To wonder how Vernon Kay got away with it?

[JoanThursday1972]

"In 2010, Kay was forced to apologise to his wife after it was revealed in the British press that he had been sending sexually explicit text and social media messages to model Rhian Sugden every day for four months. Later on, he admitted to sending similar messages to "four or five" other women at the same time." (From Wikipedia).

I was just wondering about it as I have him on the radio working at home today.

We would all have been telling Tess to LTB on here. I actually don't think he did anything physical with any of them, but I wouldn't have stayed with him.

I remember when this came out and Vernon seemed to disappear from public view.
I guess he won over a new audience with I'm a Celebrity and the BBC obviously decided that people have short memories. Nonetheless I was quite surprised to see him walking into such a prime spot.

It doesn’t really matter whether you would have stayed with him, because it’s not your marriage.

Clearly, Tess Daly thought about it, and decided it was something they could overcome as a couple. Plenty of couples’ marriages do survive this kind of thing, or worse, so it’s not particularly shocking to me that she chose not to leave.

All relationships are different and we have no idea what theirs is like or what their dealbreakers are. It’s none of our business. I don’t think I could get past it, if that were my DP, but it’s perfectly understandable that some people might feel differently and I wouldn’t judge them for it.

It's time you got a new hobby OP. Wtf is it to do with you? When Mrs VK asks for advice, stick your oar in then. He sounds horrible as described on here so am glad I have no idea who he is, nor his wife.

Why stay? They’re both B-list so together have more star power than solo, together have more money and a nicer lifestyle than solo, even with money it might be easier to raise kids as one unit than separately, massive mortgage and lifestyle affordable together but not twice over so a split would be quite a change and quite disruptive, anything for a quiet life, perhaps he has form and that’s her deal with the devil, etc.

LTB is easy on a keyboard directed to a stranger on MN but it’s quite an undertaking in reality; perhaps she cba and now 13 years have gone by it’s long forgotten. Except by people haunting Wikipedia, apparently.

I'm not sure about that. Aside from Amanda Holden I remember Zoe Ball's cheating on Fatboy Slim being a big tabloid story at the time, but it hasn't adversely affected her career. I think once someone is an established celeb, whether male or female, a bit of extra marital jiggery pokery isn't going to end their career.

He’s a twat, that’s a given, but many people are and still keep their jobs.

If Tess has chosen to forgive for the sake of her kids, I think the rest of us should shut up about it for their sakes too. It must be horrible for them to have it raked up at intervals.

And let’s face it, we can switch him off- they all have to listen to him over the breakfast table- poor sods.

Do you think someone's career should suffer if they fuck about with other consenting adults?

That's between him and his wife though. You don't know what goes on behind closed doors and YABU to think other people should make the same decisions as you.

What do you mean? I expect most people in showbiz have cheated. Are you really surprised that someone who sent dirty messages still has a job?
He didn't do anything criminal.

50% at least, of MN posters would also be in jail if it was 😂

Iirc he admitted it quickly and Tess forgave him so things were quickly forgotten.

It's should just be private business between the couple.
Who cares about people we've never met.

Absolutely agree with this

Radio 2 is always on at the dentist too. I always wonder if they switch over when Jeremy Vine comes on.

@Bookworm1111 - first question - because I wanted to. Second question - I didn't say the Express was a reliable news source. You said anyone can put what they want on Wikipedia and I told you where they got it from.

Do you? This is not what I was asking.

It’s somehow always the woman at fault in these situations. She obviously decided it was in her best interests to forgive him and move on, it was also over a decade ago so unsure why this thread is even a thing… He messed up, he shouldn’t have been texting anyone else but it’s easier to forgive that than actual cheating imo. It doesn’t make Tess a doormat or pushover.

This is nothing to do with you. Why do any of you care? Have you nothing going on in your actual lives?

I don’t think the texts were explicit, Rhian Sugden said they were flattering and flirty. Would I throw away my marriage and have my daughters have divorced parents because of texts to a pretty girl? I don’t know, possibly not. They seem very happy and solid now and I think he’s paid the price. His career 100 percent dried up as a result of it and it’s always mentioned in any article about him so that must be mortifying for him, especially as his daughters are adults.

I’m glad they worked it out. Imagine how different their lives and daughters lives would be had they split?

I also think his Radio 2 show is pretty good.

We’re on Mumsnet.

What exactly do you think he got away with? You say you're not talking about his career so I presume that you're on about his relationship with his wife.

In which case, unless you're his wife how do you have any idea what his relationship is like now. Maybe he's still apologising daily, maybe he spent 3 years on the sofa. You have no clue and neither does anyone else here.

I don't understand why everyone is commenting on "Vernon shouldn't lose his job". I didn't suggest that he did. This happened a long time ago and I'm sure they've got over it. It just popped into my mind whilst he was on in the background this morning. I thought about how he got away with persuading his wife that what he did wasn't that bad after all.

It's not illegal to cheat on a spouse so there is no reason why anyone should lose their job for it.

it's absolutely immoral and Tess would have been justified in leaving him but she chose not to and that's her business.

Got away with it? It was 13 years ago and there are strangers posting on public internet forums about it still. I would say he definitely didn’t ‘get away with it’, he probably regrets it to his dying day.

Christ it was over ten years ago! People make mistakes.

It's a very British thing to want someone to lose their family, career, everything over a silly mistake.

He didn't work for years after that ... like someone else said it was I'm a Celeb that got him back in the limelight. And I love his radio 2 show.