To not cancel our wedding because DS has COVID

[CheeseCrackers45]

Hi all. 1 year old son has had a bit of a cough for about a week. He's a bit tired but otherwise well. No fever, happily playing etc. Went to the GP today just in case it was another chest infection (he's already had several). Turns out he has COVID.

Here's the kicker... Me and DSs dad are due to get married on Thursday and DS is obviously attending 😅 We've taken tests and so far they are negative. My colleague is saying I'm being selfish by not cancelling the wedding. Me and my partner have decided to go ahead with it, but of course will be telling all guests that DS has COVID and letting them make their own decision about attending.

YANBU - no you shouldn't cancel
YABU - You should cancel

Keep on with it.
Inform others and have guests health a priority by providing masks, limiting buffet food, having outdoor areas and open windows etc, no kissing vulnerable people and plenty of hand sanitiser.
Anyone at any time, anywhere, can come in contact with Covid so if I were a vulnerable guest I would be employing all of those safeguards for myself but I would attend the wedding of a close relative and take the risk..

They're saying they're only pushing it at 65+ but that's not true. I'm classed as CV rather than cev because our stupid country think severe asthma isn't cev. So by guidelines I shouldn't get it. But I was offered it. As was my sister and several others I know. Our area are vaccinating i'in late 21 guidelines unreality. Didn't ask for it. Offered. I think they're trying to keep it quiet for some reason. Costs? Avoid panic?

If someone is self employed, four weeks can be catastrophic. I know. It got me for months and I'm self employed

Congratulations on your wedding OP. I'd go ahead and do as you have, inform your guests so they can make their own decision. It's only fair to give them the choice. You've handled this in the best way possible.

@Everanewbie

Do you think we should inform you at every event that someone was recently diagnosed with flu? RSV? In your position I'd take a bout of Omicron post vaccine over flu.

Babies tend to be passed around from person to person at events like this, and held close to the face. Covid is much more contagious than influenza or RSV.

@Everanewbie

Honestly, my viewpoint is that COVID is no more a threat to people than flu, and most, even CEV people experience COVID as a cold. If you could fly back 4 years ago, block out all those lockdowns, daily death figures, crisis actors in those ghastly government posters, you wouldn't dream of calling off a wedding or informing people that a 1 YO had the flu a week ago, with the implication that they may need to consider not going.

My suggestion about mentioning it to 1 or 2 CEV guests was a suggestion to put OPs mind at rest, not about any real obligation or benefit.

And MY viewpoint and experience as a CEV person is that, no, Covid is not like a cold. I didn't have a fun time with it at all, and a CEV friend in hospital with it was urinating blood and only just survived. By mentioning the presence of Covid to her guests, OP is allowing them to make their own risk assessments - and there is benefit to that. They will appreciate that.

If the child has had it for 3 days he would be allowed to back in an educational setting anyway. I think just let people know, and I say this because my DF has just been diagnosed with heart failure they suspect he had a silent heart attack in the summer this isn’t something that everyone knows, so you wouldn’t know his vulnerability I suspect if he was invited he would decline if he knew just because of the greater risk at the moment, and you never know what is going on in everyone’s life health wise, you’d feel awful if you put someone at greater risk. Whereas for most people it isn’t much of an issue anymore.

@CheeseCrackers45 have a fabulous day today! 💒

yes.

Hoping the bridal party are all germ free and able to enjoy the day!
Happy wedding day!!
I say this from my bed as I have covid. It is awful particularly for someone like me who is CEV. However, I still think you should go ahead with the wedding. Your little one won't be contagious by now.
Flowers for the bride!

No i would not cancel, but i would tell everyone whos invited son has covid, its polite and good manners, they may have immunocompromised family at home.

So sorry to hear from those of you who have been so ill for so long, and those who have lost friends and relatives.
Getting over Covid myself now, I don't think I have Long Covid but have still been ill for a month. I went to the GP to get checked out as my whole neck was stiff and I was worried about meningitis - I'm fine apparently, but it was interesting that he has decided to wear a mask all the time at work to protect his family. I should add that I'm not a hypochondriac, I'm over 70 but normally reasonably well, husband is vulnerable so has had all his boosters, he currently has a mild dose of Covid too.
Many people have it locally now, I think that many of us catch if from school children who have such a mild dose that they don't even know about it. I'm going to wear a face mask from now on, until I can have the booster that I'm unable to have at the moment.

Thank you thank you. A voice of reason.

Why? The baby shouldn’t have been tested in the first place. You are mixing with people with covid all the time, most people don’t test, I mean who wants to shove something up there nose which contains ethylene oxide.

The GP decided to test, taking into account the child’s history, in order to make treatment decisions which wouldn’t have been appropriate if he had Covid. Just a little fact I picked up by reading the OP’s posts.

Still, you know better.

Unfortunate as that is people have put their lives on hold for Covid for long enough. Whether you like it or not, call them selfish, irresponsible or whatever, it is what it is. If your friend was that bothered/vulnerable she could have worn an FFP3 mask. Protect her own health instead of expecting everyone else to do it for her. Sorry if that’s harsh but I’m very over the health of randomers somehow expected to be my problem.

she wasn't vulnerable, and it could be you or one of your loved ones in her position this time next month

Happy Wedding Day @CheeseCrackers45 !

💐

Hope you have a really lovely day, and thanks for considering your guests, I'm sure they appreciated the heads up.

So you agree with putting something that they say ‘very unlikely ‘ to cause cancer up a baby’s nose. And yes I actually do know more than some General Practitioner's, part of my partners job. But of course what do I know. You probably have no idea ethylene oxide is do you.

a Doctor depending on a Covid test to determine whether or not he/she prescribed antibiotics is not a good doctor.

Except there is zero evidence that COVID is just a cold and lots of evidence it isn’t.

There’s no debating with you, I hope you are free from myocarditis. I was talking about the test not covid. Even Karey Mullins says it’s not fit for purpose. More people died of pneumonia in 2017 than ever died from covid. I know you will call me out on that but it’s on the government website. Bye bye.

What’s Karey Mullins got to do with it?😂

@threatmatrix is Kerey Mullins are bestie?

Really?? Covid is just a cold now?!?!? Does that person have functioning brain cells ?

yes, Covid CAN be like a cold to some and to some a killer. You do need to be responsible to the community at large. Stay home.

ad for the OP, I’d go ahead as you’re not yet g produce but not bring your son. Also let people know so those who are trusting you not to expose them to covid, you know, that you may actually care about their health and we’ll being, can make an informed decision.