I have read all your replies @Probablynotright, but not any nonsensical/sensible comments by other posters.
I actually think I might have the answer (tl;dr scroll past the next 2 paragraphs!)
So pretty much, you get up on Saturday mornings, probably really early, since you have 2 DC under 3, whilst DH sleeps well at night, gets up relaxed, sorts himself out, puts his make up on and tarts himself up, despite not being allowed to sleep until 10/11/12/1 or whatever ridiculous lie in time that people have in their minds, that is suitable for poor old DH, who’s misunderstood, miserable and much maligned!
Meanwhile, back at the ranch, you’ve organised yourself, 2 (young) children and whatever gear you need for swimming and the park and you have the absolute temerity and audacity, in the middle of running about like a headless chicken, probably on little sleep and running on fumes, to tell DH to F off, because let’s face it, he’s not really part of the solution is he? Yes, it’s nice to be mauled and have kisses and hugs forced upon you when you’re really busy. I mean, WTH OP!!! How dare you expect your poor nagged, henpecked and abused husband to help you with the kids? I mean, it’s not like they’re half his, is it? It’s not like he actually had a hand in making them, is it? I can imagine the scene now: DH, snoring away, dreaming dreams of fluffy clouds and angels. Enter stage right: the wicked, abusive, nagging OP. Not content with allowing DH to sleep in this peaceful slumber, she handcuffs/ties him to the bed, tickles his prostate to help her evil machinations, has her wicked way with him, whilst he’s screaming around the ball gag that she inserted into his mouth to actually prevent screaming, and gets herself pregnant. Twice! I mean, yep, I reckon I’ve got a good handle on this Saturday morning and marriage situation!
IN REALITY it’s pretty much paragraph 1 and the first 5 sentences of paragraph 2 above, followed by: you giving DH a sharp setdown (F off) because you’re, well, busy. DH is actually a fully grown adult and can see that you’re busy. But he can’t help because…reasons (too busy getting ready, mauling his wife, etc., (okay, maybe mauling is a bit too harsh, but yeah, he needs to learn when it’s appropriate and when it’s not)). You enjoy swimming with DD1 because, oh! you’re a good mum. You like having one on one time, swimming is actually a really important skill which could save DD’s life one day, getting out in to the fresh air, regardless of weather is also important, DH enjoys clogging his arteries with McD’s once a week and DD2 enjoys napping. Structure and routine is important for children, regardless of age.
You are doing everything right! Seems to me it’s a win/win situation! Yes, getting ready is probably stressful, you’re on a timer. But getting kids ready for school single handedly is stressful; are we then supposed to stop sending our kids to school? Or getting them ready for the nursery/childminder to get to work on time is stressful - maybe it’s better to live on/under the poverty line so that you can mitigate this stress. After all, who needs money, right?
So please OP, continue as you have been doing, but maybe speak to DH about choosing appropriate times for affection. Perhaps he thinks a kiss and cuddle will make you less stressed but doesn’t realise, that when you’re really busy, this isn’t the time, and actually, what will make you less stressed, is help from him. And not just on Saturday mornings. Peeling potatoes whilst you cook, reading to DD1 whilst you see to DD2, these are ways to help mitigate stress. Not actively stopping/preventing you from doing the things that need doing, but actually being a partner and helping you, with the children that you share. (Unless it all went down as per the second part of paragraph 2, in which case, please start another thread, as this needs a deeper dive into what is/isn’t appropriate 😉)