are coming across a touch… well, I don’t have the word for it.

but it is a chat forum. We can you know… chew the fat, discuss and chat. You don’t need to get so upset about it

@Pizzalover46

it doesn’t sound fine though, op is being a bit of a martyr

This is not unusual