To not cancel our wedding because DS has COVID

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Hi all. 1 year old son has had a bit of a cough for about a week. He's a bit tired but otherwise well. No fever, happily playing etc. Went to the GP today just in case it was another chest infection (he's already had several). Turns out he has COVID.

Here's the kicker... Me and DSs dad are due to get married on Thursday and DS is obviously attending 😅 We've taken tests and so far they are negative. My colleague is saying I'm being selfish by not cancelling the wedding. Me and my partner have decided to go ahead with it, but of course will be telling all guests that DS has COVID and letting them make their own decision about attending.

YANBU - no you shouldn't cancel
YABU - You should cancel

My gosh we are not in 2020 like your friend is! Of course go ahead with it, there’s no rules around Covid, you can do what you want with it. Have an amazing day!!

@lemmein you asked "Out of interest, how many didn't attend due to a positive result?"

I don't have the faintest idea. I am a friend not part of the wedding party and I'm sure anyone who didn't attend in order to protect the young lad very discreetly explained so as not to cause any upset and wished the B&G best wishes another way.

As for false negatives. It's about reducing risk.

@threatmatrix

So you agree with putting something that they say ‘very unlikely ‘ to cause cancer up a baby’s nose. And yes I actually do know more than some General Practitioner's, part of my partners job. But of course what do I know. You probably have no idea ethylene oxide is do you.

You don't know much, then. EO is a steriliser and is washed off before it gets near anyone's nose. For anyone to fall ill from EO toxicity, they would almost have to bathe in it. That's the levels required - not infinitesimal amounts. Don't scare people.

Covid or cold, just keep the grotty baby away from the frail elderly unless they tell you otherwise!

covid WAS a concern, it’s now just the mild cold/flu strain that’s doing the rounds. There’s worse things about but we haven’t got tests kicking about for them quite so easily.

The wedding has happened already.

Hope it went well OP.

Not for many people.

For some they become quite unpleasantly ill for a good week or so (and not everyone can afford to keep going sick, so may be disinclined to risk catching it again)

Others may be pregnant, elderly or have underlying medical conditions, such as asthma or diabetes, which make covid riskier, some may have more serious issues (especially with their immune system) that means they are very much at risk.

People deserve to know what level of risk there is, so they can decide whether to take that risk.

So yes, they might be prepared to go into a group where infection status is unknown, but be disinclined to go where there are known positive cases.

Don't decide what level of risk to run for other people. Let them know and let everyone decide for themselves

Baby wasn't tested easily he was tested by a GP just like he would be for RSV. My kids were tested for several illnesses with repeated chest infection even pre COVID. The NHS has been using tests for years!

Up to you but your dad shouldn't go if he has asthma, or any other vulnerable relatives for that matter. If you and they are ok with that, crack on!

@helpihaveateen "just the mild cold/flu strain going around"?

Not sure what gives you such confidence but COVID remains just as much of a concern as before, if not more because people are now on infection number 3, 4, 5 or more. A mild initial infection can still give you the vascular, heart, brain damage of a serious infection, as well as increasing your risk of diabetes T2, new auto immune diseases, stroke and heart attack risk, and/or damage to multiple organs. And long COVID!

Catch it at your own risk. People deserve to know if someone is infected in their vicinity.

He hopefully won't be infectious by then, but maybe buy a test to do the night before so if he isn't no one needs to worry. If he is still infectious, ymi personally think you should let staff know, not just guests, but point out you are outside of the isolation period. Vulnerable people then may just be extra cautious.

I work in the NHS and whilst it is like a cold for many, unfortunately we still have high numbers of people admitted, so I'm not sure the 'just a cold' comment is appropriate. It's easy for people it doesn't affect to laugh it off. It is definitely the right thing to do to tell people if he is still infectious, and you both test too. You mentioned vulnerable people attending, hopefully they have all had themselves vaccinated this year to reduce their risk. There may be more vulnerable people than you realise though as they might keep it private if they are in (just an example) immunosuppression for an autoimmune disease.

So no if you feel well I wouldn't cancel, but it's definitely right to test and let both guests and staff know.

Good luck!

It was yesterday..

Not sure what gives you such confidence but COVID remains just as much of a concern as before,

well, that’s a touch hyperbolic! @AussieManque!

I know this ship has sailed and the wedding is over, but I think the discussion is important. Unfortunately the vaccines aren’t that effective, so relying on them isn’t enough. My elderly mother had Covid last year & despite multiple vaccines she was ill for a month and got pneumonia. And some elderly or immune compromised people had troubling side effects from the vaccines themselves - so perhaps only had 3/5 or wherever we are now.

I have an AI and I’ve had 9 months of Long Covid that has affected my work and entire life. If OP was a friend of mine and I had caught Covid from her wedding because she was too irresponsible to park her son somewhere - that would be the end of the friendship.

Absolute rubbish!!

so perhaps only had 3/5 or wherever we are now.

If you are critically vulnerable, you will have been offered 8 vaccines by now, but of course if that vulnerability is immune system compromise, you might not have formed any response at all

(The 8 jabs are 2x primary course, 3rd primary, 1st booster, 2nd booster, autumn booster 2022, spring jab 2023 and autumn booster around now)

Covid = a cold

Long covid = bullshit

Any other covid shite = covidbollocks

Honestly, some of you would complain about anything and try to skive off.

Get a grip and carry on because we cannot let you lot screw up the country again.

Of all the shit takes I’ve read….

To think, people this stupid walk among us.

@Whiteday @Alltheyearround
Perhaps you would like to back up your statement with some scientific papers that say COVID is "mild" or "just like a cold"? Because there aren't any. However I can show you thousands of papers about the negative consequences of COVID infection.

Believe the science, not what the media narrative tells you, however much you'd like it to be "just a cold" it's a serious, worrying disease that you really should avoid catching.

https://www.zotero.org/groups/5006109/covidstudies/library in this library you will find thousands of peer reviewed research papers about all of COVID's effects on the body. See the screenshot for some of the topics covered. can see it can affect everything from your eyes to your kidneys, pregnancy and reproductive health, as well as cause neurological symptoms.

@Alltheyearround apologies wrong tag, it was meant for @Afteropening

@AussieManque

Where have I said or even remotely inferred Covid is “mild” and “just a cold”

you have demonstrated that you aren’t careful in your reading it instead just jump to dramatic conclusions

interesting

@Afteropening you said I was being "hyperbolic". I was presenting the facts of COVID. No hyperbole involved.

Your hyperbole was regarding your comment COVID remains just as much of a concern as before

surely, surely, you can see that it does not remain as much of a concern before? Why do you think we’re allowed to visit vulnerable relatives in care homes and hospitals without masks or being tested?

You said I said

Perhaps you would like to back up your statement with some scientific papers that say COVID is "mild" or "just like a cold"?

plainly, I did not.

Again, more inaccuracies

i did not say “you were being hyperbolic by presenting the facts.”

I very specifically said
Not sure what gives you such confidence but COVID remains just as much of a concern as before,

well, that’s a touch hyperbolic! @AussieManque!

you are very scatty with your reading, understanding and then misquoting

@AussieManque i just had a look at your posting history.

over 200 posts

of which the overwhelming majority are about Covid and the remaining are often being other illnesses and being infectious

in all seriousness, do you think you may have a health anxiety?