To not cancel our wedding because DS has COVID

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Hi all. 1 year old son has had a bit of a cough for about a week. He's a bit tired but otherwise well. No fever, happily playing etc. Went to the GP today just in case it was another chest infection (he's already had several). Turns out he has COVID.

Here's the kicker... Me and DSs dad are due to get married on Thursday and DS is obviously attending 😅 We've taken tests and so far they are negative. My colleague is saying I'm being selfish by not cancelling the wedding. Me and my partner have decided to go ahead with it, but of course will be telling all guests that DS has COVID and letting them make their own decision about attending.

YANBU - no you shouldn't cancel
YABU - You should cancel

@Flipdiddle

I think you have completed misunderstood the OP

Wouldn't cancel but would find alternative care for DS. Bit shit if he's spreading Covid. A 1 year old doesn't understand infection control. I wouldn't attend. Have 3 colleagues off with it and they are really ill.

Don’t cancel.

Still bring son to wedding.

Tell guests he was covid positive but it’s been a week so likely not contagious.

Let them make their own decision, some people may have a compromised immune system or personal reasons why they do not wish to risk it.

Voila!

p.s Congrats 💐

Yes, if a baby with a history of chest infections presents with symptoms which could be a chest infection or could be something else e.g. Covid then I fully expect a GP to check it.

None of which was what the OP asked about. But as a subsequent posted said, it does rather sound like you've spectacularly misread the OP and are now trying to deflect with irrelevant nonsense. Own it.

Your wedding - if you want to go ahead then go ahead. Though I hope you don’t catch it as that could affect your decision!

But do let everyone know. That includes anyone you’ll come into contact with - caterers, registrar doing the service etc.

Im classed as extremely vulnerable (no, despite previous post it’s not just a cold for some of us). I’d personally pull out if I was a guest and it’s only fair to allow anyone you might infect the option to do so.

That was in reply to @Flipdiddle 's question to me.

Obviously don't cancel! I'm not even sure why you bothered testing, and there's no need to tell anyone. There is no requirement to test, and it's completely pointless, so just forget all this nonsense and have a lovely wedding day.

Shite situation for you. I'd certainly let people know to give them the choice to come. The ones who don't give a shit like seemingly 99% of MN, they will come. The vulnerable people who would rather not intentionally expose themselves will have a choice. It's all you can do given that it's each to their own on how risky they feel covid is for them. I wouldn't cancel though, it's a huge thing to cancel because of one case of covid.

Don't cancel but do inform people so they have a choice

You need to test on the day and if you or your fiancé are positive, you MUST tell your guests and the Registrar too.

I’d be livid if I discovered I was attending an event where someone attended knowing they were infectious. It’s not a bloody cold!

I probably wouldn't even bother telling guests, he will more than likely be over it or at least not contagious.

If he's had a cough for a week I'd say he's no longer contagious. I'd maybe say to the people that are vulnerable that DS had covid although he still has a cough but he's testing negative. Hope you have the most amazing day xx

I'd leave the baby with a babysitter. He won't know what's going on anyway.

Absolutely tell your guests do they can make an informed decision about whether to attend. As someone who is immunosuppressed I’d appreciate the heads up, politely decline and send you a wedding gift.

It still isn’t “like a cold” for vulnerable people. I’ve had it again recently and it was 2 weeks of sheer awfulness then 2 weeks of recovery. Better than when I caught it pre-jab but still not a cold.

Really?
Is it too far a stretch to think that people might be testing in order to protect vulnerable people?

Because the Tory government in its various forms has shown such wisdom and sense in the way they handled Covid up till now that we should believe them when they don't bother to regulate the spread of what is potentially still a lethal disease with long-term appalling consequences for some unfortunate people. Yeah, right.

Yes, this.

That is a very tricky situation OP and I’m glad you’ve warned the guests. Please be aware that you and DH are probably contagious and don’t hug and kiss your guests, maybe just smile and wave instead.

I don’t know what I’d do in your situation, but there is no way I’d put my child with covid in the same room as my elderly parents, or an asthmatic friend. Probably I’d go ahead with the booked event but encourage the older / vulnerable guests to cancel and promise celebrate with them separately another time. I might however beg the venue and caterers to let me pay a small fee to postpone.

Jsut get someone to look after baby - they really wont know either way will they.

First of all I wish you a lovely wedding and a happy and successful marriage but I will qualify my best wishes with the following:

You must tell all adults attending so they can make their own decision about attending.

My mum died of covid in the first wave and was in hospital for seven weeks and we couldn’t see her at all in that time. She had a covid funeral with limited numbers, no singing, no wake. It was truly terrible and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.

You would feel terrible if someone got covid and died and you hadn’t told anyone that you had very recently been exposed to covid.

Edit: I don’t mean to put a damper on your big day but you have posted that some of your guests fall into the vulnerable category.

I would let your guest know so that they can make an informed decision.

Well yes, I would because a member of my immediate family has a grade 4 brain tumour and is undergoing extensive chemotherapy and radiotherapy.

People should know so they can make their own decision on whether to attend or not.

I wouldn't cancel. But I'd probably tell people. I guess your son doesn't have to go to the wedding, he won't remember or care. I didn't go to my parents' wedding when I was four ish as I had chicken pox and have zero memory of missing anything.