Why do you allow your boys to fight/roughhouse

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DS is 7. I've recently noticed after school, at parties etc that most of the parents of his classmates smile & allow boys to be always punching at each other, wrestling.

If you let your kids fight, why do you?

We've always been absolutely zero tolerance on this sort of aggressive behaviour so DS just doesn't do it at all now - to the extent other adults have commented.

However, it seems like socially it means his peers sometimes push him around, they know he wont fight back. I find this sad. Why don't want a world full of aggressive men who jump at a fight any chance they get, so why do we allow it in little boys

Apologies for my badly written post before with all the typos.

I let my children when they were small to chase each other, run around, play cops and robbers and all of that. What I didn't allow was any pushing, shoving, and of course any punching, kicking etc.
I always interviewed when any pushing or jumping on top of each other would start even if it looks playful or they would be laughing. I was told at the time I was over the top with this. But to me, that's low violence and it was more to let them know that's not OK. Because one day someone can get hurt. And because this things stop being consensual very quickly.

If you start justifying this as "it's in their nature" one day as teens might start seing themselves as some sort of Lion King and follow Andrew Tate, who someone mentioned. He is sadly being followed by tons of teens boys. We aren't animals in a hierarchical food chain. Boys aren't predators that need to secure their survival by fighting.

I think there is a big issue with teen boys these days because they cannot figure out what they are supposed to behave, what they are aiming for. Girls have it much easier with all the girl empowerment going on. I do feel sorry for boys without actual positive role models out there.

For all the parents who say their son wouldn't do this, some must be, because of the scale of the problem in schools. It is not one or two feral children from dysfunctional families.

No that's incorrect. Totally.

Some do not have to be.

Not one child connected or parented by posters on this thread of what 100 or so ? needs to be connected with bad behaviour in schools , for the stats on bad behaviour to remain the same.

@sunglassesonthetable I'm not just saying the parents on this thread or indeed on MN, but most parents say their son wouldn't do anything, don't behave like that, believe in patriarchy but many must be, and as parents of sons we need to be aware of how endemic this behaviour is in Secondary schools and beyond. Also, it is not necessarily whether your son participates in this behaviour but their attitude to other males who do. Do they support it, ignore it or call people out on it?

Also, there have been posters on here who do believe in 'boys will be boys', or boys need to man up, mustn't be seen as wimps, all adding to toxic masculinity.

*I'm not just saying the parents on this thread or indeed on MN, but most parents say their son wouldn't do anything, don't behave like that, believe in patriarchy but many must be, and as parents of sons we need to be aware of how endemic this behaviour is in Secondary schools and beyond. Also, it is not necessarily whether your son participates in this behaviour but their attitude to other males who do. Do they support it, ignore it or call people out on it?
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Not questioning that this bad behaviour is endemic. Or that we frequently see and live around examples of toxic masculinity.
Just, does happy rough housing/ play fighting contributing to it?

Also, there have been posters on here who do believe in 'boys will be boys', or boys need to man up, mustn't be seen as wimps, all adding to toxic masculinity.

There have. No one denies these attitudes exist.