DH and his fucking chilli

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DH smothers everything in chilli, even though he can’t handle spicy food himself. Everytime he makes chicken it’s smothered in chilli and ends up where neither of us can eat it. He does it every fucking time!!!

Tonight he decided to randomly make some roast potatoes as a snack 🫤 to said I didn’t want any and he got all l offended so I said if you make cheesy potatoes I’ll eat them … so that’s what he did. He’s spent over an hour and a half making these fucking things … they smelt nice, all covered in melted cheese - lovely! Except when I bit into one my mouth was suddenly on fire. Yep, he’s smothered then in chilli. We now have a full bowl of cheesy potatoes sat there that neither of us can eat. I ask why he does this and he doesn’t answer me! I think it’s so weird. It would be different if he loved spicy food but he can’t tolerate it any better than I can!

what a waste

Take the chili and throw it out?

And each time he prepares or buys food that is inedible, add it to a list you should keep on the fridge.

Food item......£
Food item......£
Etc

It might help him focus if he could see exactly how much money is being wasted.

OP this isn't normal behaviour. I know its slightly funny but you've told him time and time again don't make things too spicy / don't buy something spicy and he does it.

Is he alright?

If it was my hubs, I'd be asking if he's feeling alright / having any memory issues at the moment because to keep doing something that isn't enjoyable is bloody weird.

I’d be throwing the chilli out and telling him he’s not to buy anymore 😂

He's being weird. Its weird to be offended because someone else doesn't want to eat your snack. And its weird to keep making food no one can eat.

I have zero time for stupid fuckers! Maybe it's the menopause?

@GettingColdFeet , you win my favourite Mumsnet comment today. 😆😆😆

I’d refuse to treat my husband like a toddler. But I’d have so little patience for this.

I came back to this thread just because I can't stop thinking about cheesy chilli roast potatoes.... Does he have a specific recipe OP?

Also I think there are two things at play here, I don't think he understands that different chillis have different heat and I also think you have a very low tolerance for spice. One teaspoon of chilli powder in a pot of chilli con carne is less than I use for my 4 year old.
When I make it for adults I use a combination of fresh chillies, chilli powder and dried chilli because they give difference types of heat and flavour.
Is it that he likes the idea of spicy food but then can't stomach the reality?

Chilleave the bastard?

Is this some bizarre way of showing off , some way of trying to feel 'macho'?

How ridiculous. Throw away the chilli sauce and don't buy any more.

Yes this!!!

He knows scotch bonnets are hot - he deliberately goes looking for these specific chillies everytime he shops

This is why he does it.

OP, bin all the chilli in the house and see if he manages to screw up next time. If he finds a new way to ruin the food, you know it's intentional and can make plans to divorce him. For me, deliberately messing jobs up in the hope of not being asked again would be a dealbreaker, it's childish passive-aggressiveness.

It’s not that, I never ask him to cook, he insists

WTF?!

I have no explanation for that at all.

I'd just bin the chillis every single time you find them in the fridge

Bin . And tell him to stop being stupid bastard ?

I’d make him fucking eat it. Regardless of whether it’s hot or not, people are starving yet he’s throwing away food because he’s too damn stupid to realise he can’t eat hot chillis

Don't eat anything he cooks ever again and tell him that you're not going to. Tell him why.

Why haven't you gone apeshit at him?

If my partner had put scotch bonnet chillis in a cheesy potato dish on purpose knowing that I don't like chilli I'd have been so so so upset and mad at him.

Ltb

This, it just never stops to amaze me how many women are married with weirdos and still think they are “lovely”.

You both seem weird or insane. I don’t know how you can tolerate that, unless this is a wind up?

This whole thread is so weirdly compelling. If real, I wouldn't tolerate that at all OP, how do you stay so calm!? It's such an awful waste of food too. Utterly bizarre all round... I'm loving it.

Could you ask him to prepare the chilis separately, as a kind of fresh home-made sauce or condiment, and then serve them on the side with his meals? There are some dishes - mainly Caribbean, I think - that would need to be cooked with the chili added from the beginning, but it doesn't sound like he's making those types of dishes, more classic/basic English style food with chiles added. In that case, they could very easily be added "to taste" at the table.

If you feel like humoring him, tell him you want to experiment as these chilis are new to you, you know he thinks they're great and you want to love them but you've found that you need to start slow and build up your tolerance. You don't have to tell him that he obviously needs to do the same.

He needs to undergo hypnotherapy.

Are his parents alive? Can you discuss it with them and ask if there was any chilli related trauma in his childhood?

It's bizarre, wasteful and would really wind me up to the point I would lose all attraction for someone behaving so weirdly and stupid.

I'd be shoving them up his arse!! I don't mind a slight kick from chilli in certain things, and my favourite thing and only thing I could eat whilst Pregnant was scrambled eggs, cheese and lots of chilli flakes, but anything that's too hot and pretty much destroys your tastebuds or causes pain whilst eating it is ridiculous especially if no one can eat it. I remember my Mum doing a dish once using lazy chillis. It was extremely hot. I think they choked it down and I binned mine after one mouthful. After pretty much choking on the heat of it I asked how much she had put in. One chilli she said. Oh so about a teaspoon or 2 of the jar then? No the full jar. No wonder it was bloody hot 😅 the only time I've ever finished a far too spicy meal was after stupidly ordering a vindaloo in an Indian restaurant after someone had said it wasn't that bad. About a quarter of the way through half the restaurant staff were stood by the table pretty much howling at me, eyes and nose streaming, practically crying whilst trying to force this curry down. I only ate it cos I was pissed at wasting money on something I didn't like. I wouldn't have minded so much had I actually tasted something but my tastebuds were practically numb after a while.

Did he eat any of the potatoes today or just yourself?