To shout "GO!" to your wife at roundabouts?

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Okay so maybe this isn't exactly earth shattering in importance but interested to get opinions!

DH is a very confident driver. He does a lot of miles with work, he loves driving, he is really top notch in that department, I don't deny.

I am what I would call a safe driver, and what he calls slow. And whilst being very competent behind the wheel is one of his strengths, being patient in the passenger seat isn't.

Recently this has resulted in him, when I pull up to a roundabout, shouting to me "GO! GO!"

This has two effects. One, my brain goes "aaah go stop go stop what am I doing!!!" and second, I get an overwhelming urge to rip off the steering wheel and hit him over the head with it.

Now, he says - well, if there is a space you need to go, so just listen to me!! And hurry up!?

I say - ahhhh shut up you bossy bossy boots!!

AIBU in my reaction?

I’m finding this thread hilarious and maddening in equal parts.

Also, isn’t it interesting? I think this behaviour tells us something about how used men are to feeling in control, how uncomfortable it is to take a back seat role, and maybe even why so many leadership roles and high powered professions continue to be dominated by men.

It's certainly making me glad I've never had a male passenger except my driving instructor (who was great) or examiner for my test! I also shudder to think what driving my tosser BiL would have been like.

Dithery drivers, and over-cautious drivers are actually quite irritating. Stopping at every roundabout or being flashed for driving at 40 in the second lane, as @Fieldofbrokenpromises describes is actually very poor driving.

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I laughed so much when I read your message. My husband and I are exactly the same and I cannot bear his backseat driving. I now refuse to drive with him the car. It makes me a worse driver. Embarrassingly, my sister and BiL witnessed this and told me that I clearly became a less confident driver when he intervened. You must insist that he stops. If he continues, stop the car and make him get out and walk home!

I'm very interested in your use of 'safe driver'.....I get the feeling you actually mean overly hesitant. I failed my driving test for being too hesitant, and that's something they've become even hotter with since.

These days I'm more likely to be the driver of the car behind you also shouting "GO!" if you're taking ridiculously long to turn out! Obviously you may not be.

Hesitancy on the road can be dangerous too. My Mum is a nervous driver who just sees herself as 'safe' but I now refuse to travel with her as the whole journey is just an accent waiting to happen. If you feel your confidence as a driver isn't as good as it could be then perhaps book some post-pass driving lessons.

The big question is whether you're a nervous driver, or whether you're only nervous because of him.

He’s going to cause you to have an accident if he doesn’t stop

The big question is whether you're a nervous driver, or whether you're only nervous because of him

Either way, Mr Arrogant Dickwad Passenger is only going to make matters worse.