To not cancel our wedding because DS has COVID

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Hi all. 1 year old son has had a bit of a cough for about a week. He's a bit tired but otherwise well. No fever, happily playing etc. Went to the GP today just in case it was another chest infection (he's already had several). Turns out he has COVID.

Here's the kicker... Me and DSs dad are due to get married on Thursday and DS is obviously attending 😅 We've taken tests and so far they are negative. My colleague is saying I'm being selfish by not cancelling the wedding. Me and my partner have decided to go ahead with it, but of course will be telling all guests that DS has COVID and letting them make their own decision about attending.

YANBU - no you shouldn't cancel
YABU - You should cancel

No, carry on regardless. You've told your guests and they can make their own choices. We now have to live with COVID.

As long as all guests and everyone in attendance is (staff at registry office and reception) are informed then I would go ahead with it

There’s a high chance there will be at least one other person at the wedding with covid who doesn’t realise it!

Let people make an informed decision.
Vulnerable people are going to be in attendance.
Don't cancel but don't hide the fact you DS has covid.

All those asking why people still test.... some of us have close family who are going through chemotherapy. My dad in law catches covid right now and he'd likely die.

It isn't pointless to test if someone vulnerable will be attending. I at least if they know then they can protect themselves

I'm guessing you haven't had Covid with a comment like that

I would absolutely warn people and leave it up to them. I wouldn't attend if your child had covid, as I was very ill when I had it and want to avoid it wherever possible

^this. If I get covid I have to get anti virals because of a condition I have which makes me “clinically extremely vulnerable” despite now having had six covid jabs!

Try telling that to the 240,000 people in the UK with some form of blood cancer. It's a killer for them. Not to mention people with other forms of cancer undergoing treatment so no immune system

Don't cancel, covid is just part of life like any other bug. Enjoy your wedding xx

I wouldn’t cancel unless someone was simultaneously essential, vulnerable, and unable to be vaccinated.

Actually I've never had a cold do that to me, but I have had Covid make me very ill. Twice.

Surely that's even more reason to inform and let people make their own decision. You never actually know what's going on in people's private lives, no matter how close you are.

He could easily be negative by Thursday. Don’t cancel, tell people so they can decide how to handle. For instance the grandparents may want to avoid hugs / close contact if your LO is still positive. I’m cautious with covid due underlying medical conditions but now I have to accept that anyone anywhere might have it. Good Luck!

Terrible timing . I think you should go ahead, but I personally would let guests know and keep my distance from elderly/vulnerable relatives where possible (difficult at a wedding!)

You absolutely should let your guests know and make their own choice, especially as you might now get it , but it is too extreme to cancel since lots of people will be going around in public places with covid anyway.

Yes I agree.

As for those saying Covid is just like a cold nowadays- bloody hell I despair! My father died of Covid last year. He was fit and well until he had a small heart attack and had to go into hospital. While there he caught covid. The doctors said he should have recovered from the heart attack but with Covid putting such a strain on it he couldn’t recover. Covid is still a big deal for some people and if you’re knowingly inviting people to a gathering and you know some may be more susceptible you should definitely let them know and make their own informed decisions.

I'm at home very poorly with covid. Not everyone gets very poorly but some people still do. That doesn't mean everyone should stop but you need to make people aware so they can make their own decision.
I don't know where I caught it. It could have been at work or at a concert last week or even at the supermarket.
I will have had it at the bonfire display but didn't know yet.
To be honest some of your guests may have it and not even know then pass it on.
If your son has had sniffles for about a week then it is possible that he won't even be infectious by Thursday.
I hope you don't feel unwell in the run up and can enjoy your day. Congratulations in advance.

Covid isn’t ‘just like a cold’
It is more like flu tbh.

I agree you should go ahead ensuring everyone knows. I would still come!

Congratulations

Well unless you're immunosuppressed or high risk. I wouldn't cancel but I would definitely notify everyone if he is still positive

One of my coworkers (healthy guy in his 40s) was just hospitalized with it. On the mend now thankfully.

Cancelling is entirely at your discretion but I do think it’s only fair to tell your guests.

Let people know, but also when his symptoms started - he will be less contagious a week on.

Enjoy your wedding OP. Congratulations

Ace56 · Today 13:29

No I wouldn’t cancel. Tbh I probably wouldn’t even tell the guests that your baby is positive…Covid is basically just a cold now.

Not to my husband, it isn't It's still life threatening to a lot of people..

“I wouldn't cancel, but I would let everyone know so that they can make their own decision whether to attend or not.

To those saying Covid is just a cold.... it really isn't for some people. I've had it recently and it knocked me for six for more than a week, it was definitely more like proper flu. I couldn't get out of bed for 2 days, veered between temperature and shivering and every single bit of me ached!!”

This. I don’t know anyone who has died of a cold or is still suffering from chronic fatigue years after having a cold. It may happen but I think it’s pretty rare. I do know people who have died of COVID or are continuing to suffer chronic fatigue years after first contracting COVID.

Back in spring 2021, I gave my very elderly parents-in-law COVID before I realised I had it. They’re fine now but it made for an uncomfortable and worrying few weeks. Let people know and they can then decide whether to attend.

Your son has had it for a week, so will be absolutely fine to attend.

The issue is you guys getting it.

I would try and avoid as many people until then as I could and stock up on plenty of paracetamol etc just in case.

Hopefully if you do get it you won’t be too bad with it but it’s obviously not ideal.
I would then let the guests know just in case any are vulnerable but I definitely wouldn’t cancel it.

I hope you neither of you catch it before the wedding! 💐

Make sure your guests know and they can make their decision then based on their own risk and judgement