To be heartbroken one DC completely blanks my other DC?

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Tinwoodswoman · 29/10/2023 18:12

I have two adult DC one has so much, ie big house on the coast, 3 kids, loving husband, plays golf etc, the other younger one, alone and hard working. Older DC treats younger DC like a stranger and with undeserved contempt most of the time. No conversation, grudging and late birthday and Christmas presents, almost as if they aren’t there. I am so sad about this. I am a young(ish) widow and am seriously considering leaving the bulk of my money to younger DC due to the mean attitude of older DC. AIBU?

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Mumof118 · 01/11/2023 18:32

evian76 · 01/11/2023 09:25

You are not being unreasonable. It sounds as if you older child is rich in many ways but impoverished in compassion and love. Focus on your younger daughter and try to help her move past wanting the love of her older sibling as she probably feels the rejection profoundly. You are clearly very aware that if you did leave anything to them and didn’t stipulate your older sibling will likely march in and control your estate possibly not leaving the younger sibling her share. Your younger DC is lucky to have a mother who recognises the injustice of you DS’s behaviour. Good luck x

There’s a lot of hypothesising going on here. How did you learn so much about the cruel nature of op’s eldest child, when she hasn’t been back to update us with further information since her 2nd post?

lizzy8230 · 01/11/2023 20:13

@Mumof118 yes, it's a complete work of fiction isn't it?!

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