to run for the hills from this guy

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This year will be my first Christmas with DP, who I’ve been seeing for about 10 months. Everything has been going great, we get on amazing, met each other’s families, and have been on holiday together not long ago. We even talked recently about moving together in around a years time if things carry on going well. My colleagues have been saying how much happier I’ve looked this year and I know it’s all because of him.

except this past few days I have felt things might be about to crash down around me, and I honestly do not know what to do and I’m here for some advice.. I feel so upset, but don’t know if I’m overreacting,

DP and me are both huge fans of Christmas, and earlier in the week we were at his place, listening to Christmas songs (lol yes I know, in October) , talking about our favourites songs,
he was playing me a playlist he had put together.

I was horrified when the Gary Glitter song “another rock ‘n’ roll Christmas” started playing. As a child of the 80s, this one would always come on around Christmas time, but obviously very abruptly stopped when things were revealed about him.

I told DP to turn it off, and he asked why??! I said I’m not listening to any music by him, do you not realise what he did??

DP reply by saying “yes, I know, I feel very guilty saying this, but it is a good song isn’t it!! I don’t see why I should stop listening to the song!“

I literally stopped in my tracks and said to him, what do you think of what GG did? He said “well he’s disgusting, obviously, but it doesn’t change the fact it’s a good tune.”

so I have gone from feeling on top of the world and feeling like I had met the person I saw a future, to I don’t know if I can carry on being with him! All in the space of a couple days!

am I crazy to think of ending things with him over this?

Please be kind, I’m upset!

You are being very unreasonable. Perhaps it's easier for you because you don't really love the song? It can be very hard if it's something you are emotionally attached to. I bet there's some piece of art music or a film that you are attached to where the creator has done awful things.
For me it's sometimes easier than others to avoid something.. for example Michael Jackson, whilst I enjoyed the odd song I was never really too fussed so when I learned about what he did it was just a reflex action to never play his music again.
Marilyn Manson was a bit harder as I was a fan in my teens.. but ultimately I just don't want to hear any of that now, I can't stand him.
The hard one for me was Polanski. And I still do watch Rosemary's Baby and Bitter Moon etc.. I love films it's one of the huge passions of my life and some of his films mean a great deal to me. I do comfort myself by thinking well I already owned them on dvd so it's not like he's earning money off me watching them now.
But I'd be a total hypocrite if I turned around and judged anyone for still occasionally listening to a favourite song it unfortunately turned out later had been written by someone who did horrific things.

What I can't abide is when people are in complete denial. They say 'it's all lies' because they don't want to stop idolising that person.

Tumbleweed

Yeah, as a kid I always thought GG looked creepy. I liked JS on Jim'll Fix It though.

I do like RARC so long as I don't have to see GG.

Another one who used to give me the shivers was Alvin Stardust, but as far as I know nothing awful has emerged about him.

He has said what he thinks of GG and his crimes. He likes the song not the singer and I think you are overreacting,
I also think he should have picked up on your sensitivity and skipped that particular song because you were obviously disturbed by it and his playing it.

What has actually upset you?
Do you think he has paedo tendencies? Or are you annoyed he didn’t turn it off because it upset you? Or are you alarmed at his poor taste?
Obviously the last 2 are forgivable, he was being an oaf not a criminal.

Just a song.
If you're so happy, don't sabotage yourself nor your relationship

It’s a banging tune
I love it
UABU

It would be pretty mad if you broke up over a song. I've just googled it and didn't know it was one of Gary glitters songs. Unfortunately there's loads of songs and movies made by people like him, especially the ones made in the 80s.

My god. No relationship would EVERRRRRRRR work out if every tiny little difference of opinion resulted in the end of an otherwise wonderful relationship. JFC. Give your head a shake. You’ve been watching too much Sex and the City! They may throw away men for so little as coughing at the wrong moment but that’s not real life!

https://listverse.com/2017/08/28/10-groupies-that-majorly-impacted-the-history-of-rock-n-roll/

Last sentence should be up for Post of the Year! 😂😂😂😂😂

I had this conversation with my mum. I love his Rock 'n' Roll Part 2 song. When it came on my playlist one day my mum was absolutely dumbfounded and rather angry that I, as someone who was once molested as a child, would listen to his music. I find him abhorrent but I still like the song. I did some googling and as far as I can tell he doesn't own the rights to his songs and doesn't profit so I still listen to it sometimes.
I can understand how you feel but maybe you could just tell your partner that you find it upsetting and ask to not play it when you're there rather than actually end the relationship 🌸

Yabu it’s a song

That was a good read, thanks.

The Sable Starr story was so incredibly tragic. What a vulnerable child she was.

I see some names in that article that never get a mention in the underage scandals that break every so often. Some stars really do seem to get a free pass!

Lesser known names would have taken advantage too but we'll never know about most of them because they just weren't famous enough.

We got rid of all our Christmas CDs with GG on. We were both teachers and it obviously wasn't appropriate to listen to them in class.

I personally LOVED R Kellys 'I believe I can fly' but can't listen to it, or any version of it, at all, now . Channel immediately changed or song skipped.

As long as your DP acknowledges the severity/seriousness of GG crimes, and doesn't hold him in any sort of 'hero' position then I'd probably accept that but you could insist he doesn't play it when you are around, ie track is automatically skipped, no discussion needed.